Imagine that you have a heavy chair to carry up three flights of stairs. Can you feel the dread? Now, imagine as you're picking up that chair, a friend walks up and offers to help. Think about how much lighter that load is going to be.

Now, I'd like you to see yourself in the wilderness after a plane crash that you've survived. You're all alone, hundreds of miles away from civilization, in a wilderness filled with deadly predators. How does that feel? What do you think your chances of survival are?

Next, see yourself in that same situation, but instead of being alone, there are eight other survivors that want to navigate that journey with you. Does that feel more hopeful?

Finally, imagine someone is trying to explain to you how to operate a manual transmission vehicle. Now, imagine someone showing you how to do it, and you get to practice. Which is going to be more effective?

That imagined relief comes from a concept called "load sharing" and is explained by Social Baseline Theory. That concept is built into the DNA of every one of the Affair Recovery courses. It's our secret sauce behind the effectiveness of our program.

Infidelity can leave us feeling isolated, alone, and weighed down. However, it feels very different if you can make this journey with others who are like you, who understand you, who validate you, who you can grow with, and where you don't have to fear judgment or shame.

When pursuing recovery in a small group, that group holds space for your emotions and actually helps you carry the load. Whether you are the betrayed or the wayward, the recovery you are facing is far too heavy to shoulder alone.

Experience load sharing in action. Join one of our courses.

• Harboring Hope (HH) for betrayed spouses
• Hope for Healing (HFH) for wayward spouses
• EMSW or EMSO for couples

Click to discover what each course has to offer: https://www.affairrecovery.com/programs-and-courses

- Harboring Hope participant, MI, USA

 

Always good, I love having this systematic approach to looking at the affair and recovery. I felt stuck before, unsure how to deal with it, but knowing it wasn't going away: and the material is helping so much with the processing of all of it. Thank you.

 

- Hope for Healing participant, AB, Canada

 

This group, and the leaders, allow me the opportunity to let out my emotions in a safe and non judgemental space.

 

- Hope for Healing participant

 

I found this week's curriculum really helpful. It unearthed some really deep truth in me which had been locked away, a perspective which has been so helpful for understanding and being able to explain my wrong choices in the past. Thank you.