Affair Recovery

Happiness only comes when you open the door to pain. You simply can't have one without the other. As a betrayed spouse, I know this all too well.

I've learned to live with what happened to me. It's become a part of my history, something profound that I went through. This brokenness has become a part of me, one that's interwoven with the fabric of my life story. This revelation is what I think they call "acceptance."

Most of us who have experienced betrayal have, at least for a season, anger as our front seat driver.

But who is riding in the back seat fueling that angry driver? Fear? Frustration? Betrayal, Sadness? Loneliness?

Once I uncovered loneliness and injustice as two of my backseat driver emotions, I've discovered that loneliness and injustice was part of my childhood when I struggled to be the 'good child' as my parents were trying their best to handle a difficult son, my only sibling.

More damaging than that was my mother's very natural tendency to worry about...

Samuel discusses a necessary tool for those stuck in crisis.

Samuel discusses suffering, belief systems, and how both partners can heal after disclosure.

Samuel shares a critical mistake unfaithful spouses make which altogether endanger the marriage.

My friend recently had a terrible burn accident while frying bacon. A stumble and the hot grease splashed across the palm and side of her hand. As an EMT, she knew she must douse the injury in cold water and clean it. And not just clean but rid the area of the skin that was peeled away. The pain was exquisite. A trip to emergency room quickly followed.

"Give me two minutes," the ER doctor pleaded. "You did a good job and the right thing in cleaning your burn, but I have to get the rest of the dead skin and debris so it won't get infected."

My friend...

Samuel shares insight into a challenging part of the disclosure process.

Samuel interviews best selling author Thomas Gagliano and discusses self sabotage, infidelity and addiction.

Samuel discusses how to build bridges with both unfaithful and betrayed spouses.

Samuel discusses one of the worst mistakes he made in his own recovery early on.

Samuel provides help for those who feel as though their betrayed spouse is testing them.

Samuel shares insight into one of the biggest mistakes made when helping betrayed spouses.

Samuel shares long term insight and hope for couples and individuals trying to heal.

Samuel provides necessary support for couples who are trying to heal from infidelity.