Success Stories
For Candiece, the discovery was like "falling off a cliff and never hitting the ground." For Cornellus, it was the culmination of a lifelong void—an attempt to fill a childhood wound with… read more
I was an emotionally abusive, raging alcoholic, and I placed the blame for it on my wife. I was dealing with a lot of issues from my time in the military and law enforcement, and I used that as an… read more
My husband, Larry, and I had been married for 18 years, but we had really just gone into our separate corners. I had an affair with someone I met while traveling for a part-time job. Confessing… read more
My husband had been unfaithful most of our time together, and it was a constant struggle for 10+ years. By the grace of God and with the support of friends and those at Affair Recovery, our… read more
I have always been one to chase “the next big thing” in my life, and assumed that would stop when I married. I did nothing to quiet this desire on my way, just assumed it would go away. This led… read more
Rodney and Angela share their story of redemption and recovery from infidelity and addiction. We hope that it provides you with encouragement for your journey.
A preview video of an Affair Recovery mentor couple. They share their journey through recovery from infidelity. Our hope is that it will give you hope for your future.… read more
I struggled with sexual addiction for most of my life, and I thought I had it under control. The thing is I cannot manage it. It came roaring back, and I destroyed my marriage and my… read more
I have been through a lot in my life but nothing compares to the pain and heartache of the finding out about my husband’s affair. However, God was able to take something terrible and turn it into… read more
Testimonials
"I was hesitant to attend because I didn't believe our issue needed intense counseling. However, I discovered my partner was dealing with a lot of trauma from my missteps. It was essential to hear and deal with this."
- Virtual | EMSW Participant
"I had zero idea/expectations and I did have some hesitancy, but I am very glad we came. Before EMS, I was constantly consumed by how to “fix this” but now I am more at peace with that God is in control and He knows and all I can control is what I do and however the outcome, I AM WORTHY and my life matters. I am not defined by what I have done and my story isn’t over."
- Anonymous | EMSW Participant
"I had a lot of anxiety before coming to EMS. We had already tried so many things to heal, and some of those things ended up being more harmful than helpful. But EMS is exactly what we needed. I now feel optimistic and hopeful that my wife and I can move beyond the affair and rebuild a new, amazing marriage."
- Anonymous | EMSW Participant
"It was wonderful. I felt loved, accepted, and cared for. We weren’t sure about coming, [as] we are not religious. We felt very accepted. We felt very stuck [before] and this weekend gave us so much hope for the future."
- Anonymous | EMSW Participant
"When I chose EMS, I wanted some ways to figure out a way to “forgive” my unfaithful spouse. I was not sure if we had marriage left or if we were just pretending. After EMS we are going back with the hope that we had a solid chance at redeeming our love and find a Marriage 2.0."
- Anonymous | EMSW Participant
"The Group Leader shared her story first and created a safe space for us to open up and share with more confidence. She related some of our experiences to the topics to be covered later on, which was reassuring that we are not alone in that particular struggle."
- Anonymous | HH Participant
"......The amount of hope, genuine connection, and love that has been reintroduced into our marriage is unmeasurable. I'm leaving here with a lot of hope for my marriage and for our future.
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- Anonymous | EMSW Participant
"Gaining a better understanding of what happened, what I was going through emotionally, and how to move forward with recovery was invaluable."
- L. USA | HH Participant
"Thank you to all and to those in this organization who are caring!! To make the wheels turn and to make the whole picture of the pain and anguish real is amazing. I am thankful for all you have taught me....given me and blessed me with. May God bless you...whoever is reading this. May you know that you have touched and reached another broken home, because of what you do. Blessings""
- Anonymous | HH Participant
"EMS Weekend was very helpful in helping us understand our situation and provided tools to communicate more effectively. The stories from the group leaders and alumni were reassuring that our situation, although unfortunate, was not unique and that overcoming infidelity was possible."
- Virtual | EMSW Participant
"I had no idea what to expect, but I knew we needed it and we are both grateful for this offering to better ourselves. The key is clearly working with those that are and or have experienced the same things...especially for my wife."
