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A Crucial Step To Surviving Infidelity: How Do I Handle Discovery? Part 1

Why do you really want to know what happened? Why would you want to tell about your infidelity after the affair? Is it really that important for healing after an affair?

Healing After the Affair: Whether to get help?

Have you decided to make life better or are you paralyzed unable to take the next step?

Rebuilding Trust After An Affair

About 15 years ago Stephanie and I decided it would be an adventure to experience real country life.

Surviving Infidelity: What Didn’t Work For Unfaithful Spouses

This week we’re exploring “The least productive actions taken by the unfaithful spouse after the infidelity came to light?” As mentioned in last week’s article, pouring fuel on a burning fire can b

Healing After Infidelity: What Doesn't Work.

I poured diesel fuel on our bonfire Christmas Eve. That’s something I’ve taught my children to never do.

Surviving Infidelity: What Is Narcissism?

As a young man, I had no appreciation for Greek Mythology. That was my loss. As an older man, I’ve come to appreciate the lessons taught by these stories.

Surviving Infidelity: 6 Things I Wish I'd Known

This week’s article explores the question “What did you not know that you needed to know, after the affair came to light?” from the perspective of the unfaithful person.

How to survive an affair – How much should I share with my spouse?

I’ll be honest, I hate puzzles, but some of my family members love them.

Surviving Infidelity: It’s How You Use the Time That Counts

I am blown away by your responses to last month’s survey. Not only that but we’re all a bit overwhelmed.

Healing After An Affair: Emotional Flooding & Reminders

Back in the mid-eighties I had a business fail. I guess that’s not unusual in the world of business, but it was new to me. In fact when I went down, I did it up right.

Does Time Heal All Wounds? Healing After An Affair

Have you ever had a torn rotator cuff? It’s embarrassing to admit, but I tore my rotator cuff playing on our Xbox 360 Kinect.

Why Couples Fail After An Affair, Part 6: Failure to Recommit

When discussing barriers to recommit I’m reminded of a folk tale about a chicken and a pig trying to decide what each should bring to a big party they’re throwing.

Pain Not Transformed is Transmitted

When my dad was six months old, my grandmother placed him too close to the fire. Life as a sharecropper in the 1920’s provided little more than the necessities.

Why Couples Fail After an Affair, Part 5: Not Grieving the Loss

I hate grief work, as anyone in our office will attest.

Healing After an Affair: How do I Address Unmanageability?

Recently I was talking with a client about the concept of “powerlessness”.

Why Couples Fail After An Affair, Part 4: Denying your Reality

Have you ever talked till you’re blue in the face trying to get someone to see his or her reality, but to no avail? I did just tonight. Sandy is an attractive 32 year old mother of two.

Dealing with Infidelity: How to Get You Mate to Cooperate (Without Being Controlling)

Love will always act in the best interest of another. It is not self-seeking; rather it is others centered. It’s been said Love is the benefit of another, at the expense of self.

Why Couples Fail After An Affair, Part 3: Unfaithful Spouse Not Getting It A few years ago I threw my back out. In my wife’s defense, this was the first time and both of us were unaware of the seriousness.
Our Very Own EMS - Tony Fetchel

You can never tell the end of a story by the beginning… Anonymous…