Long ago I had a friend who abused and misused me.  The circumstance was simple(as is most of what happens in child- hood).   He told me he had a new best friend, crushed by the fickle state of relationships.   At first I felt devastated and alone.  I wondered what was wrong with me that he would choose another?  My pride felt destroyed and shame washed

Today an injured wife in my office stressed how she couldn’t  trust if she didn’t know the truth. Obviously a key factor to rebuilding trust is truth. As long as “the truth” is unknown the hurt spouse will be perceived as lying and undeserving of trust.

EMS WeekendWell, we just finished another EMS weekend and I never cease to be amazed. So here’s an update for those of you who follow and support what’s happening at the ARC.

How does John Edwards move forward after all that’s happened. If he and Mrs. Edwards are anything like Steph and I then they just want it to blow over so they can get on with their lives and think about something else and I hope that happens. So here are the  top five things John and Elizabeth could do in order to get their lives back.

Several weeks ago I made a post on the book, “When Good People Have Affairs”, by Mira Kirshenbaum. That one post managed to make last week crazy. Little did I know what that one blog post was going to do.

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Can an affair really SAVE a marriage'? In her new book “When Good People Have Affairs”  -  Mira Kirshenbaum  argues that while infidelity is wrong, affairs don't have to be disastrous: it's how we handle them that matters. And one of the worst things we can do is feel guilty.

Well everyone has finally gone home. It's been an amazing weekend. I never ceased to be amazed at the courage displayed by the couples attending the EMS weekend. They are living proof that marriages can move beyond betrayal.

This is my first blog entry. Being 54 has advantages and disadvantages. I know a lot about affairs, but there is still a lot for me to learn about the Web. For that reason I hope those of you associated with us will be patient. I promise I will work at being a good student.