Hope For Healing Excerpt: How Does The Unfaithful Make Amends?
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How do you communicate to someone that you're sorry you've done something that has forever altered his or her life? The following is adapted from our Hope for Healing course for unfaithful spouses.
In my own recovery, one of the most frustrating aspects of communication with my wife was her unwillingness to accept my apologies. Time and time again I would express remorse over…
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Who is the Other Woman?
Disclaimer: This may be a difficult article for some of you to read. Before reading, take a moment to consider how far along you are in recovery. Those who are newer to recovery will not be able to process the information in this article from an objective perspective. The information is important to understand, but the last thing we want to do is to cause unnecessary pain. Our suggestion is to wait until you are further along in recovery so you will be able to truly absorb all the article has to say. For those of you in this position, we suggest reading instead our 6-part "How Could You?" Series.
Who is the other woman? Who is the other man?
Is she a home wrecker, a floozy, a bimbo? Is he a bad boy, a tough guy or a brainiac?
Is he or she someone to be hated or pitied?
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Songs for the Soul | Through the Valley
We are so excited to finally share with you a brand new season of 'Songs for the Soul' with Rodney & Angela. Songs for the Soul was created by this inspiring couple as a space where their testimony meets their harmony, to encourage couples and individuals who are overcoming infidelity.
In this episode, Rodney shares a very personal song that he wrote during a hard season in his life, long before infidelity rocked his marriage. He would sing it quietly to encourage himself, and never thought he would be sharing it with others. But God had other plans. In Rodney's own words, "I present this song as a gift, in hopes that it can encourage someone else going through a valley right now."
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Recovering from Infidelity: Difficulties with Intimacy
Recovering from Infidelity: Difficulties with Intimacy
A 3 Part Series
Part 1: Difficulties with Intimacy
Part 2: Difficulties with Intimacy for the Betrayed
Part 3: Difficulties with Intimacy for the Unfaithful
In recent years, one of the most popular topics in sexology has been female sexual desire disorders. For the past four decades, women have been pathologized for not being like men.
For instance, according to University of British Columbia psychiatrist Rosemary Basson, "sexual difficulties are particularly prevalent among women seeking routine gynecological care. In population surveys, some 30%–35% of women aged 18–70 have reported a lack of sexual desire during the previous 1–12 months." The percentage of women reporting sexual…
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Community for Healing from Infidelity – Affair Recovery
Years ago, I ran multiple marathons. Reflecting back, I realize that marathon running wasn't just an individual sport; it was a group effort where other competitors shared my experience. The people I trained with encouraged and pushed me, helping me achieve goals I never thought possible. During the races, other competitors motivated me and propelled me toward the finish line. Running alongside others made completing a 26.2-mile run more achievable.
Our brains are wired to assume that others will help and support us. That's why social support is critical to health and well-being, as numerous studies have shown. A life partner, family, community, and robust social network are significant predictors of overall health and longevity in life. However, when traumatized, our brains try to convince us to avoid the very things we need for healing. It's essential not to…
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Songs for the Soul | Rick Reynolds
We are so excited to finally share with you a brand new season of 'Songs for the Soul' with Rodney & Angela. Songs for the Soul was created by this inspiring couple as a space where their testimony meets their harmony, to encourage couples and individuals who are overcoming infidelity.
In the second episode, Affair Recovery Founder Rick Reynolds, LCSW, joins the discussion with scientific links between singing and recovery from infidelity. Check out this note from Rick explaining the history behind this beautiful passion project.
In August of 2015, I was invited to Gateway Church for a reunion with past participants of the EMS program. To my delight, a married couple was leading worship together. My heart was deeply touched by their music.
Afterwards, I went up to introduce myself to those gifted musicians. After…
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Healing After an Affair: How do I Address Unmanageability?
Recently, I was talking with a client about the concept of powerlessness. In most 12 step recovery programs, the first step is to acknowledge we are powerless and our lives are unmanageable. Something I find to be an excellent antidote to powerlessness and unmanageability is acceptance. I also find acceptance to be a crucial part of healing after an affair:
acceptance of my circumstances,
acceptance that my best efforts have brought me to this place,
acceptance of my inability to affect change in myself as well as others, and
acceptance of who and what I really am.
