As past participants, we want our walks through infidelity to bring hope, inspiration, and courage to your own journey.
, 10 months 2 weeks ago

Samuel shares insights from his own personal journey with despair and hopelessness on how to make it to the other side.

, 10 months 2 weeks ago

Samuel shares the seven biggest pitfalls couples are struggling with in 2019.

, 10 months 3 weeks ago

When we entered into recovery from infidelity, there was a long season of disbelief—even though I was telling the truth. Granted, after what I had done to my marriage, I didn't deserve to be believed; nevertheless, it is a very disheartening and discouraging time.

After discovery, I knew I had hit what many would call "rock bottom." I was so tired of my lies, my life, and myself—so I came clean. I told the entire truth about what I had done. For the first time in my life, it felt good to...

, 10 months 3 weeks ago

It's all too common for women to have to navigate the self-condemning voice of insecurity. And although all of us are susceptible to these narratives, a betrayed woman especially has to fight against the negative messages she might believe about herself in the aftermath of her mate's infidelity. In today's video, you will hear an approach from one of our EMS panel specialists for identifying and moving through personal insecurities and walk away with tools for reclaiming self-acceptance. We hope that you will be encouraged to take a deeper look within as you allow the pain to be transformed.

, 10 months 3 weeks ago

Samuel interviews Ryan and Jessica who both were unfaithful in their own ways and share how they were able to forgive and heal.

, 10 months 3 weeks ago
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Remember Inside Out – the Disney Pixar movie where each character represents different parts of a little girl's emotions? Each emotion – or character in the film – vies for attention and control inside her mind. It's a cute idea, and one steeped in reality.

Riley Anderson is born in a small town in Minnesota. Within her mind's Headquarters, five personifications of her basic emotions —...

, 10 months 4 weeks ago
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Dear Betrayed Wife,

I am the other woman.

By admitting that, I know I am the one person that truly and most easily deserves your hatred and your spite. I know I am a source of your anger and contempt. I am a huge source of your pain. Essentially, I am the person that is largely responsible for the ache in your heart that seems like it will never go away.

I am quite certain you must periodically wish that I had never existed. Of course, I am making a...

, 10 months 4 weeks ago

Samuel interviews MJ Denis once more, discussing how the betrayed spouse can help soothe themselves when the wayward spouse won't get help of their own.

, 11 months 1 day ago
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I'm not the one who cheated,
why do I feel so ashamed?
Am I going crazy?
Why is this so hard for me?
Is healing actually possible?
Is forgiveness what I think it is?
What's normal when it comes to sex?

As I began to wrap my head around the betrayal in my marriage, I was bombarded with...

, 11 months 1 day ago

MJ Denis returns to the studio to discuss sexual trauma, infidelity, and her upcoming session at Hope Rising 2019.

, 11 months 6 days ago

Samuel interviews an adult child of a wayward spouse who shares her personal journey of healing and restoration.

, 11 months 1 week ago

Samuel shares insight into five ways to measure the effectiveness of your own personal healing.

, 11 months 1 week ago

Samuel has a heart to heart talk with those in crisis due to infidelity about their own healing and restoration.

, 11 months 2 weeks ago

Samuel uncovers the truth behind why the unfaithful spouse resorts to blaming their spouse or partner for their affair.

, 11 months 2 weeks ago

Samuel addresses a significant pitfall couples fall into when trying to recover from infidelity.

, 11 months 3 weeks ago

Samuel answers a viewers question about respect and the repair process.

, 11 months 3 weeks ago
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I've been reading about something called 'neural plasticity' in Emily Nagoski's book, Come As You Are – a book often recommended by Rick to learn about women's sexuality. In the midst of this seemingly endless period of 'recovery,' I really needed to read something positive and hopeful and validating.

How could a book discussing...

, 11 months 3 weeks ago
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This past month, I had the opportunity to take a two-week trip traveling through Germany, Poland, Austria, the Alps, and the Czech Republic with my oldest daughter. Although I have journeyed to three of the other continents, I had never been to Europe. It was an educational trip, full of history about Jewish culture, the Nazi regime, and World War II. Growing up, I had an appreciation for history but never had great teachers on the subject. Because of this, I left for the trip excited, yet...

, 11 months 3 weeks ago

Samuel answers a viewer's question about making it up to the betrayed spouse.

, 11 months 4 weeks ago

Samuel shares more insight into why the unfaithful spouse must forgive themselves if they are going to heal.

, 12 months 3 days ago

Samuel shares the battle unfaithful spouses must work through towards self compassion.

, 1 year 23 hours ago

Samuel discusses some of the most common pitfalls and cop outs spouses use when trying to heal.

, 1 year 1 day ago
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"For what it's worth: it's never too late to be who you want to be. I hope you live a life you're proud of, and if you find that you're not, I hope you have the strength to start over."
– Eric Roth

Three years can sometimes seem like three thousand years, and at other times, it...

, 1 year 5 days ago

Samuel shares a key viewpoint which is essential for couples to heal from infidelity or addiction.

, 1 year 1 week ago

Samuel gets personal today and shares how he handled the loneliness that infidelity created for him.

, 1 year 1 week ago

Samuel shares one of the most important tips to help couples in crisis heal.

, 1 year 2 weeks ago

Samuel shares four key points to help betrayed spouses reconnect with their unfaithful spouse.

, 1 year 2 weeks ago
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Last blog I posed a thought life challenge I've heard many betrayed express. Was my life 'real'? I don't know what to believe. What was real and what wasn't? To say that my life had not been what I thought it was would be quite an understatement. Real in every way to me, yet I was in fact controlled via the withholding of vital information to believe I was safe and in the gentle care of a loving, faithful spouse.

I won't pretend to say my thoughts on this are true for anyone but myself, but you may find threads of similarity with my feelings....

, 1 year 2 weeks ago
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For the unfaithful spouse, there will come a point in your recovery where you will begin your grief process. It will likely not happen at the same time or in the same way as your spouse, and it should not come as a surprise to us.

Grief is the vehicle in which we carry our pain. For betrayed spouses, grief begins immediately; they are bombarded and overwhelmed by the shock waves of finding out that their spouse has cheated on them. They are in horrendous pain, and the grief...

, 1 year 2 weeks ago

Samuel shares four key points that the unfaithful can utilize to win back their betrayed spouse's heart.