appreciate the kind words and encouragement.  thank you for watching and commenting. 

i will certainly do that and speak to it.  i know it's an excruciating reality you're walking through.  i wish it wasn't so.  thank you for watching and posting  

kresta,  thanks for the comment.  a few things here that i'd say.  i wasn't going to answer, but you took the time and effort to comment so I didn't want you to feel ignored or slighted.   at the risk of oversimplifying things and just saying thank you....here are a few observations.  1. you were not the cause of your husband's affair.  he may be traumatized, vulnerable, enticed, damaged etc....and a whole host of things due to your affair.  However, he did what he did and he acted out and he chose to act out that way.  he could have acted out a lot of other ways.  but didn't, and had an affair.  it sucks.  but HE did that, just like the marriage didn't make you have an affair.  you were unhappy, and you had an affair.  the marriage or lack of needs being met etc didn't make you cheat.  he cheated of his own volition.  so i wouldn't take that upon yourself at all.  2. i would however, own your part and own that fact that you did traumatize him but that his response was his response.  3. to a certain extent, I don't follow the 'i'll never understand why he would cheat'....  did the video not help you  understand why betrayed spouses cheat?   i'm curious as to why the video did not explain sufficiently why the betrayed have affairs themselves?  thanks for commenting and watching.  

eugene, you certainly can, if the spouse is open to it.  i would get here asap and get on the list for other weekends should we have a cancellation.  we have them quite frequently.  there is a chance you could get in sooner than later and it would certainly help you to get here.   the fact is, it's devastating for sure, but you can heal and many couples have been able to overcome the std and move on in life.  it's a tough road, but a possible road.

hi there.  the only reason I haven't spoke about it is, I haven't been through it personally and don't want to oversimplify things.  i'm working on finding a couple that I can talk to about it though and help them share their story.   it's in the works. thank you for the suggestion and insight.