Hope Rising Conference 2021

Fourth Annual Conference for Betrayed Spouses

Take a brave step out of the turmoil and do something just for you. Join us for the one-day virtual Hope Rising conference. We've planned an event only for betrayed spouses filled with hope, practical strategies and resources.


  • Date: Saturday, October 2nd, 2021.
  • Time: 9:00 a.m. - 4:30 p.m. CST.
  • Location: Livestream
  • Price: $79

This year, if you purchase the 2021 livestream, you also get access to the 2021 on-demand recording!

You are not alone. Healing from infidelity can feel isolating, especially during the COVID-19 pandemic. At Hope Rising, you can gain momentum, strength and community on your journey to wholeness. We've walked through this pain ourselves, and we've walked alongside thousands of others on this journey. You may not see it at this very moment, but in this dark chapter hope can rise.

At Hope Rising, you will:

  • Receive a new sense of self-worth and honor.
  • Experience belonging in this momentous gathering.
  • Learn how pain can be transformed and overcome.
  • Redefine your identity with new freedom.
  • Be equipped with healing strategies and next steps.
  • Receive encouragement from survivors who are thriving.


Your speakers provide so much hope and understanding toward the pain. It makes those who have been betrayed feel heard and not alone.

— 2020 Hope Rising participant.

What's Included?

Men’s and Women’s Breakout Sessions are back!

Hope Rising participants tell us that our men's and women's breakout sessions are one of their favorite parts of the conference. This year, Leslie Hardie and co-host Lynn are back for a breakout session exclusively for betrayed women. Dr. John Haney and co-host Rusty will lead the breakout session exclusively for betrayed men. Don’t miss this priceless opportunity to hear from infidelity experts and survivors as they speak to the nuances of betrayal through the lens of men or women.

Connect With Others Over Lunch

Included in your ticket for Hope Rising 2021 is the invaluable opportunity to participate in a lunchtime, virtual small group. We will provide a virtual small group room and discussion questions to guide your conversations. You can connect with other betrayed spouses who are also pursuing healing, build community, and receive the powerful reminder that you are not alone.

Who's Taking the Stage

Shauna Shanks

Keynote Speaker

To learn more about this year's keynote speaker, check out our article!

Free to Be Whole: Regaining Your Power and Peace

When you've been betrayed by a spouse, it is so easy to fall into a spiral of self-loathing or comparison and to expend energy worrying and fearing things beyond your control. Shauna found something she calls The Love Filter that transformed her personal life and gave her a starting point for her own journey of healing from betrayal. Join Shauna as she equips you to keep yourself whole, encourages you in self-love, and empowers you to find peace and freedom, no matter what the future holds.

Rick Reynolds - Founder and President-AffairRecovery

Rick Reynolds

LCSW, President and Founder of Affair Recovery

Boundaries and Self-Esteem: Breaking Free from Shame

We hear a lot about boundaries in recovery, but we often equate boundaries with imposing consequences which makes us the judge and jury of the relationship. Rick adds self esteem to the boundary conversation bringing both clarity and insight. This session will reveal how self esteem is foundational to recovery and empower you to develop functional boundaries for healthy relationships.

Speaker Dr. John Mark Haney

John Mark Haney

Ph.D., LPC, Co-Author of Harboring Hope, and EMS Weekend Retreat Team

An Unexpected Ally: Finding a Teacher in the Dark Night of the Soul

Betrayal trauma is one of the most excruciating forms of human pain imaginable, and it can cause a profound and negative upheaval around our view of God, our view of relationship, or even around whether life has any ultimate purpose or meaning. If we focus too much attention on just trying to survive the pain, we may miss the opportunity for the darkness to become a teacher or even an ally that can lead us to a greater life. The scary sounds you hear in the darkness may not be a monster, they may be the very voice of God.

Leslie Hardie - Author-Harboring Hope

Leslie Hardie

LCSW, Co-Author of Harboring Hope

This is Your Story: (Re)Writing the Narrative that Keeps You Stuck

In terms of your spouse’s infidelity, the story you tell yourself about what happened may end up being more important than what actually transpired. The story you make up about why it happened can become even more critical. And if you begin to get caught up in how you could have kept it from happening, you can become completely undone. As it turns out, the story we tell ourselves is one of the most critical aspects of our recovery.

