Please review the following pages and consider them a contract.

For YOU (the participant):

As a participant in the Hope for Healing program, I agree to:

1. COMMITMENT: Commit to attend all 17 sessions of the Hope for Healing course. Acknowledge that by missing 3 consecutive calls, you will be removed from the Small Group Wall and may lose the ability to join future calls. These sessions build on one another, so don’t miss any of the sessions. I can almost guarantee you that at some point in this process you will feel like quitting. Don’t do it! Honor your commitment, and then if you feel there is no benefit, you can go back to your old ways after the 17 weeks are complete. Participate in the group discussions each week. You may find topics difficult to discuss, but your commitment to total honesty will help you and it will help others in your group. Half-hearted work will avail you little. Change comes through honesty with self and others.
2. PRESENCE: Make daily posts to your Hope for Healing Small Group Wall. It is impossible for human beings to “think” their way into a new way of living. Instead, we have to “live” our way into a new way of thinking. Your daily posts are a means to consistently recalibrate your heart and mind to a new way of thinking. Please do not underestimate the importance of these entries.
3. GROWTH MINDSET: Maintain a beginner’s mind, accepting that “maybe I don’t have all the answers.” Pride is death and unteachable. Taking on the beginner’s mind-set requires humility and a willingness to accept that “maybe I don’t have all the answers.” As I see it, if we had all the answers, then we wouldn’t be in this fix to begin with. Be open to seeing things from a new perspective.
4. ENCOURAGE: Encourage other participants in my group. In any given week someone will be struggling. Your ability to be present and supportive in their time of need will help provide a path to healing for them and a foundation for others to be present for you when you most need it.
5. ATTENDANCE/PARTICIPATION: Take assignments seriously and come prepared to share my work with the group. Agree to make every effort to attend and actively participate in all 17 group meetings. Understand that by missing 3 consecutive calls you will be removed from the Small Group Wall and may lose my ability to attend further calls. In addition, one goal of this course is for you to complete a “Life Recovery Plan.” To do so will require taking “lessons learned” each week and applying them to your life. Completing these assignments will add insight, understanding, and support in your quest to find a new life. Entries will make up your Life Plan Journal.
6. SEEK A HIGHER POWER: Use prayer, meditation, insight, or other forms of seeking spiritual guidance that works for you. Ask that this process be used to help you become a more loving person. Each day ask God to speak to your heart and open your eyes to wisdom and to bless the interactions you have through this group.
7. CONFIDENTIALITY: Protect the privacy of the other group members. What is said in the group, stays in the group. Agree to not record or share any calls or record or share any details of anyone's personal information. Do not reveal the identity or details of anyone in the group to anyone outside the group. In addition, do not disclose any information that is shared in the group to anyone outside the group. We all need safe people with whom to talk. Failure to be protective of the lives of other group members can not only do irreparable damage to others but also hinder your own journey. Each person has her own right to share their story as they choose. I cannot state this strongly enough.
8. SAFETY: Read and agree to the following statements.
   1. Safety for your Spouse: I will make every effort not to be physically or verbally abusive to my mate over the next 120 days. I will attempt to be safe enough for them to engage with me in this process.
      
   2. Safety for You: If I am ever in so much pain that I find myself contemplating suicide, I will tell my group facilitators and will contact a mental health professional/therapist or emergency line.
      
   3. Safety for Others: I recognize that if I am seriously contemplating the harm of either my spouse or someone else, I should ask for help. I recognize that acting on such feelings and intentions will only result in infinitely more harm and devastation to all of the other innocent by-standers in my life (eg. my children, parents, siblings, friends, etc.). I recognize that I may need professional help from a therapist in order to process these feelings and impulses.
      
   4. Safety for the Group: I will make every effort to attend and equally participate in the group calls and will announce myself upon joining each call.
      
9. SECURITY: Ensure my mate receives and agrees to the mate's contract in the link below if we meet the following criteria:
   1. If your mate has, will have, or may have access to your emails and/or your AffairRecovery.com user account, send them this link: https://www.affairrecovery.com/HFH/contract-mate
   2. I understand that my failure to secure this agreement or my mate's refusal to agree may result in the removal from my Small Group Wall to maintain the privacy and safety of my group mates.
   3. Note: We encourage FULL transparency and access to all accounts and passwords between mates that are working towards reconciliation. We ONLY ask for privacy regarding this one class, Hope for Healing.
   4. Note: We prohibit the shared use of AffairRecovery.com user accounts due to the nature of the website and the need to have safety precautions in place based on gender. Using your mate's account or allowing your mate to use yours puts other users' safety and privacy in jeopardy.

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