First Steps Bootcamp for Surviving Infidelity

It feels like drowning, and you don't know the way back to the surface.

If you don't know where to start, start here. This free 7-day guide walks you through the foundations of healing, one step at a time. Over 80,000 people have taken the first step here.

Free
7 days, self-paced
Take it solo or with your spouse
Packed with expert insights
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What the seven days look like

1Day One

The Path of Recovery

  • The Story of 'Us'
  • Marriage Perspective
  • Betrayed Perspective
  • Unfaithful Perspective
  • Recovery Obstacles
2Day Two

Ambivalence & Pain Management

  • Addressing Ambivalence
  • Reasons for Staying
  • Stages of Pain
  • Pain Management
3Day Three

Recovery Timeline

  • Realistic Timeline
  • Healthy Recovery
  • The Recovery Process
  • Mentor Video
4Day Four

Safety & Managing Anger

  • Commit to Safety
  • Create Safety
  • Destructive Cycles
  • Who to Tell
  • When to Manage Anger
  • Taking a Time-Out
5Day Five

Advice on Discovery

  • Discovery
  • Why Disclose?
  • The Right Information
  • Get Through Discovery
  • Safety Guidelines
6Day Six

Protecting Your Children

  • How We Told Our Kids
  • How to Tell the Kids
  • Most Common Mistakes
7Day Seven

What To Do Next

  • Why Groups?
  • I Wish I'd Known
  • Now What?

We've been there ourselves

Our experts have personally experienced infidelity and helped tens of thousands of people begin to heal. We can show you the steps for finding your way back to the surface.

80,000+ people
have taken the bootcamp to begin healing

How it works

A short set of goals each dayThree to five clear goals guide you through each day.
Reading, videos and reflectionShort lessons that explain what's happening, and questions that help you process it.
Built for couples or individualsThere's questions for just you, and questions if your spouse is participating with you.

What others have said about the Bootcamp

We decided to try the free 7-day Bootcamp for couples… For the first time, I had conversations with my husband I'd always dreamed of having… It was seven days I will never forget. I am a licensed clinical social worker and have been in practice for 22 years, and this program is by far the best thing I've ever encountered for healing, not only from infidelity but from my past as well.

Bootcamp participant

After my wife disclosed her infidelity, the Bootcamp gave us a space to come together safely and authentically, at a time when I had lost my entire sense of what “together” meant. It put words to so much we hadn't been able to say out loud, and it gave us our first real semblance of hope for what our marriage could look like.

Bootcamp participant

We found the structure and honesty of the bootcamp to be just what we needed to begin to communicate. We started reading the exercises aloud to one another. I would highly recommend giving this a try. It continues to work for us.

Bootcamp participant

FAQ

Does free really mean free?
Absolutely! There is no commitment. All you need to sign up is an email address.
What resources will I need for the Bootcamp?
All you need is an internet connection.
How long does each day take?
The amount of time spent each day depends on several variables including how quickly you read, how deeply you answer the questions, and whether or not your spouse is participating. Each day includes readings, videos and reflection questions, and the questions are formed in a way that allows you to choose the depth of your answer. The deeper you go, the greater the benefit, although it will require more time.
What if it takes me longer than 7 days to complete the Bootcamp?
The Bootcamp is not going anywhere, so feel free to start whenever you'd like and complete the material at your own pace. We recommend 7 days, but it's certainly not the only option.
Seven days is great, but then what? What do I do when I complete the Bootcamp?
Don't worry; we're not going to just abandon you after the seven days. On Day 7 of the Bootcamp we'll walk you through what your next steps look like. You'll have a few choices available and then it's up to you. For recovery to work for you, you have to work for recovery. We'll light the path but it's up to you to take it.

Infidelity doesn't have to define your story.

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Another free tool: the Affair Analyzer gives you a personalized look at where you are.
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