hi there.  thank you for reaching out.  it falls in line with what i say quite often, "you really need infidelity specific, expert help" to heal.  (TR) tony robbins is brilliant when it comes to business and maybe personal development in that arena, but in terms of healing your marriage after infidelity i'm not sure he's the best source.  he has some great stuff, sure and i've read some of it just about personal improvement etc.  but in terms of judging things by the fruit of it right now, it's certainly not translating into better remorse, oneness, empathy and compassion towards you.  the TR stuff is intoxicating for a bit...meaning it's really tempting to feel powerful and empowered for your own life in business etc and you feel like you're strong enough to tackle the world, but it tends to fade if it's not sustained with a plan or with further support.  i'm sorry you're feeling this....it's a concern as it's a form of relapse mentally and emotionally if now he's resorting back to blaming you and putting it on you....