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As past participants, we want our walks through infidelity to bring hope, inspiration, and courage to your own journey.
, 1 year 2 months ago

Samuel shares insight into three recoveries that have to be addressed when healing from infidelity.

, 1 year 3 months ago

Today in counseling I was stunned by a concept I’ve heard most my life. Similar to the old quilt that covers our bed, I became so familiar with it I no longer saw the depth of beauty in it.

My counselor asked me how I felt I was doing at “feeling my husband’s pain”. He has a way of asking a simple question and patiently waits for me to take as long as I need to respond. Having been a counselor for over 40 years, he sees right through me and my crap most days.

How am I doing with handling my husband’s pain? You mean the pain I created with MY infidelity?

In the silence of that moment I found myself...

, 1 year 3 months ago

Samuel shares insight into the tactic of 'rewriting history' and how to recover from it.

, 1 year 3 months ago

Samuel discusses the common question in recovery; are we too far gone to be healed?

, 1 year 3 months ago

Samuel discusses a trap many unfaithful spouses fall into in recovery.

, 1 year 3 months ago

Samuel shares a controversial but powerful approach to finding true healing.

, 1 year 3 months ago

Samuel shares insight into how to forgive the affair partner after the discovery of infidelity.

, 1 year 3 months ago

Samuel discusses how we can be traumatized by well meaning therapists and authority figures.

, 1 year 3 months ago

"Learn how to be okay
when things are not okay."

When I first heard this statement I thought it was dumb and much too simple. It was almost insulting – like trying to treat an intensive care wound with a band aid.

However, ten long months into recovery, this statement has been a foundational thought in getting through many hard days.

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, 1 year 3 months ago

Samuel shares insight into a common mistake couples make in recovering from infidelity or addiction.

, 1 year 3 months ago

Samuel shares the proper motivation for recovery work after infidelity for both spouses.

, 1 year 4 months ago

Samuel discusses a necessary paradigm shift if couples are going to heal from infidelity.

, 1 year 4 months ago

Samuel shares his own experience in adjusting to life after disclosure and embracing new patterns in life.

, 1 year 4 months ago

Samuel speaks to the betrayed spouse on what anger is costing them in their recovery.

, 1 year 4 months ago

Samuel shares his own experience in adjusting to life after disclosure and embracing new patterns in life.

, 1 year 4 months ago
text hereThe other day I was getting my haircut. If you are a woman, or even know a woman, you most likely know we can be in there for hours. I pay to be blonder than I am.

Not long into the process, the conversation started. One woman said,
"Did you hear about so and so?"
The floodgates of opinions opened.
"I can't believe she hasn't just left the SOB".
"What a jerk. How could he do that?"
...

, 1 year 4 months ago

Samuel discusses how defensiveness diminishes safety from the recovery process.

, 1 year 4 months ago

Samuel shares a key approach to helping the unfaithful spouse get healthy after infidelity.

, 1 year 4 months ago

Samuel discusses a major paradigm shift in recovering from infidelity or addiction.

, 1 year 4 months ago

Samuel discusses one of the number one reasons couples don't make it in recovery or marriage.

, 1 year 5 months ago

Samuel answers a viewers question on why the unfaithful will often times withdraw in recovery work.

, 1 year 5 months ago

Samuel shares suggestions for the betrayed spouse in rediscovering the unfaithful's heart.

, 1 year 5 months ago
Find the courage to come out of hiding

Why is hiding so tempting and where does the desire come from?

Hide and seek. This is a game my kids play for hours, even now as teenagers. There is such terror and anxiety in the moments you are waiting but the best part of the whole game is the feeling you get when you are found. I remember when my girls were little and would find great hiding spots. They were so excited they would often yell out, “I’m in here, come find me!” I often wonder why the game was so delightful for them. I’m guessing it...

, 1 year 5 months ago

Samuel shares pointers on how to help the unfaithful rediscover the betrayed's heart.

, 1 year 5 months ago

Samuel shares pivotal insight on how to navigate the transition of recovery work.

, 1 year 5 months ago

Samuel provides framework to one of the most sensitive questions a betrayed spouse can ask their unfaithful spouse.

, 1 year 5 months ago
It's important that you find a confidant after discovery. Do not think you can go through this agony alone.

Who is your confidant? Who do you reach out to when you need to talk? Not just for friendly chit-chats about the latest movie or daily frustrations over child care. But who do you pour out your heart to when you're sad, lonely, scared or angry? More importantly, who listens to your deepest fears, heartache and pain over the betrayal you're living with?

Have you found a confidant that you trust, that special someone who is there when you need to cry, mourn, yell or just sit and be held?

Susan was that...

, 1 year 5 months ago

Samuel provides insight into how to find greater freedom in recovery.

, 1 year 5 months ago

Samuel shares a story form his own journey about healing his heart.

, 1 year 6 months ago

Samuel answers a viewers question on what to do when the betrayed refuses to get help.

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