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The Recovery Library gave me 24/7 support because I could be up at 3am and search for the topic I was struggling with. It also helped as a couple because we could investigate topics together so it wasn’t subjective. I trusted this information because it was from professionals who also had lived through and recovered from infidelity. Double credibility in my book.
--A, Florida

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Financial Infidelity: 6 Tips to Fix It

Financial infidelity has been rampant in the news*, as a recent poll by The American Institute of CPAs claimed that 30

Life After Divorce: How the Unfaithful Sees It

I once heard it said, “love is blind, but marriage is a real eye-opener.” I’ve always believed people to be profoundly naïve about marriage, however naïveté may be even higher when it comes to life

How To Handle Pain: Healing After An Affair

I went to an end of the year bash with a bunch of friends during my junior year in high school. We had a great time grilling burgers and listening to music.

The Infidelity Divorce Syndrome: Divorce Recovery After Infidelity

How does infidelity impact those who get divorced (i.e. divorce recovery) and what are their unique challenges?

How to Prevent Relapse: Healing After an Affair

A couple of years ago, Steph and I went canoeing with friends on the Guadalupe River. It was the picture-perfect spring day.

6 Steps To Confronting Your Mate About Betrayal

Do you think your mate has been unfaithful?

Why Did My Spouse Cheat? A Crucial Question In Healing After An Affair

How often have you done something you didn’t want to do? Behavior doesn’t equal motive. The motives behind cheating are vast and complicated.

Social Media, Emotional Affairs & Infidelity

I’m older than dirt. I recently received a notice for my 40th high school reunion. I never imagined I would be 40, much less attend my 40th high school reunion. While the John H.

Surviving Infidelity: Finding the Root Problem And How To Heal

I once heard that if you put a smart mouse in a maze and put a piece of cheese on the other side of the maze, the mouse will follow its nose until it finds the cheese.

A Crucial Step To Surviving Infidelity: Discovery Part 4

I watched in horror as police handcuffed my wife and drove off. I was only trying to get her to be quiet and let me sleep.

A Crucial Step To Surviving Infidelity: How Do I Handle Discovery? Advice For The Wayward Spouse, Part 3

I didn’t know what to do. My wife kept asking for my affair partner’s name. Initially I lied, telling her it was nobody she knew.

A Crucial Step To Surviving Infidelity: How Do I Handle Discovery? Part 2

Advice for the Hurt Spouse

“I’ve been having an affair with Sandra,” I told her. Shock and disbelief flashed across her face.

The Valentine's Day After Syndrome and Survey Results

Ever wonder what happens to couples on the first Valentine’s Day after the discovery of an affair?

The Valentine’s Day After Syndrome

Ever wonder what happens to couples on the first Valentine’s Day after the discovery of an affair?

A Crucial Step To Surviving Infidelity: How Do I Handle Discovery? Part 1

Why do you really want to know what happened? Why would you want to tell about your infidelity after the affair? Is it really that important for healing after an affair?

Healing After the Affair: Whether to get help?

Have you decided to make life better or are you paralyzed unable to take the next step?

Rebuilding Trust After An Affair

About 15 years ago Stephanie and I decided it would be an adventure to experience real country life.

Surviving Infidelity: What Didn’t Work For Unfaithful Spouses

This week we’re exploring “The least productive actions taken by the unfaithful spouse after the infidelity came to light?” As mentioned in last week’s article, pouring fuel on a burning fire can b

Healing After Infidelity: What Doesn't Work.

I poured diesel fuel on our bonfire Christmas Eve. That’s something I’ve taught my children to never do.

Surviving Infidelity: What Is Narcissism?

As a young man, I had no appreciation for Greek Mythology. That was my loss. As an older man, I’ve come to appreciate the lessons taught by these stories.

Surviving Infidelity: 6 Things I Wish I'd Known

This week’s article explores the question “What did you not know that you needed to know, after the affair came to light?” from the perspective of the unfaithful person.

How to survive an affair – How much should I share with my spouse?

I’ll be honest, I hate puzzles, but some of my family members love them.

Surviving Infidelity: It’s How You Use the Time That Counts

I am blown away by your responses to last month’s survey. Not only that but we’re all a bit overwhelmed.

Healing After An Affair: Emotional Flooding & Reminders

Back in the mid-eighties I had a business fail. I guess that’s not unusual in the world of business, but it was new to me. In fact when I went down, I did it up right.

Does Time Heal All Wounds? Healing After An Affair

Have you ever had a torn rotator cuff? It’s embarrassing to admit, but I tore my rotator cuff playing on our Xbox 360 Kinect.

Why Couples Fail After An Affair, Part 6: Failure to Recommit

When discussing barriers to recommit I’m reminded of a folk tale about a chicken and a pig trying to decide what each should bring to a big party they’re throwing.

Why Couples Fail After an Affair, Part 5: Not Grieving the Loss

I hate grief work, as anyone in our office will attest.

Healing After an Affair: How do I Address Unmanageability?

Recently I was talking with a client about the concept of “powerlessness”.

Why Couples Fail After An Affair, Part 4: Denying your Reality

Have you ever talked till you’re blue in the face trying to get someone to see his or her reality, but to no avail? I did just tonight. Sandy is an attractive 32 year old mother of two.