- Virtual | EMSW Participant
"I would recommend this experience to anyone needing this type of help in their marriage. Every single staff member was very compassionate and considerate of the nature of the reason we are here. This weekend provided us with tools needed to get through our situation. The fact that all of the staff have been through infidelity was very helpful. I feel extremely hopeful for the future of our marriage."
- Anonymous | EMSW Participant
"The first week is emotional and the Group Leader made everyone feel comfortable in sharing this most difficult time and experience with one another. She made it a "safe place" right away with her gentle words and comfort."
- S.F., FL | HH Participant
"The Hope for Healing program offered a safe and supportive environment where I could confront the behaviors that led to my infidelity…One of the most impactful aspects of the program was the small group setting. Being part of a group of other women who share my struggles and guided by a compassionate leader, allowed me to share my experiences and hear others' stories without judgment…Through the program, I gained a deeper understanding of my triggers and the behaviors that had previously led me astray... The course provided me with strategies to avoid these unsafe behaviors and to build healthier patterns of communication and connection…The workbook and weekly calls were instrumental in my growth. The exercises prompted deep self-reflection, and the group discussions offered diverse perspectives that enriched my understanding…This program has not only helped me understand the root causes of my actions but has also equipped me with the tools to make lasting changes...Your support has been a beacon of hope in my journey toward healing, and I am deeply grateful."
- C, Utah | HFH Participant
"We are deeply grateful to the sponsors who made EMS Online possible and gave our marriage a chance to start healing. Your support offered us guidance, hope, and practical tools when we felt lost and alone. Through this program we are learning to re-invent our relationship, rebuild trust and move forward together. By God’s grace and perfect timing, we believe our marriage will make it. Thank you for caring about families like ours and helping us find hope again. There is so much we can say and share, but the most important is how we are deeply aware of God's timing during the whole ordeal. How He protected us, our marriage, our family, physically and spiritually, although it was under fire and attack. How He allowed the discovery at the right time in both of us, He knew when we were ready to grow, to literally grab a hold of each other and not let go. How He showed us where to find the right support for healing in AR."
- L., South Africa | EMSO Participant
"Every week I feel we are connecting as a group. The women are becoming more vulnerable and sharing More than facts, but our stories. It’s weird that we have no visual faces to recognize each other BUT we know each other’s stories and pain. I’m 2 years and 10 months into our marriage restoration. I’ve never known other women who have been through this. This harboring hope group has already helped me heal. I pray for these women daily. My Group Leader has been fabulous!!! She is so tender to each woman and acknowledges their pain. This is exactly what I’ve been searching for almost three years. It’s a blessing to be part of this group. The ah ha moments keep coming. My husband is taking hope for healing and we are both so blessed by God to be doing this. Thank you so much!!!!!"
- T.S.-TN | HH Participant
"I have been so grateful for this group during this dark time in my life. I am truly grateful for AR's resources, Leslie & John, and my particular group. Thank you and thank you again. I am so so grateful!"
- A.K., CA | HH Participant
"We were so desperate to find help and direction, and every hope we had for this course was fulfilled, and more. We will take the lessons learned forward with us, reviewing them as often as needed. There is really no way to measure the hope we have found in these 13 weeks. The EMSO course and format taught us more in this short time than we learned on our own in 31 years of marriage. Our relationship is already richer than it's ever been, and we have incredible hope for a very happy future. "
- J. Missouri | EMSO Participant
"I came here thinking, “Why am I here? This won't help,” but now I have hope. Hope was being clouded by fear, and now those clouds are fading."
- Anonymous | EMSW Participant
"Two years after our second D-Day (discovery of infidelity), we still found ourselves disconnecting and struggling to find the proper style of support. My partner was an unfaithful who had gone through Hope For Healing at my request. That got us involved in the AR community and was the first real resource hub we found targeted to our problems. Aside from that, we had on-and-off relationships with a couple of different therapists who were in way over their heads as generalists unfamiliar with the heightened situation infidelity brings. We both agreed we needed some form of 'specialist' and that we were still pretending things were better in our relationship. We weren't fully healed; we were simply avoiding it because finding the right resources were hard.
