Free Resources These full articles will give you an example of what to expect from the full version of the Recovery Library. The rest of the categories on the left contain small previews of resources from the full Recovery Library. Must Reads more less Q&A How Can I Begin to Heal Our Relationship? Bedside Forgiveness: When Death Coincides With Infidelity The Problem with Forgiveness Recovery Timeline The Myth of the Greener Grass: Where Are You Investing? Dealing with Infidelity: How to Get You Mate to Cooperate (Without Being Controlling) How Could You? Part I: Why We Commit Betrayal With Infidelity We Started Well, but... How Could You? Part IV - Doublespeak and Distorted Comparisons Telling Your Children After the Affair Doesn’t Always Turn Out As Expected Rebuilding Trust After An Affair Untransformed Pain will be Transmitted How do you respond to blackmail? Part II How to Survive Infidelity Why Did My Spouse Cheat? The 2 Stages of Pain Ending an Affair: Lock the Door Part 1 Pimping Tenderness & Grooming Behaviors 20 Most Common Mistakes of the Hurt Spouse Free Resources Type Title Posted Hope Rising 2019: Conference for Betrayed Spouses 7/9/2019 What is Healing? 7/3/2019 Expectations of Empathy: A Betrayed Spouse’s Journey 6/26/2019 The Antidote for Shame: Understanding the Unfaithful 6/19/2019 A Betrayed Spouse’s Journey: Rewriting the Past 6/12/2019 Are They Lying About "Why?" 6/5/2019 How to Get Your Mate to Cooperate (Without Being Controlling) 5/29/2019 The Paralysis of Ambivalence: Part 2 5/22/2019 The Paralysis of Ambivalence: Part 1 5/15/2019 Social Shame: Four Ways to Stay In It 5/8/2019 Social Shame: Surviving Infidelity Isn’t Enough 5/1/2019 Social Shame: Have You Been Dishonored? 4/24/2019 Social Shame: Understanding the Paralysis of it 4/17/2019 The Power of Small Groups 4/10/2019 Rekindling Desire After An Affair 4/4/2019 Grieving Betrayal 3/27/2019 How to Prevent Relapse: Healing After an Affair 3/20/2019 Understanding Codependency and Betrayal: An Excerpt from Harboring Hope 3/13/2019 The Problem with Forgiveness 3/6/2019 How Does the Betrayed Spouse Grieve Properly? 2/27/2019 Why People Cheat? Part 3: Justifications of the Unfaithful 2/20/2019 Why Do People Cheat? Part 2: Were They Predisposed to Cheat? 2/13/2019 Why Do People Cheat? Part 1: The Fog of Self Deception 2/6/2019 Bedside Forgiveness: When Death Coincides With Infidelity 1/30/2019 Forgiveness: How Does 70 Times 7 Work? 1/23/2019 A Betrayed Spouse Chimes In - How I Recovered After My Husband's Infidelity 1/16/2019 Healing After the Affair: Whether to get help? 1/9/2019 Six Types of Affairs 1/3/2019 Why Did They Cheat? Part 4: The Problem With Addictions 12/12/2018 Why Did They Cheat? Part 3: Do They Have an Addiction? 12/5/2018 Why Did They Cheat? Part 2: Entrapped or Enchanted 11/28/2018 Why Did They Cheat? Part 1:The Role of Oxytocin 11/14/2018 Romanticism: Don't Believe the Lie 11/7/2018 Hope Rising 2018: Apology from the Unfaithful 10/31/2018 Pleasing Versus Loving 10/24/2018 How to survive an affair – How much should I share with my spouse? 10/17/2018 Wanting to Be Wanted 10/10/2018 How do you deal with anger after infidelity? 10/3/2018 How Wise Are You? 9/26/2018 What Is A Forgiveness Letter? 9/19/2018 Ending an Affair: Letting Go and Moving On 9/12/2018 Ending An Affair: Throw Away the Key 9/5/2018 Ending an Affair: Lock the Door Part 2 8/29/2018 Ending an Affair: Lock the Door Part 1 8/23/2018 Ending an Affair: Close the Door 8/15/2018 Ending an Affair - Step One: Make the Decision 8/8/2018 Limerence: Infatuation and How It Works 8/1/2018 Is it Love or Infatuation? 7/25/2018 Surviving Infidelity: 6 Things I Wish I'd Known 7/18/2018 Mickey and Stephanie's Mentor Video 7/6/2018 previous <12345