As past participants, we want our walks through infidelity to bring hope, inspiration, and courage to your own journey.
, 8 months 13 hours ago

Samuel discusses trying to control our spouse's reactions to infidelity and repair work.

, 8 months 2 days ago
affairrecovery-survivors Blog-Elizabeth-Roots-Part-2-the stories that remain untold are the ones that remain a stronghold

The heart is hopelessly dark and deceitful,
A puzzle that no one can figure out.
But I, God, search the heart and examine the mind.
I get to the heart of the human.
I get to the root of things.
I treat them as they really are,...

, 8 months 2 days ago

Samuel uses a well known parable to illustrate what it takes to heal from betrayal.

, 8 months 1 week ago

Samuel shares a hopeful message of how to not give up on your own healing.

, 8 months 1 week ago
affairrecovery-survivors Blog-Elizabeth-Roots-Pt-1-keep pursuing the endeavors that will deepen your roots

But blessed is the one who trusts in Me alone;
the Eternal will be his confidence.
He is like a tree planted by water,
sending out its roots beside the stream.
It does not fear the heat or even drought.
Its leaves stay green and its fruit is dependable,...

, 8 months 2 weeks ago

Samuel shares a pivotal mistake unfaithful spouses make in recovery work.

, 8 months 2 weeks ago

Samuel shares insight into a common struggle for couples in recovery.

, 8 months 2 weeks ago
affairrecovery -survivors blog-elizabeth-be careful not to judge someones character by the pain they are in--Why-the-Unfaithful-Fears-the-Betrayed

To betrayed spouses everywhere: other than the obvious apology that is owed to you for the injustice thrown upon you due to infidelity, I have yet another confession to offer to you.

I am embarrassed to say how deep my fears, insecurities and shame have reached. For much of my recovery (for...

, 8 months 3 weeks ago

Samuel discusses what happens when betrayed spouses consider forgiving their spouse too early in recovery.

, 8 months 3 weeks ago

Samuel shares insight into how both spouses can heal after infidelity.

, 8 months 4 weeks ago

Samuel shares pivotal insight surrounding the need for the right process in recovering from infidelity.

, 9 months 13 hours ago

Samuel discusses denial and it's effects upon those in crisis.

, 9 months 1 day ago
affair recovery-survivors blog-chase-ramblings-if i am to sruvive, then i have to keep facing the darkness head on, and refuse to succumb to the temptation to try and sweep it away

Two years ago, I had my first d day. Wow, how my life has changed since. I find myself fighting darkness again lately. Perhaps it's the anniversary, perhaps its fatigue, perhaps it's a little bit of a lot of things… so I write to clear my head. This blog is simply the ramblings of a betrayed man in the weeds.


, 9 months 4 days ago
survivors Blog-Elizabeth-Sadness-one of the things i have found to be true about the walk of recovery from infidelity, is the longer i walk, the less i know. and the less i know, the more i feel.

One of the things I have found to be true about the walk of recovery from infidelity, is the longer I walk, the less I know. And the less I know, the more I feel.

The feeling that has overwhelmed me of late is one of pretty intense sadness. It seems I feel sorrow in every bone and fiber within...

, 9 months 5 days ago

Samuel shares the truth behind the statement: if you loved me you would have never cheated on me.

, 9 months 1 week ago
survivors Blog-Elizabeth-Thoughts-on-Marriage-what i actually needed was for someone to tell me that it hurt because it mattered

Today I wanted to share something that happened in my office that was incredibly moving to me. At work, we get to see people of all ages and ailments. Whatever your profession is, have you ever had a moment when someone walks in your door and you quickly realize (even though you are the so called professional) that you are the one about to learn?...

, 9 months 1 week ago

Samuel shares what remorse sounds and looks like for those in crisis.

, 9 months 1 week ago

Samuel discusses misunderstanding, defensiveness and accusation.

, 9 months 2 weeks ago

Samuel helps those who feel stuck in their recovery.

, 9 months 2 weeks ago

Samuel shares personal insight on how to heal from the humiliation spouses feel from infidelity.

, 9 months 2 weeks ago

When I hear the words liar or cheater, I get a yucky and icky feeling in my stomach. I do not have the strength to face the realization that all of us are broken, without also knowing all people are able to choose humility and redemption. If I don't accept the possibility for change and repentance, I will drown in a spiral of shame.

It is hard to look back on my life and admit or pinpoint when I started telling lies instead of the truth. Like water is to a fish, it is something I have always lived with. That might sound strange to some, but perhaps a better way to explain would be to say that I have...

, 9 months 3 weeks ago

Samuel answers a viewers question about when it's better to walk away from your spouse.

, 9 months 3 weeks ago
waiting involves that we participate and engage-survivors Blog-Elizabeth-Waiting

Chances are if you are reading this, you are waiting for something. I remember early on in our recovery from my infidelity, it seemed that I was waiting mostly for some sort of relief from the circumstances I had created. I was lost in a complete shame spiral, and I wanted relief! I wanted the pain to go away. I have to admit now, I also was so ready for my husband to not be in pain anymore. I...

, 9 months 3 weeks ago

Samuel discusses what it means to lose yourself while doing repair work.

, 9 months 4 weeks ago

Samuel answers a viewers question about what to do when their betrayed spouse won't get help.

, 10 months 2 days ago
dear unfaithful keep working hard - survivors blog - elizabeth - letter to the unfaithful

If you are reading this and your affair has been discovered, chances are you don't know where to turn, where to go, or have any idea what will come of your life.

You might feel like your life is over. Humiliation probably doesn't begin to scratch the surface of what you are feeling. You are now exposed for who you really are. You are a cheater. You are a liar....

, 10 months 3 days ago

Samuel shares a monumental recovery tool for those who are trying to get unstuck in their recovery work.

, 10 months 5 days ago

Samuel discusses a normal struggle for couples in crisis due to infidelity.

, 10 months 6 days ago
i hope you know that you arent alone in your story-survivors Blog-Elizabeth-Rebuilding-and-Remorse-from-a-Plane

I am writing this as I sit on a flight to a sunny destination with my husband; the same man who has courageously fought to give our marriage another chance.

I am so grateful.

So much has changed in...

, 10 months 1 week ago

Samuel shares practical insight into why the unfaithful hesitates to give details about their affair.