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As past participants, we want our walks through infidelity to bring hope, inspiration, and courage to your own journey.
, 8 months 1 week ago
affair recovery-survivors Blog-Elizabeth-Grief-in-Recovery-my hope is that we can all find a way to be more tender in our grief

For the unfaithful spouse, there will come a point in your recovery where you will begin your grief process. It will likely not happen at the same time or in the same way as your spouse, and it should not come as a surprise to us.

Grief is the vehicle in which we carry our pain. For betrayed spouses, grief begins immediately; they are bombarded and...

, 8 months 1 week ago

Samuel shares four key points that the unfaithful can utilize to win back their betrayed spouse's heart.

, 8 months 2 weeks ago

Samuel helps both spouses understand the need to survive before they can move on to the next season of repair work.

, 8 months 2 weeks ago
affair recovery-survivors blog-elizabeth-when it seems like everything has changed

When it comes to God, one of the most beautiful things about Him is also what I find most fascinating about Him --- He simply won't change. He doesn't budge and He is who He says He is. Yesterday, today, forever.

God does not keep office hours or change His mind on a matter. He won't get bored and He...

, 8 months 2 weeks ago

Samuel discusses how to prioritize our own individual healing while discussing a major struggle couples in recovery face.

, 8 months 3 weeks ago

Today Samuel shares five keys to personal and marital recovery work.

, 8 months 3 weeks ago
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How did you have the good fortune to come across Affair Recovery?

I found AR while I scoured the internet for help. Post D-day, I did what I have always done when there is a crisis in my family---research.

To be fair, first I cried.

I cried and cried and cried. I simply could not believe my husband could do such a thing; the person who was one half of the golden couple of our college. One half of the couple all our friends...

, 8 months 3 weeks ago
affairrecovery-survivors blog-elizabeth-why it is imperative to reach full disclosure

Today I am going to share the biggest mistake that I made since my last affair, and how it almost cost me everything. It was, in my opinion, even worse than my infidelity. That mistake was my inability to reach full disclosure the first time. For six weeks, I held on to secrets about my behavior and I continued to lie about what I had done...

, 8 months 3 weeks ago

Today, one of our EMS Weekend therapists, Leigh Ashley, continues her discussion on codependency and how to navigate it's complexities.

, 8 months 4 weeks ago

Today, one of our EMS Weekend therapists, Leigh Ashley, discusses a key component in recovery work: codependency.

, 9 months 18 hours ago
affair recovery-survivors blog-christine-who knew-i will not only survive i will live to thrive to help others thrive

When I received my first contract to publish in 2006, I never imagined the path of the next decade. The biggest 'high' of my life ended with the biggest low. For the first time in my life I'd ventured into a pursuit completely of my own making, my own dream. The story I'd spent six months crafting was considered enviable, a work worth taking the risk a publisher takes every time they...

, 9 months 3 days ago
affair recovery-survivors Blog-Elizabeth-One-of-the-Biggest-Myths-About-Unfaithful-Wives-i cannot say i had an affair because i wanted to leave our marriage the truth is i was unfaithful because i am broke and sinful i am selfish

Research shows that there is a growing number of unfaithful women. Exact numbers are hard to come by, and I expect that will always be the case. If unfaithful spouses are lying, why would they be...

, 9 months 4 days ago

Samuel reveals and discusses one of the biggest killers of momentum and intimacy in both recovery work and marriage.

, 9 months 6 days ago

Samuel answers a viewers question and sheds light on a sensitive topic.

, 9 months 1 week ago

Samuel discusses denial in repair work and how it damages both spouses.

, 9 months 1 week ago

Samuel shares insight into what a process looks like when healing from infidelity.

, 9 months 2 weeks ago

"Send Lawyers, Guns, and Money, the $#!* has Hit the Fan"
Warren Zevon

As a Christian, I always understood marriage to be a biblical union of two people, a part of God's plan for companionship as first illustrated in the Garden of Eden. Common text book definitions note a union of two people or a combination of two or more elements. While its roots are biblical, our society recognizes it as an institution, inherent with legal rights and responsibilities.

As we all know, healing and reconciliation in this arena takes significant time and work. The problem is, the legal system we use to institutionalize marriage does not give incentive to allow time...

, 9 months 2 weeks ago
affairrecovery-survivors-blog-elizabeth-i hope that where ever you find yourself today, you are working towards acceptance

Last night we were attending church. If you are not a church goer, no judgement here. The number of times I set foot inside a church before I turned 25 was few and far between. Church can be such a healing place for many, yet such a triggering place for others. Throughout my own life I have seen so many good things done by the church. I have also...

, 9 months 2 weeks ago

Samuel shares more of his own story and how rushing Samantha never worked.

, 9 months 2 weeks ago

Samuel answers a viewers question about still communicating with an affair partner after the affair is over.

, 9 months 3 weeks ago

Samuel shares a key recovery tool for his own healing and a relapse prevention tool.

, 9 months 3 weeks ago

Samuel answers a viewers question and shares insight into when it's time to focus on your own recovery

, 10 months 2 days ago

Samuel discusses trying to control our spouse's reactions to infidelity and repair work.

, 10 months 4 days ago
affairrecovery-survivors Blog-Elizabeth-Roots-Part-2-the stories that remain untold are the ones that remain a stronghold

The heart is hopelessly dark and deceitful,
A puzzle that no one can figure out.
But I, God, search the heart and examine the mind.
I get to the heart of the human.
I get to the root of things.
I treat them as they really are,...

, 10 months 4 days ago

Samuel uses a well known parable to illustrate what it takes to heal from betrayal.

, 10 months 1 week ago

Samuel shares a hopeful message of how to not give up on your own healing.

, 10 months 2 weeks ago
affairrecovery-survivors Blog-Elizabeth-Roots-Pt-1-keep pursuing the endeavors that will deepen your roots

But blessed is the one who trusts in Me alone;
the Eternal will be his confidence.
He is like a tree planted by water,
sending out its roots beside the stream.
It does not fear the heat or even drought.
Its leaves stay green and its fruit is dependable,...

, 10 months 2 weeks ago

Samuel shares a pivotal mistake unfaithful spouses make in recovery work.

, 10 months 2 weeks ago

Samuel shares insight into a common struggle for couples in recovery.

, 10 months 3 weeks ago
affairrecovery -survivors blog-elizabeth-be careful not to judge someones character by the pain they are in--Why-the-Unfaithful-Fears-the-Betrayed

To betrayed spouses everywhere: other than the obvious apology that is owed to you for the injustice thrown upon you due to infidelity, I have yet another confession to offer to you.

I am embarrassed to say how deep my fears, insecurities and shame have reached. For much of my recovery (for...

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