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MOVING BEYOND BETRAYAL
From: Rick Reynolds
Subject: Moving beyond infidelity
Dear Friend,
If you need to know how to respond to a betrayal...if you need to know how to help your mate heal...if you want to know how to rebuild trust...if you want to take the worst thing that has ever happened and make it the best, but don't know where to turn, then this is exactly what you've been looking for.
Here's the story...
What Really Helps in
Recovering From Infidelity...
During my journey, I talked to lots of folks and read lots of books looking for answers only to end up even more confused. Everyone knew what they'd do if it happened to them, but none of them had been through it. Even worse, some of the advice we got was horrible. Instead of helping. it made matters worse. Twenty three years later, we laugh about it, but it wasn't funny at the time.
Our greatest blessing came when we met a couple whose story was just like ours. Not only had they survived, but they had thrived. For the first time HOPE began to shine through.
Imagine being full of pain and despair, not knowing if I could move forward, or if it was even worth moving forward and then discovering people who had been in my exact circumstance, but now loved their life and marriage. It seemed impossible, yet it was right there in front of me. In fact, they had the type of relationship I had always wanted. It kinda messed with my belief that things could never change, but even more I could see a way out of this mess.
None of us (unless you're crazy) want to stay in that type of pain and despair. We want a way out. In addition, if you're like me, you want to find someone who's like you and understands where you're at and how you feel. We want someone who can assure us that we're not crazy and who can help us get our life back.
For me, Jamie was that person. He was the first guy I met who had been where I was and who really understood my situation. Not only that, he was willing to share his journey as a way of helping me find my way. He really helped the darkest of times. His support and the hope he provided eased my pain, and who doesn't want the pain to go away?
So how do you go about finding someone like Jamie to walk with you? Someone who's like you and understands what you're going through? Someone who's been where you're at and came out the other side still full of life and hope? Most of us don't want to tell our story over and over again in hopes of finding someone who gets it. Even more, we sure don't want to open ourselves up to a bunch of bad advice that could make the situation even worse. So where do you start?
That's why we set up the ARC subscription site. Those of us at the ARC want you to have a safe and effective way to find others who are like you and have already successfully moved through the process. We want you to find relief for your pain and despair.
And the best part is...
The ARC Subscription Service
Is Right For You
There are some great resources for individuals and couples trying to move beyond a betrayal. There are also some great forums such as BAN and others that give much needed support to those who are hurting. Finally, there are also some great therapists and marital coaches specializing in infidelity who can be a tremendous help. I would highly recommend taking advantage of all these resources but
The ARC Subscription Service is a totally unique and effective approach.
What are the advantages of
The ARC Subscription Service?
Anonymity:
Safety:
Support:
Help:
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- ARC Radio broadcast are available for download for subscription site members
- Weekly Q and A teleconference with ARC staff
- New materials will be added on a regular basis
- All past news letters and articles
- Best of all, the ARC Subscription Service has a number of unique services to speed your recovery.
The ARC Subscription Service also provides a new level of flexibility and accessibility. You can access these resources from the convince of your own home. Many military families have taken advantage of this flexibility to allow them to continue working on the their relationship even when separated by continents.
Finally The ARC Subscription Service is extremely affordable. My hourly rate is $200 an hour. If you just take advantage of the weekly Q and A sessions you'll more than make up what you spend on the subscription service. Why wouldn't you take advantage of a process that is more effective and yet costs less?
Why Should You Believe Me?
I have been successfully treating couples suffering from infidelity for the past 20 years. Not only that, but my wife and I successfully recovered from my own infidelity 24 years ago. My personal experience created the desire to devote my time and energy to helping others impacted by infidelity. I have done the necessary research to show this approach works because I didn't want you to just believe me, I wanted to be able to prove that it works.
What does that mean to you? Why should you care?
I means simply this: I know what it takes to survive infidelity and I know what it was like for us to find someone who had survived what we were going through. It gave us what we needed to stay calm and begin to think rationally about the future.
Discover The Marriage
You've Always Wanted
In fact, if you join the ARC Subscription Service right now you could soon be enjoying the benefits,
Benefits like:
- Having someone else help your mate to finally "get it"
- Having others who understand
- Having safe and caring relationships
- Having a new found hope for the future
- Knowing what to do next
- Liking the person you're married to
Seriously consider the reasons for salvaging your marriage:
- Imagine being able to have a marriage where there is mutual respect, mutual caring and mutual honesty. If you could have that type of marriage, why would you settle for an empty lonely room?
- Divorce sucks, and while that may seem like the only path out of your dilemma, it's not true. Research shows that it takes about five years to recover from a divorce, but less than two years to move beyond a betrayal. And it will only take you 90 days to get your marriage back on the right tack, why wouldn't you spend 90 days to see if you could save yourself five years of your life?