Acceptance is the beginning of hope. Until we can accept that as truth, we are powerless. We will be destined to continue longing for change in areas we’ve never successfully managed to change. Rather than accept…
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Beyond EMS | Week 6
For those who have been betrayed:
For those who have been betrayed:
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Beyond EMS | Week 6
For those who have been wayward:
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The Betrayed's Reaction: An Excerpt from Harboring Hope
Today, I'd like to share an excerpt from our Harboring Hope course.
As you may or may not know, all of our authors, contributors, therapists, and vloggers have personally survived an infidelity crisis. When we say “we get it,” we really do. We understand your pain and frustration and desperate need for clarity and direction. We've felt your struggle personally and have lived to tell about it. We are here to help guide you through it.
This article is not just for the Betrayed individual. Reading the material below will prove extremely beneficial for the unfaithful individual in terms of gaining a better understanding of the betrayed's road ahead. While it's not an easy journey, it is a possible one and with the right help, we can minimize unnecessary collateral damage for all parties involved.
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Surviving Infidelity: 6 Things I Wish I'd Known
This week's article explores the question: "After the affair came to light, what didn't you know that you needed to know?"
A hundred wayward spouses could tell you what they wish they'd known, and all of their responses would carry some merit. Today, however, I'd like to turn the lens on myself — an unfaithful spouse — to share six things I wish I'd known as well as what I've observed over my 30-plus years of marriage.
1. It's Not About Me
Yes, I perpetrated the infidelity, but the devastation and loss belonged to my wife. Helping her heal from the wound I created needed to be my focus — not all my reasons why and not my guilt and shame. It was far too easy to make it about me rather than listen to her pain and take responsibility. I must admit that early on, this is one of the toughest things for the wayward spouse to accomplish in recovery.
2. Surviving…
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Beyond EMS | Week 4
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Beyond EMS | Week 4
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Beyond EMS | Week 4
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Hope Rising 2023 On Demand
The following videos are from the Sixth Annual Hope Rising Conference
for betrayed spouses from September 30th 2023. If you are interested in attending the next annual Hope Rising Conference, learn more here: www.affairrecovery.com/hope-rising
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Surviving Infidelity: The #1 Challenge to Recovery
One of the most frustrating issues when recovering from betrayal trauma is the ongoing emotional flooding that comes from the loss, deception, reminders, and intrusive thoughts. Long after a couple commits to work on the marriage, a fire-breathing trauma-dragon will raise its head and scorch the little progress they make. I call it a dragon because this type of trauma appears as if from nowhere for a ruthless surprise attack. This dragon of trauma is difficult to describe, so it can seem imaginary to those around you who don't know this kind of pain. For you though, it feels so big and so impossible to manage that recovery often seems utterly hopeless.
Join other betrayed mates on the path to healing with our life-changing Harboring Hope online course and start a better, brighter chapter.
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The Importance of Wisdom Following Infidelity
"Now I get it," an angry spouse shouted at their mate.
I doubt it, I thought to myself. I was speaking with a couple that, after infidelity, had been working for five months to understand the "why" of the affair.
While trying to explain the dynamics of the relationship and the frequency of contact with the affair partner, the betrayed spouse concluded, "You obviously never loved me. I never did anything to hurt you."
The wayward spouses rebutted, "Are you serious? You were so controlling. I had no voice in our relationship; everything had to be done your way!"
"Well, at least I was always honest with you ... " the betrayed spouse's words lingered in silence. They were at an impasse again.
I was confident that the truth fell somewhere between their two subjective realities. Unfortunately, the trauma and pain…
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Beyond EMS | Week 3
For those who have been wayward:
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Beyond EMS | Week 3
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Pilot Program
For Hope for Healing & Harboring Hope alumni
The course ends.The community doesn’t have to.
AR Community Groups are weekly 90-minute drop-in sessions led by experienced Group Leaders — the same structure, safety, and honesty you knew in your course. Come every week, or just the weeks you need it.
