It boils down to this one word, 'safety.' Spot on, keep the truth coming Samuel.
Thank you.
Ruth

For 2 years i have been repeately saying to my UH. I do not feel safe. Thankyou so much for breaking it down so clearly. Accountability, reliability and accessibility. 3 things i do not have. No wonder there is no forward movement. Can’t wait to watch part 2.

For 2 years i have been repeately saying to my UH. I do not feel safe. Thankyou so much for breaking it down so clearly. Accountability, reliability and accessibility. 3 things i do not have. No wonder there is no forward movement. Can’t wait to watch part 2.

Hi Samuel,

I found this video very true but in my current situation it seems difficult to be able to implement this. Although, I do build in terms of accountability and responsibility in a sense that if I say I will do something, I will do it. And my time is accounted for but she's not asking about what I'm doing with my own time. I have given her the option to have access to all my accounts (email, social media, etc) as well as my phone tracker but she didn't want any of those. I want her to feel safe but we have been living separately for the last 6 weeks. So how do I build safety? There has been some more momentum in our communications/time spent but it's up and down. We'd go a few days without any communication as I do not always want to be the one reaching out smothering her with texts/calls. Hence, I do it once every 2-3 days, hoping perhaps that she will take initiative and contact me. So I'd like to ask how I can make her gradually feel more safe when there's limited contact.