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As past participants, we want our walks through infidelity to bring hope, inspiration, and courage to your own journey.
, 9 months 2 weeks ago

Samuel discusses when and how to use an ultimatum in recovery work.

, 9 months 2 weeks ago

Samuel shares hope and tangible encouragement for those struggling to find hope.

, 9 months 2 weeks ago
the more i grow in my own journey of self-discovery, the more i begin to see my situation from a higher level. author - chase

A good friend of mine, and fellow betrayed husband (yes, we met at an EMS weekend), coined it best when he said, "This isn't highs and lows; it's chutes and ladders." All of us on this journey have experienced the hope generated by progress. Then, seemingly out of nowhere, the bottom falls out and in the moment all hope seems lost.

Which way is up?

I am now 16 months out from my first...

, 9 months 3 weeks ago

Samuel shares a significant pointer for the unfaithful spouse trying to win back trust.

, 9 months 3 weeks ago

Samuel shares insight into three recoveries that have to be addressed when healing from infidelity.

, 9 months 3 weeks ago

Today in counseling I was stunned by a concept I’ve heard most my life. Similar to the old quilt that covers our bed, I became so familiar with it I no longer saw the depth of beauty in it.

My counselor asked me how I felt I was doing at “feeling my husband’s pain”. He has a way of asking a simple question and patiently waits for me to take as long as I need to respond. Having been a counselor for over 40 years, he sees right through me and my crap most days.

How am I doing with handling my husband’s pain? You mean the pain I created with MY infidelity?

In the silence of that moment I found myself...

, 9 months 4 weeks ago

Samuel shares insight into the tactic of 'rewriting history' and how to recover from it.

, 10 months 14 hours ago

Samuel discusses the common question in recovery; are we too far gone to be healed?

, 10 months 5 days ago

Samuel discusses a trap many unfaithful spouses fall into in recovery.

, 10 months 1 week ago

Samuel shares a controversial but powerful approach to finding true healing.

, 10 months 1 week ago

Samuel shares insight into how to forgive the affair partner after the discovery of infidelity.

, 10 months 2 weeks ago

Samuel discusses how we can be traumatized by well meaning therapists and authority figures.

, 10 months 2 weeks ago

"Learn how to be okay
when things are not okay."

When I first heard this statement I thought it was dumb and much too simple. It was almost insulting – like trying to treat an intensive care wound with a band aid.

However, ten long months into recovery, this statement has been a foundational thought in getting through many hard days.

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, 10 months 2 weeks ago

Samuel shares insight into a common mistake couples make in recovering from infidelity or addiction.

, 10 months 3 weeks ago

Samuel shares the proper motivation for recovery work after infidelity for both spouses.

, 10 months 3 weeks ago

Samuel discusses a necessary paradigm shift if couples are going to heal from infidelity.

, 10 months 4 weeks ago

Samuel shares his own experience in adjusting to life after disclosure and embracing new patterns in life.

, 11 months 3 days ago

Samuel speaks to the betrayed spouse on what anger is costing them in their recovery.

, 11 months 5 days ago

Samuel shares his own experience in adjusting to life after disclosure and embracing new patterns in life.

, 11 months 1 week ago
text hereThe other day I was getting my haircut. If you are a woman, or even know a woman, you most likely know we can be in there for hours. I pay to be blonder than I am.

Not long into the process, the conversation started. One woman said,
"Did you hear about so and so?"
The floodgates of opinions opened.
"I can't believe she hasn't just left the SOB".
"What a jerk. How could he do that?"
...

, 11 months 1 week ago

Samuel discusses how defensiveness diminishes safety from the recovery process.

, 11 months 1 week ago

Samuel shares a key approach to helping the unfaithful spouse get healthy after infidelity.

, 11 months 2 weeks ago

Samuel discusses a major paradigm shift in recovering from infidelity or addiction.

, 11 months 2 weeks ago

Samuel discusses one of the number one reasons couples don't make it in recovery or marriage.

, 11 months 3 weeks ago

Samuel answers a viewers question on why the unfaithful will often times withdraw in recovery work.

, 11 months 3 weeks ago

Samuel shares suggestions for the betrayed spouse in rediscovering the unfaithful's heart.

, 12 months 15 hours ago
Find the courage to come out of hiding

Why is hiding so tempting and where does the desire come from?

Hide and seek. This is a game my kids play for hours, even now as teenagers. There is such terror and anxiety in the moments you are waiting but the best part of the whole game is the feeling you get when you are found. I remember when my girls were little and would find great hiding spots. They were so excited they would often yell out, “I’m in here, come find me!” I often wonder why the game was so delightful for them. I’m guessing it...

, 12 months 1 day ago

Samuel shares pointers on how to help the unfaithful rediscover the betrayed's heart.

, 12 months 3 days ago

Samuel shares pivotal insight on how to navigate the transition of recovery work.

, 1 year 3 days ago

Samuel provides framework to one of the most sensitive questions a betrayed spouse can ask their unfaithful spouse.

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