Reserve your seat
Open only to alumni who completed Hope for Healing or Harboring Hope.
Eight seats. One is open for you.
Why this exists
Finishing your course was a beginning, not an ending.
For 13 or 17 weeks you had a rhythm: a call, a group, people who knew your story by first name. Then it ended — and staying connected got harder. Community Groups give you a place to return to, built by the people who built your course.
Led by experienced Group Leaders
Every session is facilitated by a senior AR Group Leader who has walked this road personally and led many course groups before yours.
Drop in when you need it
No 13-week commitment. Reserve a single seat for a single session — weekly, monthly, or in the seasons when recovery feels heavy again.
The same safety you knew
First names only. No recordings. A group agreement read at the start of every session. Guided discussion drawn from AR’s materials — never a free-for-all.
Pilot schedule
Two groups to start. More as the community grows.
Sessions run on Zoom for six weeks during the pilot. Each group is capped at eight so every voice fits in ninety minutes.
For Hope for Healing alumni
Men’s Community Group
Led by Rick W.
Tuesdays 7:00–8:30 PM CT
Where Zoom
8 seats per session
$20 per session · pay only for the sessions you join
Reserve a seat — Tuesdays
For Harboring Hope alumnae
Women’s Community Group
Led by Alex W.
Thursdays 7:00–8:30 PM CT
Where Zoom
8 seats per session
$25 per session · pay only for the sessions you join
Reserve a seat — Thursdays
Times follow leader availability and may adjust between pilot cycles. Same-gender groups, matched to your course — the format you already know.
What a session looks like
Ninety minutes with a shape you’ll recognize.
First 20 minutes
Check-in
First names, your course, and one word for where you are this week. Everyone speaks early — no one carries the room alone.
The heart of the session
Guided topic
A weekly discussion guide drawn from AR’s materials — staying connected, rebuilding trust in yourself, handling triggers, and more.
Before you go
One small commitment
Each person names one doable step for the week ahead. Small and real beats big and vague.
Alumni only
First names only
Never recorded
Structured discussion guides
Faith-respectful, never faith-required
Questions
Good to know before you reserve.
Who can join?
Anyone who has completed Hope for Healing (men’s group) or Harboring Hope (women’s group). Groups follow the same gender separation as the courses. Your registration is checked against course completion — that shared foundation is what keeps the room safe.
Do I have to come every week?
No. That’s the point of drop-in: reserve a seat only for the sessions you want. Many alumni come weekly for a season; others return when something stirs things up. Both are welcome.
Is this counseling?
No. Community Groups are peer support facilitated by an experienced Group Leader — not counseling, therapy, or a substitute for either. If a session surfaces something that needs more support, your leader will help point you to the right resources.
What if a session fills up?
Each session is capped at eight participants so everyone has room to speak. If your week is full, you can grab a seat in the next one — and as the pilot grows, we’ll add groups and time slots based on demand.
There’s a seat open for you.
You did the hard work of the course. Staying connected is how it lasts — and you don’t have to do it alone.
Reserve your seat
AR Community Groups are peer support for course alumni and are not counseling or a substitute for counseling. If you are in crisis, call or text 988 (US Suicide & Crisis Lifeline) or contact local emergency services. © 2026 Affair Recovery · affairrecovery.com
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Healing After an Affair: Emotional Flooding and Reminders
After almost seventeen years of helping couples and individuals professionally, I have discovered that crises affect us far more than we are aware. The impact of a crisis, whatever it may be, must be dealt with if we ever want to find healing and hope for a better future.
Grieving to Acceptance
The trauma experienced by a couple upon the revelation of a betrayal is no small matter, and it creates a raw, emotional upheaval that must be dealt with by both parties. Yes, both parties. To be sure, the initial stage of healing after an affair is about grieving. For the betrayed spouse, the pain of the loss is overwhelming. There is the loss of self-confidence, the loss of the life they thought they had, the loss of their dreams, the loss of security, and the loss of their belief in who they thought their spouse was. They also must grieve…
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How Long Does It Take to Recover From An Affair?
