As past participants, we want our walks through infidelity to bring hope, inspiration, and courage to your own journey.
, 3 days 20 hours ago

Samuel discusses denial in repair work and how it damages both spouses.

, 5 days 16 hours ago

Samuel shares insight into what a process looks like when healing from infidelity.

, 6 days 19 hours ago

"Send Lawyers, Guns, and Money, the $#!* has Hit the Fan"
Warren Zevon

As a Christian, I always understood marriage to be a biblical union of two people, a part of God's plan for companionship as first illustrated in the Garden of Eden. Common text book definitions note a union of two people or a combination of two or more elements. While its roots are biblical, our society recognizes it as an institution, inherent with legal rights and responsibilities.

As we all know, healing and reconciliation in this arena takes significant time and work. The problem is, the legal system we use to institutionalize marriage does not give incentive to allow time...

, 1 week 2 days ago
affairrecovery-survivors-blog-elizabeth-i hope that where ever you find yourself today, you are working towards acceptance

Last night we were attending church. If you are not a church goer, no judgement here. The number of times I set foot inside a church before I turned 25 was few and far between. Church can be such a healing place for many, yet such a triggering place for others. Throughout my own life I have seen so many good things done by the church. I have also...

, 1 week 3 days ago

Samuel shares more of his own story and how rushing Samantha never worked.

, 1 week 5 days ago

Samuel answers a viewers question about still communicating with an affair partner after the affair is over.

, 2 weeks 3 days ago

Samuel shares a key recovery tool for his own healing and a relapse prevention tool.

, 2 weeks 5 days ago

Samuel answers a viewers question and shares insight into when it's time to focus on your own recovery

, 3 weeks 3 days ago

Samuel discusses trying to control our spouse's reactions to infidelity and repair work.

, 3 weeks 5 days ago

Welcome to Affair Recovery's Harboring Hope Monthly Drawing. We want to know you. We want to serve you. This means we want to hear from you!

The first step is telling us what we can do for you. Please tell us why you’d like to take Harboring Hope.If you made a comment prior to a previous registration period, that comment is still good for your entry.

Remember, submit a comment of 500 words or less about why you'd like to take the Harboring Hope course. Remember, it's a random drawing so your entry won't be based on merit or on your situation. Comments will be moderated by AR...

, 3 weeks 5 days ago
affairrecovery-survivors Blog-Elizabeth-Roots-Part-2-the stories that remain untold are the ones that remain a stronghold

The heart is hopelessly dark and deceitful,
A puzzle that no one can figure out.
But I, God, search the heart and examine the mind.
I get to the heart of the human.
I get to the root of things.
I treat them as they really are,...

, 3 weeks 5 days ago

Samuel uses a well known parable to illustrate what it takes to heal from betrayal.

, 1 month 1 day ago

Samuel shares a hopeful message of how to not give up on your own healing.

, 1 month 1 week ago
affairrecovery-survivors Blog-Elizabeth-Roots-Pt-1-keep pursuing the endeavors that will deepen your roots

But blessed is the one who trusts in Me alone;
the Eternal will be his confidence.
He is like a tree planted by water,
sending out its roots beside the stream.
It does not fear the heat or even drought.
Its leaves stay green and its fruit is dependable,...

, 1 month 1 week ago

Samuel shares a pivotal mistake unfaithful spouses make in recovery work.

, 1 month 1 week ago

Samuel shares insight into a common struggle for couples in recovery.

, 1 month 2 weeks ago
affairrecovery -survivors blog-elizabeth-be careful not to judge someones character by the pain they are in--Why-the-Unfaithful-Fears-the-Betrayed

To betrayed spouses everywhere: other than the obvious apology that is owed to you for the injustice thrown upon you due to infidelity, I have yet another confession to offer to you.

I am embarrassed to say how deep my fears, insecurities and shame have reached. For much of my recovery (for...

, 1 month 2 weeks ago

Samuel discusses what happens when betrayed spouses consider forgiving their spouse too early in recovery.

, 1 month 2 weeks ago

Samuel shares insight into how both spouses can heal after infidelity.

, 1 month 3 weeks ago

Samuel shares pivotal insight surrounding the need for the right process in recovering from infidelity.

, 1 month 3 weeks ago

Samuel discusses denial and it's effects upon those in crisis.

, 1 month 3 weeks ago
affair recovery-survivors blog-chase-ramblings-if i am to sruvive, then i have to keep facing the darkness head on, and refuse to succumb to the temptation to try and sweep it away

Two years ago, I had my first d day. Wow, how my life has changed since. I find myself fighting darkness again lately. Perhaps it's the anniversary, perhaps its fatigue, perhaps it's a little bit of a lot of things… so I write to clear my head. This blog is simply the ramblings of a betrayed man in the weeds.


, 1 month 4 weeks ago
survivors Blog-Elizabeth-Sadness-one of the things i have found to be true about the walk of recovery from infidelity, is the longer i walk, the less i know. and the less i know, the more i feel.

One of the things I have found to be true about the walk of recovery from infidelity, is the longer I walk, the less I know. And the less I know, the more I feel.

The feeling that has overwhelmed me of late is one of pretty intense sadness. It seems I feel sorrow in every bone and fiber within...

, 1 month 4 weeks ago

Samuel shares the truth behind the statement: if you loved me you would have never cheated on me.

, 2 months 1 day ago
survivors Blog-Elizabeth-Thoughts-on-Marriage-what i actually needed was for someone to tell me that it hurt because it mattered

Today I wanted to share something that happened in my office that was incredibly moving to me. At work, we get to see people of all ages and ailments. Whatever your profession is, have you ever had a moment when someone walks in your door and you quickly realize (even though you are the so called professional) that you are the one about to learn?...

, 2 months 1 day ago

Samuel shares what remorse sounds and looks like for those in crisis.

, 2 months 6 days ago

Samuel discusses misunderstanding, defensiveness and accusation.

, 2 months 1 week ago

Samuel helps those who feel stuck in their recovery.

, 2 months 1 week ago

Samuel shares personal insight on how to heal from the humiliation spouses feel from infidelity.

, 2 months 1 week ago

When I hear the words liar or cheater, I get a yucky and icky feeling in my stomach. I do not have the strength to face the realization that all of us are broken, without also knowing all people are able to choose humility and redemption. If I don't accept the possibility for change and repentance, I will drown in a spiral of shame.

It is hard to look back on my life and admit or pinpoint when I started telling lies instead of the truth. Like water is to a fish, it is something I have always lived with. That might sound strange to some, but perhaps a better way to explain would be to say that I have...