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As past participants, we want our walks through infidelity to bring hope, inspiration, and courage to your own journey.
, 1 year 4 months ago
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Today, my heart is reminded of the pain that once was, the pain that so many of you find yourselves in today. For me, it is a distant, tender scar. It is healing, but if I stare at it long enough or touch it in just the right ways, the pain can all come rushing back.

If you are in the middle of this kind of suffering, you are likely desperate for relief of any kind. Violently painful memories have carved your heart into pieces, and maybe you can't even remember what life looked like before this whirlwind of torment...

, 1 year 5 months ago

Samuel discusses a trap many spouses fall into when they feel their spouse won't change.

, 1 year 5 months ago

Samuel discusses a pitfall many spouses fall into after the discovery of infidelity or addiction.

, 1 year 5 months ago

Samuel provides direction for those who feel they can't be happy again.

, 1 year 5 months ago

Samuel shares encouragement and perspective for those who are trying to heal.

, 1 year 5 months ago
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"Wondering if I will come to a happy place in surrender to self-care. Surrender to me. Myself. And I. Self-talk, positive affirmations of my worth. It's my time now. My season of me. I've given and given and given. No time for guilt over self-care anymore. Over rediscovering who I was…who I am apart from my spouse. I really am still me. How wonderful that she, the little girl inside, has not been extinguished?

Even through the incredible trauma of...

, 1 year 5 months ago

Samuel discusses a toxic struggle both unfaithful and betrayed spouses fall into.

, 1 year 5 months ago

Samuel shares a humorous but poignant story about shame and self hatred.

, 1 year 5 months ago

Samuel discusses tools to help the unfaithful and betrayed spouse heal despite fear of uncertainty.

, 1 year 5 months ago

Samuel shares a common mistake he would often make with Samantha that kept them stuck.

, 1 year 6 months ago
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Self-Love.

Self-Worth.

Self-Compassion.

These are words that I have had to unlearn and relearn—words that I thought I knew, but now realize I misunderstood for most of my life. Now, they actually mean something to me.

Growing up, I would attend church with my mom and siblings. I had just enough of a smattering of church "sayings" and knowledge about the Bible to become familiar with them. But honestly, there was far more I did not understand than what I did understand....

, 1 year 6 months ago

Samuel shares tips on battling depression after disclosure of infidelity or addiction.

, 1 year 6 months ago

Samuel interviews Rob about his life before, during, and after his wife's infidelity.

, 1 year 6 months ago
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Before what we in the infidelity community call "D-day," my life was full—full of gratitude, challenges, and mostly good. My life was nowhere near perfect—punctuated with the losses one experiences when we are lucky enough to live long enough. I had lived a largely intact existence blessed with friends, a beautiful place to call home, and good food on my table.

As a function of my positive, benefit-of-the-doubt...

, 1 year 6 months ago
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This is a question that almost all of us have asked or heard at some point during recovery from infidelity. It might have been screamed in anger, or muttered in a barely audible cry of exasperation. And it is a question we often hear over and over again, "How could you?" It is a good question, and it lies at the heart and sum of all of the pain created when people like me have affairs. It is as if we look to the heavens and we cry out in our pain, a guttural "why?"

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, 1 year 6 months ago

Samuel interviews Melanie, an unfaithful female spouse, about her journey of unfaithfulness and restoration.

, 1 year 6 months ago

Samuel discusses doing hard things in repair work.

, 1 year 6 months ago
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To forgive somebody is to say one way or another "You have done something unspeakable, and by all rights I should call it quits between us. Both my pride and my principles demand no less. However, although I make no guarantees that I will be able to forget what you have done, and though we will both carry the scars for life, I refuse to let it stand between us. One day, I...

, 1 year 6 months ago

Samuel shares thoughts on why we would rather run from our pain than heal from it.

, 1 year 6 months ago

Samuel shares pointed thoughts on rediscovering ourselves after infidelity.

, 1 year 6 months ago

Samuel discusses personal battles we all face in recovery.

, 1 year 7 months ago

Samuel shares a humorous but life changing principle of communication post infidelity.

, 1 year 7 months ago

Samuel tackles a touchy subject: helping the unfaithful spouse forgive.

, 1 year 7 months ago
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Today I am sharing with you something that someone sent to me after my dad died years ago. I have never forgotten it, and I share it with you today for encouragement wherever you are within the waves and wreckage of infidelity.

(This was originally posted on the website thatericalper.com by someone unnamed)

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, 1 year 7 months ago

Samuel shares a personal story of significant healing.

, 1 year 7 months ago

Samuel discusses the need for the unfaithful spouse to have a team around them.

, 1 year 7 months ago

Samuel discusses the journey of the unfaithful spouse and compassion.

, 1 year 7 months ago

Samuel shares truths he's learned on how he forgave himself and chose to find healing.

, 1 year 7 months ago

Samuel interviews Tullian Tchividjian about his personal journey before, during, and after infidelity.

, 1 year 7 months ago

Samuel shares insight he and Samantha have used to heal both their hearts.

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