The sooner after D-Day you can become involved in Affair Recovery, the better. I completed EMS Weekend, Hope For Healing and am currently in Married for Life. I went from not being welcome in my own home to sharing a bed with my wife once again — much sooner than I expected. EMS Online helped us to communicate effectively, and Hope for Healing really helped me understand the issues I have with myself. Meeting strangers that are in the exact same situation as you is so helpful. They become your friends and confidants.