I wish I would've known how logical the course information was, which made it really applicable to improving our daily interactions with each other. Despite all the heightened emotions, AR really hones in on just that next step closer to safety between the two of you. If we'd known that, we probably would've jumped into EMSO much sooner without stalling our recovery for almost a year.
As a betrayed partner, I learned more about myself, my relationship patterns, and my coping mechanisms. Some were unhelpful to our healing, even though in a 'fair' world, my partner should have been the one to fix everything. The world isn't fair, and at the end of the day, I learned how much I had to give to recovery to move past the pain. I was still here because I did ultimately want to reconcile if the change could occur. However, it didn't occur to me that I was cultivating an environment that wouldn't allow that.
This allowed me to watch my partner step up, be vulnerable, do the work, and take the personal responsibility I was looking for. Week after week, I saw the effort and vulnerability being put in from his end as well. We learned that relapse doesn't just mean another sexual occurrence. It can mean the beginning of disconnect between us again; it can be reverting to behaviors that were present leading into infidelity, it could be entertaining high-risk situations. We learned how to protect each other from our flaws and have realistic expectations of continuing a healthier long-term commitment.
I'd absolutely recommend AR, and it's courses to anybody going through this very specific, debilitating, and isolating issue. Professionalism, care, and discretion are all present backed by simple logic and psychology that hits the mark. If you're spinning your wheels looking for somewhere to get started, just start here. Much of the material can be religious, as are most AR members. We weren't, but that didn't stop us from growing, healing, and getting value from being part of the community. If you are into faith, then that is just going to be a bonus for you.
The pain does subside, but the effort is required. We'd want you to have hope that, as cliche, as it sounds, things do get better. Although it's awkward to put a positive spin on these situations, you can and likely will develop a new bond that is 1000% better than your previous relationship together. You got this. Know that you're normal when you're struggling with your new reality. Your world has shattered, but you could just end up rebuilding it even better, following the past that is safest for everyone involved.
Cheers to your own healing adventure. "
I wish I would've known how logical the course information was, which made it really applicable to improving our daily interactions with each other. Despite all the heightened emotions, AR really hones in on just that next step closer to safety between the two of you. If we'd known that, we probably would've jumped into EMSO much sooner without stalling our recovery for almost a year.
As a betrayed partner, I learned more about myself, my relationship patterns, and my coping mechanisms. Some were unhelpful to our healing, even though in a 'fair' world, my partner should have been the one to fix everything. The world isn't fair, and at the end of the day, I learned how much I had to give to recovery to move past the pain. I was still here because I did ultimately want to reconcile if the change could occur. However, it didn't occur to me that I was cultivating an environment that wouldn't allow that.
This allowed me to watch my partner step up, be vulnerable, do the work, and take the personal responsibility I was looking for. Week after week, I saw the effort and vulnerability being put in from his end as well. We learned that relapse doesn't just mean another sexual occurrence. It can mean the beginning of disconnect between us again; it can be reverting to behaviors that were present leading into infidelity, it could be entertaining high-risk situations. We learned how to protect each other from our flaws and have realistic expectations of continuing a healthier long-term commitment.
I'd absolutely recommend AR, and it's courses to anybody going through this very specific, debilitating, and isolating issue. Professionalism, care, and discretion are all present backed by simple logic and psychology that hits the mark. If you're spinning your wheels looking for somewhere to get started, just start here. Much of the material can be religious, as are most AR members. We weren't, but that didn't stop us from growing, healing, and getting value from being part of the community. If you are into faith, then that is just going to be a bonus for you.
The pain does subside, but the effort is required. We'd want you to have hope that, as cliche, as it sounds, things do get better. Although it's awkward to put a positive spin on these situations, you can and likely will develop a new bond that is 1000% better than your previous relationship together. You got this. Know that you're normal when you're struggling with your new reality. Your world has shattered, but you could just end up rebuilding it even better, following the past that is safest for everyone involved.
Cheers to your own healing adventure. "
- M. Canada | EMSO Participant
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