If You're Doing Full Disclosure, Don't Make Any Decisions Yet

Submitted by Samuel Thu, 09/08/2016 - 08:25

Samuel shares helpful tips in today's video for how to handle disclosure of infidelity. When dealing with the disclosure process, it's vital to use this exercise form the EMS Weekend.

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Disclosure

Submitted by Kelsham on

I'm the betrayed. I have told my spouse that I don't have deal breakers in our marriage. I never planned or gave thought to divorce, even prior to his first confession. D-day was July 2015. In May of 2016, there was disclosure of a casual sex, oral sex partner before and after our wedding 25 years ago.

But now, if I want clarity, a time line at least on this most recent disclosure, I hit a wall. He's defensive, and angry. I've told him I would separate if needed, but I don't want to. I want open honest discussion, even when it's tough.

He believes if I'm willing to separate then I'm just going to divorce him in the long run. So any question I have about his first AP or the timing of it turns into an argument about me leaving him.

Disclosure

Submitted by Still in shock (not verified) on

I am living the same life. I am 18 months in and the pain is no different then D day. My husband spent the last 18 months refusing to talk about the affair. When I forced the conversation, he lied. I became obsessed trying to figure out my life. I would find new information and he would get angry with me. Because of all this I now suffer from PTSD. Triggers invade my thoughts constantly. I wake up thinking about it and end the day thinking about it. I just want to be my happy self again.

there is hope for you to heal....

Submitted by Samuel on

hi there.  i would encourage you to find help as soon as possible through something called EMDR for trauma or even ETT.  they are both wonderful vehicles to help you heal and move forward.  have you looked at harboring hope on our site as well as it's an excellent place to begin to find your own comfort and healing. 

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I would highly recommend giving this a try.
 
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