Yup, hone run bud. We have been through EMSO, H4H, and HH. While that has established a supportive community, new friends, and some accountability, objectivity seems to have eluded us this far. I've felt the need for both of us to seek out an infidelity specialist counselor. Many times, objectivity coming from a spouse can be taken the wrong way. Perhaps a counselor would be more effective at getting through the defenses, helping ask the right questions, and indeed calling BS when necessary. Thanks again for providing this information to all of us on this journey. Its has been and continues to be invaluable to me and many others. Great job