Wayne Baker - Affair Recovery Specialist Panel

Wayne Baker

M.A., LPC, and EMS Weekend Retreat Team

Living with Uncertainty: Finding Strength and Grace after Falling Apart

We all scramble for certainty, especially in the midst of the pain caused by infidelity. We wanted things to go a certain way. Questions and intrusive thoughts are just some of the tools we use to try and find solid ground, something that is predictable and safe. But do they really work long term? How can we live wholeheartedly when our heart has been shattered? Emotions are sometimes our best teachers; feeling and grieving are part of our learning. Embracing vulnerability, uncertainty and unpredictability has the power to transform again and again and again.

Jessica McDaniel

LPC, EMS Weekend Retreat Team

The Lost Practice of Lament: Learning the Hidden Value of Grief

Most of us do not have a language for grief. We might have access to a few descriptive words like sad, depressed, and angry but beyond that, grief is a very difficult experience to allow ourselves to completely enter. When we’re taught from a young age to “keep it together”, to not let our emotions get the best of us, we numb our God given ability to emote, to cry out, and to honestly acknowledge the full extent of our hurt and sadness. In this session, we'll explore how to “join in” with our grief rather than fight against it through the practice of lament, which will teach us how to honor and process our pain so that we can live more freely.

Andrea Rogers

Board-Certified Life Coach

Courage to See: Staying In the Truth Even When It’s Hard

How do you face the pain in front of you when everything in you wants to look the other way? Seeing the truth takes great courage, but there is no true healing apart from the truth. Listen in to learn how to take the journey from hurting, to healing, to wholeness.


Infidelity Survivor

Unshackled: Reaching Peace through Emotional Forgiveness

So often, we attempt to walk through the trenches of forgiveness in expectation that once we make the decision to forgive, we’ll finally be able to see through the emotional fog. But sometimes, we just wind up just feeling stuck. We wonder if the decision and efforts to forgive were genuine. We wonder if we’ll ever break free from the chains of unforgiveness. In Jeremy’s session, he’ll describe his own story of not just making a decision to forgive in his mind but releasing his heart to forgive through a process of emotional forgiveness.

(What I liked most about Hope Rising was) the sense of 'normalcy' and that feeling where you have the support of everyone around you brings a lot of hope. To have a conference just for the betrayed communicates something really special about the care that God, through Affair Recovery, has put into everyone out there.

— 2020 Hope Rising participant.

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Hope Rising event tickets are non-refundable upon purchase, but fully transferable to a substitute registrant up to, and including, the day(s) of the event.

What People Are Saying About Hope Rising

"It gave me hope. The name chosen for the conference is perfect."
"John Mark Haney was the reason I signed up, hoping to hear his wisdom and open heart, and I was not disappointed ... (I) found his words to be the most memorable and deeply touching. Everyone's lectures were chock full of beneficial information, and they all deserve a hearty 'thank you.'"
"The perspective from all the speakers brought new insight into my thought-life and where I need to focus my hope."
"The three reminders that I took away from the morning have stuck with me: 1. I can't control the actions of another person, 2. I have to be safe, and 3. Clarity is worth seeking."
"The continued message of normalizing this journey we are on and the vastness of it and the amount of attention, time, patience, and effort it takes to handle it well."
"This is the first time I have ever talked to other betrayed women or listened to talks specifically for the betrayed. It made me realize that what I am feeling and going through is "typical" for the betrayed. I finally didn't feel like I was crazy or overreacting, and my feelings were validated."
"It reinforced that I need to get out of this loop that I am in. I need to stop feeling like a victim and rise up and start living again."
"The speakers were all wonderful. The material was very informative. I would not wish the reason we all were there on my worst enemy but it was nice to not feel like I am the only person in the boat."
"The conference is affirmation that the stages I'm going through are REAL and worth it."
"John Haney's honesty and heartfelt message really spoke to me. It's good to hear from someone who has come out on the other side, changed for the better by this difficult experience."