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The Recovery Library gave me 24/7 support because I could be up at 3am and search for the topic I was struggling with. It also helped as a couple because we could investigate topics together so it wasn’t subjective. I trusted this information because it was from professionals who also had lived through and recovered from infidelity. Double credibility in my book.
--A, Florida

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Survey results for Valentine’s Day: Surviving Infidelity & Surviving Valentine’s Day : It’s Valentine’s Day and I hope your day is special.
The Valentine's Day After Syndrome and Survey Results : Ever wonder what happens to couples on the first Valentine’s Day after the discovery of an affair?
The Valentine’s Day After Syndrome : Ever wonder what happens to couples on the first Valentine’s Day after the discovery of an affair?
A Crucial Step To Surviving Infidelity: How Do I Handle Discovery? Part 1 : Why do you really want to know what happened? Why would you want to tell about your infidelity after the affair? Is it really that important for healing after an affair?
Healing After the Affair: Whether to get help? : Have you decided to make life better or are you paralyzed unable to take the next step?
Rebuilding Trust After An Affair : About 15 years ago Stephanie and I decided it would be an adventure to experience real country life.
Surviving Infidelity: What Didn’t Work For Unfaithful Spouses : This week we’re exploring “The least productive actions taken by the unfaithful spouse after the infidelity came to light?” As mentioned in last week’s article, pouring fuel on a burning fire can b
Healing After Infidelity: What Doesn't Work. : I poured diesel fuel on our bonfire Christmas Eve. That’s something I’ve taught my children to never do.
Surviving Infidelity: What Is Narcissism? : As a young man, I had no appreciation for Greek Mythology. That was my loss. As an older man, I’ve come to appreciate the lessons taught by these stories.
Surviving Infidelity: 6 Things I Wish I'd Known : This week’s article explores the question “What did you not know that you needed to know, after the affair came to light?” from the perspective of the unfaithful person.

Help for the Betrayed

Forgiving Infidelity: The Gift of Forgiveness : Long ago when I was a child, I had a friend who abused and misused me. The circumstance was simple (as is most of what happens in childhood).
20 Most Common Mistakes of the Hurt Spouse : By Leslie Hardie Copyright 2011 Published in the United States of America

Help for the Unfaithful

Pimping Tenderness : Years ago John entered my office requesting help for his dilemma: “Women are always coming on to me” he began “and my wife is really upset about it”. “What can I do”?
After An Affair - To Tell or Not to Tell : “Why should I tell?” is one of the questions most frequently asked by the betrayer after an affair, and for them, this question presents a frightening dilemma.
20 Most Common Mistakes of the Unfaithful Spouse : By Rick Reynolds, LCWS Copyright 2011 Published in the United States of America

Understanding the Affair

Why Couples Fail After An Affair, Part 3: Unfaithful Spouse Not Getting It : A few years ago I threw my back out. In my wife’s defense, this was the first time and both of us were unaware of the seriousness.
Dealing With Infidelity: How to Get Your Mate to Cooperate (Without Being Controlling) : Love will always act in the best interest of another.
The Definition of Freedom- Before and After An Affair : “None are so hopelessly enslaved as those who falsely believe they are free.”  Goethe
Telling Your Children After the Affair: Part 2 : Last week I began exploring the topic of telling your children after an affair.
Telling Your Children After the Affair: Part 1 : I well remember my oldest daughter bringing home her first boyfriend for me to meet. It was a day I had long dreaded. Was someone trying to take my little girl away?
The Problem with Forgiveness : If you’re looking for specific information on how to reconcile, you’ll need to look elsewhere. However, if you want freedom from the pain of a relationship betrayal, then you’re at the right place.
Do you know the truth? … : Do you know the truth? …
Why Couples Fail After an Affair Part 2 : Lack of Safety in the Relationship
Why Couples Fail After an Affair, Part 1 : Knowing What Happened
Six Types of Affairs : Category 1 The Low Rent RendezvousCategory 2 Lonely Hearts Club