Today, my heart is reminded of the pain that once was, the pain that so many of you find yourselves in today. For me, it is a distant, tender scar. It is healing, but if I stare at it long enough or touch it in just the right ways, the pain can all come rushing back.
If you are in the middle of this kind of suffering, you are likely desperate for relief of any kind. Violently painful memories have carved your heart into pieces, and maybe you can't even remember what life...
Samuel discusses a trap many spouses fall into when they feel their spouse won't change.
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Samuel discusses a pitfall many spouses fall into after the discovery of infidelity or addiction.
Samuel provides direction for those who feel they can't be happy again.
Samuel shares encouragement and perspective for those who are trying to heal.
"Wondering if I will come to a happy place in surrender to self-care. Surrender to me. Myself. And I. Self-talk, positive affirmations of my worth. It's my time now. My season of me. I've given and given and given. No time for guilt over self-care anymore. Over rediscovering who I was…who I am apart from my spouse. I...
Samuel discusses a toxic struggle both unfaithful and betrayed spouses fall into.
Samuel shares a humorous but poignant story about shame and self hatred.
Samuel discusses tools to help the unfaithful and betrayed spouse heal despite fear of uncertainty.
Samuel shares a common mistake he would often make with Samantha that kept them stuck.
These are words that I have had to unlearn and relearn—words that I thought I knew, but now realize I misunderstood for most of my life. Now, they actually mean something to me.
Growing up, I would attend church with my mom and siblings. I had just enough of a smattering...
Samuel shares tips on battling depression after disclosure of infidelity or addiction.
Samuel interviews Rob about his life before, during, and after his wife's infidelity.
Before what we in the infidelity community call "D-day," my life was full—full of gratitude, challenges, and mostly good. My life was nowhere near perfect—punctuated with the losses one experiences when we are lucky enough to live long enough. I had lived a largely intact existence...
This is a question that almost all of us have asked or heard at some point during recovery from infidelity. It might have been screamed in anger, or muttered in a barely audible cry of exasperation. And it is a question we often hear over and over again, "How could you?" It is a good question, and it lies at the heart and sum of all...
Samuel interviews Melanie, an unfaithful female spouse, about her journey of unfaithfulness and restoration.
Samuel discusses doing hard things in repair work.
To forgive somebody is to say one way or another "You have done something unspeakable, and by all rights I should call it quits between us. Both my pride and my principles demand no less. However, although I make no...
Samuel shares thoughts on why we would rather run from our pain than heal from it.
Samuel shares pointed thoughts on rediscovering ourselves after infidelity.
Samuel discusses personal battles we all face in recovery.
Samuel shares a humorous but life changing principle of communication post infidelity.
Samuel tackles a touchy subject: helping the unfaithful spouse forgive.
Today I am sharing with you something that someone sent to me after my dad died years ago. I have never forgotten it, and I share it with you today for encouragement wherever you are within the waves and wreckage of infidelity.
Samuel shares a personal story of significant healing.
Samuel discusses the need for the unfaithful spouse to have a team around them.
Samuel discusses the journey of the unfaithful spouse and compassion.
Samuel shares truths he's learned on how he forgave himself and chose to find healing.
Samuel interviews Tullian Tchividjian about his personal journey before, during, and after infidelity.
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Alumnus. Unfaithful. Doing his best with his 2nd chance in his marriage and life.
Alumna. Member, EMS Weekend Retreat Team. Hope and healing are possible for anyone willing to work through the pain.
Alumna. Betrayed. Striving to recover and thrive after betrayal. I believe gratitude is the antidote to grief. If I can help you in your healing, therein lies my own.
Alumnus. Betrayed. Trying to find his way back.
Alumna. Unfaithful. A broken and undeserving mess who is learning what real love looks like.
Alumna. Betrayed. Determined to be positive as I navigate the quagmire of recovery.
Alumna. Betrayed. A soul restored. Encouraging others to keep walking because there is a way through. Author of Keep Walking: 40 Days to Hope and Freedom After Betrayal
Alumna. Betrayed. Grateful for God's love and grace. Recognizing that with God as my priority, I will be okay no matter what.
Alumnus. Betrayed. No matter how long it takes or how hard it is, my wife is always worth it!
Alumna. Betrayed. Learning to love recklessly while I cross the monkey bars of recovery.
"You have to let go at some point in order to move forward." - C.S. Lewis
Alumna. Betrayed. Walking in obedience to God's direction and experiencing a richer life and Renewed marriage.
Alumnus. Unfaithful. Living life differently, enjoying my wife and family, and grateful for God’s love.
Alumna. Betrayed. Experiencing God's love after divorce. Celebrating the healing of myself and my identity.
Alumna. Betrayed. Continuing to fight for my marriage and my children.
Alumnus. Unfaithful. Living proof that seeking truth offers both incredible pain and amazing freedom.