What I Learned About Forgiveness

Thanks to Paula Rinehart's book, Strong Women Soft Hearts, I learned what forgiveness was and what it wasn't.

Lynn is the author of Keep Walking, 40 Days to Hope and Freedom after Betrayal, a devotional for women dealing with the trauma and heartache of betrayal.

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Lynn,

Submitted by dprince on Wed, 10/28/2015 - 19:52

Lynn,
I love the quote you shared here. I am currently reading Paula's book but am taking it very slowly and delving into the questions at the back of the book. I am looking forward to reading the chapter on forgiveness. Sometimes I feel overwhelmed with my list of offenses that I need to forgive even in terms of forgiving myself. I look forward to the day when I no longer need that last. Thank you again for sharing.
~diana

Paula's book

Submitted by Lynn on Wed, 10/28/2015 - 20:19

Diana - I am so glad you are reading this book! It made such a difference in my life. Journalling through the questions at the end of each chapter brought so much healing to my heart. Praying for you!

Unforgivable

Submitted by Annalisa (not verified) on Wed, 10/28/2015 - 22:49

Lynn, It's been 5 months and I'm nowhere near forgiveness. I hear what you say, how liberating it can be, but I'm in so much pain, even now.
You've given me hope that forgiveness is possible, even if I can't feel it. All I feel right now is anger, pain and exhaustion.
Thank-you.

5 months

Submitted by Lynn on Thu, 10/29/2015 - 12:08

This is why I love the graduate degree analogy!!! It takes a few years to earn your Masters. Don't give up. Keep taking classes/keep putting one foot in front of the other. I remember the anger, the pain, the constant fatigue and I am praying for you!

wow!

Submitted by Lynette (not verified) on Thu, 10/29/2015 - 09:24

I was just praying on this yesterday, literally crying out to God as I feel "poked" over and over.
I was betrayed by my husband and a girlfriend a year ago. And memories keep coming and flooding,
I heard her on the radio, other friends sharing seeing her and amends she's made with them, the anger and hurt that she didn't acknowledge what she did makes me struggle with wanting to confront and the internally I hear "let it go, that won't bring peace."
Checking out the book now!!

poked

Submitted by Lynn on Thu, 10/29/2015 - 12:17

I think you will love this book. Get a new journal and take the time to work through the questions at the end of each chapter - you may have to look in the back of the book to find them. My heart hurts knowing you faced a dual betrayal, you are being poked from more than one angle. I encourage you to listen to that internal voice - it sounds like the voice of the Shepherd. Anytime I disregard that voice I end up suffering even more! Paula Rinehart also talks about taking your need for recompense to God. I hope you read the book. It is probably the most important book I've ever read.

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