This is a question that almost all of us have asked or heard at some point during recovery from infidelity. It might have been screamed in anger, or muttered in a barely audible cry of exasperation. And it is a question we often hear over and over again, "How could you?" It is a good question, and it lies at the heart and sum of all of the pain created when people like me have affairs. It is as if we look to the heavens and we cry out in our pain, a guttural "why?"
Samuel interviews Melanie, an unfaithful female spouse, about her journey of unfaithfulness and restoration.
Samuel discusses doing hard things in repair work.
To forgive somebody is to say one way or another "You have done something unspeakable, and by all rights I should call it quits between us. Both my pride and my principles demand no less. However, although I make no guarantees that I will be able to forget what you have done, and though we will both carry the scars for life, I refuse to let it stand between us. One day, I...
Samuel shares thoughts on why we would rather run from our pain than heal from it.
Samuel shares pointed thoughts on rediscovering ourselves after infidelity.
Samuel discusses personal battles we all face in recovery.
Samuel shares a humorous but life changing principle of communication post infidelity.
Samuel tackles a touchy subject: helping the unfaithful spouse forgive.
Today I am sharing with you something that someone sent to me after my dad died years ago. I have never forgotten it, and I share it with you today for encouragement wherever you are within the waves and wreckage of infidelity.
(This was originally posted on the website thatericalper.com by someone unnamed)
Samuel shares a personal story of significant healing.
Samuel discusses the need for the unfaithful spouse to have a team around them.
Samuel discusses the journey of the unfaithful spouse and compassion.
Samuel shares truths he's learned on how he forgave himself and chose to find healing.
Samuel interviews Tullian Tchividjian about his personal journey before, during, and after infidelity.
Samuel shares insight he and Samantha have used to heal both their hearts.
Samuel shares a tool he used and still uses in healing from his own infidelity.
Samuel shares essential and necessary principles of safety for the unfaithful.
Samuel shares do's and don'ts to potentially win back the betrayed spouse.
Samuel discusses the journey couples go through when trying to heal from infidelity or addiction.
Samuel discusses how every unfaithful spouse has a self destruct button and how to avoid it.
I stink at being alone. I have never been alone; not even my time in my mother's womb was in solitude—I am a twin. I have always shared birthdays, rooms, busses, spotlights, cookies, bathrooms, etc.
When I first arrived at college, I remember sitting in my new dorm room by myself. My soon-to-be roommate would never show. Apparently she got cold feet and withdrew from the university. I remember for the first time in my life having a very primal...
Samuel shares insight into why we find ourselves alone as unfaithful spouses.
Samuel shares six gifts we can give ourselves to help heal from infidelity.
This quote flashed on the screen behind the minister in church today. He'd already said he was not going to comment on any of the quotes behind him as he had his own schtick to say. When I read this, he lost me for a few moments as I took in the wisdom within the printed words.
And then it occurred to me—I have attempted to pour out the effect my husband's betrayals have had on me in hope that you, the reader, might...
Samuel shares insights from his own personal journey with despair and hopelessness on how to make it to the other side.
Samuel shares the seven biggest pitfalls couples are struggling with in 2019.
When we entered into recovery from infidelity, there was a long season of disbelief—even though I was telling the truth. Granted, after what I had done to my marriage, I didn't deserve to be believed; nevertheless, it is a very disheartening and discouraging time.
After discovery, I knew I had hit what many would call "rock bottom." I was so tired of my lies, my life, and myself—so I came clean. I told the entire truth about what I had done. For the first time in my life, it felt good to...
It's all too common for women to have to navigate the self-condemning voice of insecurity. And although all of us are susceptible to these narratives, a betrayed woman especially has to fight against the negative messages she might believe about herself in the aftermath of her mate's infidelity. In today's video, you will hear an approach from one of our EMS panel specialists for identifying and moving through personal insecurities and walk away with tools for reclaiming self-acceptance. We hope that you will be encouraged to take a deeper look within as you allow the pain to be transformed.
Samuel interviews Ryan and Jessica who both were unfaithful in their own ways and share how they were able to forgive and heal.
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Alumnus. Unfaithful. Doing his best with his 2nd chance in his marriage and life.
Alumna, Betrayed. Seeking God's grace to find meaning and purpose in the pain. Hoping to share my life raft with others drowning in the despair of infidelity.
Alumna. Betrayed. Discovering the benefits of a fully transformed marriage through the recovery journey. Committing to giving comfort to others in their storms.
Alumna. Unfaithful. Striving to become a woman of integrity. Together, we can find light in the darkness of infidelity.
Alumna. Member, EMS Weekend Retreat Team. Hope and healing are possible for anyone willing to work through the pain.
Alumna. Betrayed. Striving to recover and thrive after betrayal. I believe gratitude is the antidote to grief. If I can help you in your healing, therein lies my own.
Alumnus. Betrayed. Trying to find his way back.
Alumna. Unfaithful. A broken and undeserving mess who is learning what real love looks like.
Alumna. Betrayed. Determined to be positive as I navigate the quagmire of recovery.
Alumna. Betrayed. A soul restored. Encouraging others to keep walking because there is a way through. Author of Keep Walking: 40 Days to Hope and Freedom After Betrayal
Alumna. Betrayed. Grateful for God's love and grace. Recognizing that with God as my priority, I will be okay no matter what.
Alumnus. Betrayed. No matter how long it takes or how hard it is, my wife is always worth it!
Alumna. Betrayed. Learning to love recklessly while I cross the monkey bars of recovery.
"You have to let go at some point in order to move forward." - C.S. Lewis
Alumna. Betrayed. Walking in obedience to God's direction and experiencing a richer life and Renewed marriage.
Alumnus. Unfaithful. Living life differently, enjoying my wife and family, and grateful for God’s love.
Alumna. Betrayed. Experiencing God's love after divorce. Celebrating the healing of myself and my identity.
Alumna. Betrayed. Continuing to fight for my marriage and my children.
Alumnus. Unfaithful. Living proof that seeking truth offers both incredible pain and amazing freedom.