Recovering from an affair isn't just a matter of how badly someone wants to heal, it's also a matter of time and dedicated, intentional work. I can't tell you how many times I get asked, "How long is this going to take?" My answer is always, "It depends." One thing is for sure: Recovering from an affair will take longer than both of you expected, and it's not necessarily based on how much you want to recover.
It has been my experience that it takes most couples two to three years, and that's if they have the help of a qualified professional to guide them. Unfortunately, it can take longer when they do not share the same goal or level of dedication to repair the damage and rebuild their lives. When the focus is just getting over it and moving on, it can take much longer. The emotional wounds of infidelity are severe and most often disastrous to the…
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The Fight to Forgive
Whenever I write or speak about forgiveness, I'm always amazed at the outpouring of heartfelt comments. I grieve over the pain expressed by those who've been injured, and I pray that their mates will come to understand and appreciate the price they've paid on their behalf.
After a betrayal, forgiveness is necessary for your own healing. It's not an easy process, though, and it comes with its own set of challenges. The key challenge when forgiving infidelity is the ongoing consequences of the betrayal.
Accepting the Ongoing Consequences of the Betrayal
When a rock is thrown into the still waters of a pond, shock waves travel outward from the point of impact in ever-expanding circles. Infidelity's impact on a relationship is much the same. Unlike how the act of forgiving hurtful words or inconsiderate actions is typically a one-time, there-and-done…
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Communication with a Pregnant Affair Partner: Lessons Learned and What Worked for Us
This is not an easy journey and it will be imperfect and awkward but when the Affair Partner is pregnant as a result of infidelity, we have learned some critical lessons about how to navigate this situation with the best interest of the child at the center while still being able to heal and recover. In this blog I will discuss these lessons and what worked for us to help you.
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Healthy Heart, Healthy Mind: Discussing Healthy Coping and Connecting with Others
Woven into our basic makeup is the desire and need to “do life together”. By connecting with others - sharing openly, being honest, and not minimizing our struggles, we develop healthy stress coping mechanisms that enable us to get out of our own heads and keep our hearts and minds healthy.
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A Betrayed Spouse’s Journey: Rewriting the Past After Disclosure
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Today, I want to discuss a crucial step for the betrayed spouse when recovering from infidelity: letting go. And there’s a lot to this. It’s letting go of the past, letting go of your spouse’s recovery, and letting go of your former ideas of the future.
The material for this week’s article comes directly from our Harboring Hope curriculum, which was written by Leslie Hardie, LCSW, and John Mark Haney, Ph.D., LPC. This 13-week course is specifically designed to help the betrayed spouse heal and move forward in their own recovery. Some of the things we’ll be covering…
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My Spouse Had an Affair: What Should I Do Now?
After disclosure, it's common for a husband or wife in crisis to ask, What should I do next?" It's a fair question. After your world has been turned upside down by infidelity, it's difficult to know what the proper course of action is to help repair the damage. "What if my spouse is ambivalent?" is another fair question, which can dictate what steps you decide to take in the immediate future. With the uncertainty of the marriage and family swirling around both spouses, finding a unified and strategic course of action can be both challenging and frustrating, but it doesn't have to be.
Our Emergency Marital Seminar Online, better known as EMSO, isn't a one-size-fits-all program for couples. Over decades of experience exclusively in the field of infidelity, our methodology has been honed to better serve couples as they address the betrayal…
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How Can You Move Past Ambivalence After Infidelity?
The Paralysis of Ambivalence: A Two-Part Series
Part 1: Is Ambivalence Common When Healing From Infidelity?
Part 2: How Can You Move Past Ambivalence After Infidelity?
The easiest–and cheapest–way to start on this journey is to take our free First Steps Bootcamp. It's an online guide with 100+ pages of content and a full-length video of a mentor couple who was in as big of a mess as it can get. You'll take a big sigh of relief when you have a clear plan and learn that you're neither crazy nor alone in this journey, whichever side of the infidelity you find yourself on.
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For many, ambivalence can feel paralyzing. Between the up-and-down, back-and-forth emotions, it seems to never end. Often, the…
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