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As past participants, we want our walks through infidelity to bring hope, inspiration, and courage to your own journey.
, 7 months 1 week ago

Samuel interviews MJ Denis on understanding multiple disclosures and how to help the betrayed spouse move forward.

, 7 months 1 week ago

Samuel shares key insight into changing patterns when one spouse seems to be the pursuer.

, 7 months 2 weeks ago
whatever you are doing to try to care for your injured spouse keep doing it-survivors Blog-Elizabeth-How-do-I-Show-my-Betrayed-Spouse-that-I-Really-Care

I was reading through many of my journal entries during the first year after discovery. I have several journals that are stuffed with scribbles, thoughts, and pages of raw and bloodied emotion. As I thumb through the hundreds of pages, I can see...

, 7 months 2 weeks ago

Samuel interviews Rick the founder of affairrecovery.com on defensiveness and how to remedy it.

, 7 months 2 weeks ago

Samuel discuses an important recovery tool for those who deal with anger in repair work.

, 7 months 3 weeks ago

Samuel discusses gaslighting and both the betrayed and unfaithful spouse.

, 7 months 3 weeks ago
facing my feelings has led me to look at the truth-survivors blog-elizabeth-off the chart emotions

If there was a scale of emotions, I think it's safe to say we all prefer to be somewhere right in the middle; somewhere between 65 and 75 degrees. . . not too hot, not too cold.

If your story and recovery has looked anything like ours, then you've probably realized that you and your mate's emotions can go way off the charts. We have been on roller coasters...

, 7 months 3 weeks ago

Samuel discusses gaslighting and both the betrayed and unfaithful spouse.

, 7 months 4 weeks ago
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As a real estate and small business attorney, I have always been drawn to the processes that emerge during real estate and business deals. Emotions run high at the hope of future opportunity in the early stages. As particulars are investigated, uncertainties become clearer and some risks become calculable. There is always a gap between what is known and what can only be projected. Ultimately, the constraints of resources and time merge to force a decision. It is in that moment...

, 8 months 1 day ago
we cannot undo our past but it doesnt take a lot of light to pierce through the darkness-survivors Blog-Elizabeth-Can-People-Change

If you find yourself in the first few months of discovery, chances are you are enduring many mornings that you don't see the point of getting out of bed. Your world and life as you knew it are gone. Life can seem empty and cold. Looking back on our first six months after discovery, there were days it seemed like an eternity of pure hell....

, 8 months 2 days ago

Samuel shares a humorous but telling story about his motivation in recovery work.

, 8 months 4 days ago

Samuel has a heart to heart with the unfaithful spouse about choosing their partner.

, 8 months 1 week ago
prodigals-survivors Blog-Elizabeth-Prodigals

Prodigals....

In the Bible, one of the most beloved, well known, and controversial stories is one that Jesus told of the Prodigal son.

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, 8 months 1 week ago

Samuel shares a few humorous stories about he and Samantha's recovery work after infidelity.

, 8 months 1 week ago

Samuel discusses a tool to avoid unnecessary conflict in repair work.

, 8 months 1 week ago
acceptance  the last stage of grief or the beginning of a true journey-survivors Blog-Chase-Acceptance

Acceptance, The last stage of grief or the beginning of the true journey?

I've had the urge to write this blog for some time, but I keep finding myself putting it off. I know it will take some effort and may not flow as easily as some of the earlier ones. This process started for me when I heard a well-known quote from the famous philosopher, Soren Kierkegaard:...

, 8 months 2 weeks ago
looking at the roots of our shame enables us to find healing-survivors Blog-Elizabeth-Do-I-Have-a-Love-Addiction

Early on in recovery, I was so angry at my husband for suggesting I have a love addiction. I am so ashamed to think of how prideful I can be. In my mind, a woman with a so-called love addiction had serious issues. I had a stereotype in my head that this would be a woman constantly on dating sites, wearing clothing from Victoria's Secret, or someone completely...

, 8 months 2 weeks ago

Samuel provides a follow up to an earlier interview with a betrayed male spouse.

, 8 months 2 weeks ago

Samuel provides a much anticipated interview with a betrayed male spouse.

, 8 months 3 weeks ago
the pain is horrible but if you stay the course it will end-survivors blog-elizabeth-driving-in-fog

Have you ever driven in really thick fog? We live near the Mississippi river, where a lot of tributaries feed into the waterway. I didn't grow up in this region (I'm a native Texan), but what I find is that certain mornings of the year, the hills and valleys surrounding our home become blanketed in a thick fog. It becomes so heavy over the roadways that in order to drive, you have...

, 8 months 3 weeks ago

Samuel discusses how to defeat hopelessness when recovering from the devastation of infidelity.

, 8 months 3 weeks ago

Samuel shares a tool that helped change his own recovery with Samantha.

, 8 months 3 weeks ago
its not the experience of feeling anger that leads to negative consequences but how i choose to respond

Oh the anger . . .

The visceral experience of being betrayed has triggered thoughts that consume my mind yet again. I haven't slept more than three hours straight in many months and the Benadryl I regularly take just leaves me feeling groggy. I only have two hours before I have to be in front of the first of many demanding clients today. My efforts to make it through the motions of my...

, 8 months 4 weeks ago
the ugly truth about codependency-survivors Blog-Elizabeth-The-Ugly-Truth-About-Codependency

Today I am journaling about codependency because I truly hate the word. I wish someone decades ago could have come up with a nicer sounding word to fit the definition.

When I began some honest soul searching of my character flaws that led me to cheat on my husband, I began to realize that I am a poster...

, 9 months 2 hours ago

Affair Recovery is making some changes to Recovery Library Memberships.

Nine years ago, our vision for the Recovery Library was to create an immense database of expert knowledge. A large part of this database stemmed from our Recovery Library Members and the questions submitted for the Expert Q...

, 9 months 8 hours ago

Samuel interviews an unfaithful, female therapist, who helps couples in crisis due to infidelity.

, 9 months 2 days ago

Samuel interviews an unfaithful, female therapist, who helps couples in crisis due to infidelity.

, 9 months 1 week ago

Samuel encourages those who are struggling to keep the momentum in their personal repair work.

, 9 months 1 week ago

Samuel shares a necessary adjustment to early recovery work for those in crisis.

, 9 months 1 week ago
you can't do this alone-survivors blog-chase-angels amont us

During college, I had five very close friends. After graduating, we all moved off to separate parts of the country and began to conquer our small piece of the world. As time went on, somehow, we all wound up marrying women that got along with one another. A few summers later, we all rented a beach house together for a week just to reunite. The trip was such a success it turned into an annual ritual. One we...

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