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As past participants, we want our walks through infidelity to bring hope, inspiration, and courage to your own journey.
, 10 months 3 weeks ago

Samuel discusses what happens when betrayed spouses consider forgiving their spouse too early in recovery.

, 10 months 3 weeks ago

Samuel shares insight into how both spouses can heal after infidelity.

, 11 months 18 hours ago

Samuel shares pivotal insight surrounding the need for the right process in recovering from infidelity.

, 11 months 2 days ago

Samuel discusses denial and it's effects upon those in crisis.

, 11 months 3 days ago
affair recovery-survivors blog-chase-ramblings-if i am to sruvive, then i have to keep facing the darkness head on, and refuse to succumb to the temptation to try and sweep it away

Two years ago, I had my first d day. Wow, how my life has changed since. I find myself fighting darkness again lately. Perhaps it's the anniversary, perhaps its fatigue, perhaps it's a little bit of a lot of things… so I write to clear my head. This blog is simply the ramblings of a betrayed man in the weeds.

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, 11 months 6 days ago
survivors Blog-Elizabeth-Sadness-one of the things i have found to be true about the walk of recovery from infidelity, is the longer i walk, the less i know. and the less i know, the more i feel.

One of the things I have found to be true about the walk of recovery from infidelity, is the longer I walk, the less I know. And the less I know, the more I feel.

The feeling that has overwhelmed me of late is one of pretty intense sadness. It seems I feel sorrow in every bone and fiber within...

, 11 months 1 week ago

Samuel shares the truth behind the statement: if you loved me you would have never cheated on me.

, 11 months 1 week ago
survivors Blog-Elizabeth-Thoughts-on-Marriage-what i actually needed was for someone to tell me that it hurt because it mattered

Today I wanted to share something that happened in my office that was incredibly moving to me. At work, we get to see people of all ages and ailments. Whatever your profession is, have you ever had a moment when someone walks in your door and you quickly realize (even though you are the so called professional) that you are the one about to learn?...

, 11 months 1 week ago

Samuel shares what remorse sounds and looks like for those in crisis.

, 11 months 2 weeks ago

Samuel discusses misunderstanding, defensiveness and accusation.

, 11 months 2 weeks ago

Samuel helps those who feel stuck in their recovery.

, 11 months 3 weeks ago

Samuel shares personal insight on how to heal from the humiliation spouses feel from infidelity.

, 11 months 3 weeks ago

When I hear the words liar or cheater, I get a yucky and icky feeling in my stomach. I do not have the strength to face the realization that all of us are broken, without also knowing all people are able to choose humility and redemption. If I don't accept the possibility for change and repentance, I will drown in a spiral of shame.

It is hard to look back on my life and admit or pinpoint when I started telling lies instead of the truth. Like water is to a fish, it is something I have always lived with. That might sound strange to some, but perhaps a better way to explain would be to say that I have...

, 11 months 3 weeks ago

Samuel answers a viewers question about when it's better to walk away from your spouse.

, 11 months 3 weeks ago
waiting involves that we participate and engage-survivors Blog-Elizabeth-Waiting

Chances are if you are reading this, you are waiting for something. I remember early on in our recovery from my infidelity, it seemed that I was waiting mostly for some sort of relief from the circumstances I had created. I was lost in a complete shame spiral, and I wanted relief! I wanted the pain to go away. I have to admit now, I also was so ready for my husband to not be in pain anymore. I...

, 11 months 4 weeks ago

Samuel discusses what it means to lose yourself while doing repair work.

, 12 months 18 hours ago

Samuel answers a viewers question about what to do when their betrayed spouse won't get help.

, 12 months 4 days ago
dear unfaithful keep working hard - survivors blog - elizabeth - letter to the unfaithful

If you are reading this and your affair has been discovered, chances are you don't know where to turn, where to go, or have any idea what will come of your life.

You might feel like your life is over. Humiliation probably doesn't begin to scratch the surface of what you are feeling. You are now exposed for who you really are. You are a cheater. You are a liar....

, 1 year 19 hours ago

Samuel shares a monumental recovery tool for those who are trying to get unstuck in their recovery work.

, 1 year 2 days ago

Samuel discusses a normal struggle for couples in crisis due to infidelity.

, 1 year 3 days ago
i hope you know that you arent alone in your story-survivors Blog-Elizabeth-Rebuilding-and-Remorse-from-a-Plane

I am writing this as I sit on a flight to a sunny destination with my husband; the same man who has courageously fought to give our marriage another chance.

I am so grateful.

So much has changed in...

, 1 year 1 week ago

Samuel shares practical insight into why the unfaithful hesitates to give details about their affair.

, 1 year 1 week ago

Samuel interviews MJ Denis on understanding multiple disclosures and how to help the betrayed spouse move forward.

, 1 year 1 week ago
can an Blog-Elizabeth-Can-an-Unfaithful-Wife-Ever-Have-Male-Friends-survivors blog-elizabeth

When you begin sorting out the mess of infidelity, life gets complicated. As an unfaithful female, I started to question all interaction I had with the opposite sex following D day. I honestly considered at one point, that it might be easiest to just convert myself into a nun so I could avoid men for the rest...

, 1 year 2 weeks ago

Samuel interviews MJ Denis on understanding multiple disclosures and how to help the betrayed spouse move forward.

, 1 year 2 weeks ago

Samuel shares key insight into changing patterns when one spouse seems to be the pursuer.

, 1 year 2 weeks ago
whatever you are doing to try to care for your injured spouse keep doing it-survivors Blog-Elizabeth-How-do-I-Show-my-Betrayed-Spouse-that-I-Really-Care

I was reading through many of my journal entries during the first year after discovery. I have several journals that are stuffed with scribbles, thoughts, and pages of raw and bloodied emotion. As I thumb through the hundreds of pages, I can see...

, 1 year 3 weeks ago

Samuel interviews Rick the founder of affairrecovery.com on defensiveness and how to remedy it.

, 1 year 3 weeks ago

Samuel discuses an important recovery tool for those who deal with anger in repair work.

, 1 year 3 weeks ago

Samuel discusses gaslighting and both the betrayed and unfaithful spouse.

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