- If you have children, then for their sake at least explore whether you can work it out. The impact of divorce on children is staggering, not only does it complicate their lives, but research indicates it will impact their future standard of living as well as take four years off their life expectancy.
- For your own sake. If you are the type of person who believes in the institution of marriage and never imagined yourself as part of the divorce statistics, then personal integrity would suggest you explore working through the infidelity.
Frequently Asked Questions
If you and I were talking you might have some questions about whether The ARC Subscription Service would work for you. Since we're not sitting face to face, let me answer a few commonly asked questions...
Q. "What if I'm not sure if I want to save the marriage?"
A. Well, if you not sure you want to save your marriage, that also means your not sure that you don't want to save it. Many couples find that the interaction on the site helps them solidify what they would like to do. So you can use it as a means of determining what you want to do.
Considering the emotional, financial and relational cost of divorce, don't you think it might be worth exploring, for 90 days, whether or not your marriage could become what you've always wanted?
Q. "But I don't have any feelings for my mate, why should I think they would ever come back?"
A. Not having feelings at this point is normal. It's common for either the hurt spouse or the unfaithful spouse to have lost all desire for their mate. In fact, it's even worse than that, often it feels as if it's less than zero and the thought of your mate touching you or you having to touch your mate is repulsive. Even so there is a strong probability those feelings will come back, but not without some changes on both parties parts.
Now look, let's get real. People can and do change. The very fact that you have different feelings today then you did on the day you got married is proof that you can change. In fact, if on that day someone had told you that you would change and come to a point where you couldn't stand to be near your mate you would have laughed and said it would never happen. So when I tell you that you can change and find a strong desire for your mate again, then you'll laugh and say it couldn't happen, but your wrong, it can happen.
The challenge, however, is that negative change can occurs with little on no effort, but positive change takes effort on our part. If you're not willing to do the work then you're right change won't happen, but if you'll get the necessary help then it can and the ARC Subscription Service is a great place to start. You'll be able to talk with others who have been where you're at and found healing.
Q. We already have a marriage therapist, why would we want to do your Service?
A. The ARC Subscription Service is not intended to replace your therapy, rather it supplements normal marriage and family therapy. It is not therapy, it's a safe support system. But it has several features that help greatly in the recovery process. Having other couples to talk with really helps facilitate understanding, honesty, caring, respect and support. Many find that using this process is like putting the recovery process on steroids. It will help you move quickly and efficiently through the initial stages of your recovery process. In fact, you can use the exercises found through the ARC Subscription Service in your therapy to help facilitate healing.
Q. "What if this format doesn't work for me?"
A. That would be rare, but certainly possible. So if it didn't work that's why we offer an iron clad guarantee. We want your healing far more than your money. If all we wanted was money there would be for easier ways to set this system up, but that's not our goal. So if it doesn't work, then just let us know. You've already had to take enough risk just getting to this point, we'll take the risk for whether or not this work.
That being said, I would ask that you not judge the product before you try it. You can't possibly know whether or not it will work by your initial judgments. There is a proven process, but you have to be willing to go through the process in order for it to work.
Q. "Why does it cost so much?"
A. I guess that's a matter of opinion. Most of my friends keep asking why is it so cheap? There is nothing else like this on the market. No other program offers the anonymity and the mentor training. You are getting a professional service to keep you on track and to assure you that you are moving in the right direction. You are getting access to a mentor couple who can help encourage and facilitate your healing and you are getting access to forums and other free resources. While I know it's not as cheap as a book, it's not the same as a book and if you were to spend the same amount of time in individual or couples therapy and if you were to purchase all of the support resources ,then it would cost you well over a thousand dollars. So it's not cheap, but for what your getting it's far less expensive than any other alternative.
Q. "I don't believe you. What do you have to say to that Mister Smarty Pants?
A.I don't blame you...you don't know me (if you did you would trust me with your kids, your car, and your credit cards...and you would know you were 100% safe in doing so). But I understand the question.
Here's What to Do Now....
Imagine the peace you'd feel in having your questions answered, the relief in having the pain and suspicion stop.... knowing your mate understood and cared...being able to feel good about yourself again...feeling safe in your own home...
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Join The ARC Subscription Service NOW Yes I want to begin to continue healing and find new life.
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The longer you wait to get started, the longer you have to wait to come to a place of healing and wholeness.
Please don't delay. Let's get you on a path to healing.
Sincerely,
Rick Reynolds LCSW
PS. If you're skeptical that anyone can move beyond a betrayal and find a fulfilling and meaningful relationship...take me up on my guarantee. Join the site and begin to interact. And if it doesn't work, then anytime within the first 90 days, just ask and I'll send you a 100% refund. No questions asked.
Legal Disclaimer: The ARC Subscription Services are not counseling nor are they a substitute for counseling. It is a self-paced, self-directed resource. The ARC Mentors are not counselors or therapists. If you need professional counseling, please seek a licensed professional therapist in your area.
