As past participants, we want our walks through infidelity to bring hope, inspiration, and courage to your own journey.
, 1 year 3 weeks ago

Samuel helps both spouses understand the need to survive before they can move on to the next season of repair work.

, 1 year 3 weeks ago
affair recovery-survivors blog-elizabeth-when it seems like everything has changed

When it comes to God, one of the most beautiful things about Him is also what I find most fascinating about Him --- He simply won't change. He doesn't budge and He is who He says He is. Yesterday, today, forever.

God does not keep office hours or change His mind on a matter. He won't get bored and He sure isn't fickle. His compassion will never end. He will never tire of hearing or listening to our broken hearts.

For all of us trying to sort out the...

, 1 year 3 weeks ago

Samuel discusses how to prioritize our own individual healing while discussing a major struggle couples in recovery face.

, 1 year 4 weeks ago

Today Samuel shares five keys to personal and marital recovery work.

, 1 year 4 weeks ago
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How did you have the good fortune to come across Affair Recovery?

I found AR while I scoured the internet for help. Post D-day, I did what I have always done when there is a crisis in my family---research.

To be fair, first I cried.

I cried and cried and cried. I simply could not believe my husband could do such a thing; the person who was one half of the golden couple of our college. One half of the couple all our friends envied. The guy our female friends called such a wonderful husband. "He's so affectionate. He washes dishes! He is so nice to us. He likes all...

, 1 year 1 month ago
affairrecovery-survivors blog-elizabeth-why it is imperative to reach full disclosure

Today I am going to share the biggest mistake that I made since my last affair, and how it almost cost me everything. It was, in my opinion, even worse than my infidelity. That mistake was my inability to reach full disclosure the first time. For six weeks, I held on to secrets about my behavior and I continued to lie about what I had done.

Our world started crumbling down on our wedding anniversary two years ago. Every single detail of the disclosure process is awful, but it really...

, 1 year 1 month ago

Today, one of our EMS Weekend therapists, Leigh Ashley, continues her discussion on codependency and how to navigate it's complexities.

, 1 year 1 month ago

Today, one of our EMS Weekend therapists, Leigh Ashley, discusses a key component in recovery work: codependency.

, 1 year 1 month ago
affair recovery-survivors blog-christine-who knew-i will not only survive i will live to thrive to help others thrive

When I received my first contract to publish in 2006, I never imagined the path of the next decade. The biggest 'high' of my life ended with the biggest low. For the first time in my life I'd ventured into a pursuit completely of my own making, my own dream. The story I'd spent six months crafting was considered enviable, a work worth taking the risk a publisher takes every time they invest time, money and effort into a new author. I'd accomplished what few aspiring authors would: a book publishing...

, 1 year 1 month ago
affair recovery-survivors Blog-Elizabeth-One-of-the-Biggest-Myths-About-Unfaithful-Wives-i cannot say i had an affair because i wanted to leave our marriage the truth is i was unfaithful because i am broke and sinful i am selfish

Research shows that there is a growing number of unfaithful women. Exact numbers are hard to come by, and I expect that will always be the case. If unfaithful spouses are lying, why would they be honest in research? Regardless, I think we can all learn qualitatively. And I feel called to put a voice behind the myths and questions out there.


, 1 year 1 month ago

Samuel reveals and discusses one of the biggest killers of momentum and intimacy in both recovery work and marriage.

, 1 year 1 month ago

Samuel answers a viewers question and sheds light on a sensitive topic.

, 1 year 1 month ago

Samuel discusses denial in repair work and how it damages both spouses.

, 1 year 1 month ago

Samuel shares insight into what a process looks like when healing from infidelity.

, 1 year 1 month ago

"Send Lawyers, Guns, and Money, the $#!* has Hit the Fan"
Warren Zevon

As a Christian, I always understood marriage to be a biblical union of two people, a part of God's plan for companionship as first illustrated in the Garden of Eden. Common text book definitions note a union of two people or a combination of two or more elements. While its roots are biblical, our society recognizes it as an institution, inherent with legal rights and responsibilities.

As we all know, healing and reconciliation in this arena takes significant time and work. The problem is, the legal system we use to institutionalize marriage does not give incentive to allow time...

, 1 year 1 month ago
affairrecovery-survivors-blog-elizabeth-i hope that where ever you find yourself today, you are working towards acceptance

Last night we were attending church. If you are not a church goer, no judgement here. The number of times I set foot inside a church before I turned 25 was few and far between. Church can be such a healing place for many, yet such a triggering place for others. Throughout my own life I have seen so many good things done by the church. I have also witnessed the very worst of humanity inside the supposed church walls. However, I still believe in the church simply because I choose...

, 1 year 1 month ago

Samuel shares more of his own story and how rushing Samantha never worked.

, 1 year 1 month ago

Samuel answers a viewers question about still communicating with an affair partner after the affair is over.

, 1 year 2 months ago

Samuel shares a key recovery tool for his own healing and a relapse prevention tool.

, 1 year 2 months ago

Samuel answers a viewers question and shares insight into when it's time to focus on your own recovery

, 1 year 2 months ago

Samuel discusses trying to control our spouse's reactions to infidelity and repair work.

, 1 year 2 months ago
affairrecovery-survivors Blog-Elizabeth-Roots-Part-2-the stories that remain untold are the ones that remain a stronghold

The heart is hopelessly dark and deceitful,
A puzzle that no one can figure out.
But I, God, search the heart and examine the mind.
I get to the heart of the human.
I get to the root of things.
I treat them as they really are,
Not as they pretend to be.
Jeremiah 17:9-10

Remember those shallow roots we are developing?...

, 1 year 2 months ago

Samuel uses a well known parable to illustrate what it takes to heal from betrayal.

, 1 year 2 months ago

Samuel shares a hopeful message of how to not give up on your own healing.

, 1 year 2 months ago
affairrecovery-survivors Blog-Elizabeth-Roots-Pt-1-keep pursuing the endeavors that will deepen your roots

But blessed is the one who trusts in Me alone;
the Eternal will be his confidence.
He is like a tree planted by water,
sending out its roots beside the stream.
It does not fear the heat or even drought.
Its leaves stay green and its fruit is dependable, no matter what it faces.
Jeremiah 17:7-8

My roots have been shallow. . .

, 1 year 2 months ago

Samuel shares a pivotal mistake unfaithful spouses make in recovery work.

, 1 year 2 months ago

Samuel shares insight into a common struggle for couples in recovery.

, 1 year 2 months ago
affairrecovery -survivors blog-elizabeth-be careful not to judge someones character by the pain they are in--Why-the-Unfaithful-Fears-the-Betrayed

To betrayed spouses everywhere: other than the obvious apology that is owed to you for the injustice thrown upon you due to infidelity, I have yet another confession to offer to you.

I am embarrassed to say how deep my fears, insecurities and shame have reached. For much of my recovery (for most of the first year anyway), I have been afraid of you. I have feared your pain, your emotion, your comments and your rawness of emotion. I know...

, 1 year 2 months ago

Samuel discusses what happens when betrayed spouses consider forgiving their spouse too early in recovery.

, 1 year 3 months ago

Samuel shares insight into how both spouses can heal after infidelity.