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As past participants, we want our walks through infidelity to bring hope, inspiration, and courage to your own journey.
, 4 months 2 weeks ago
you have what it takes to heal

Around age 10 or 11 they finally allowed us to steal bases in little league. This change transitioned the position of catcher from a simple filler spot that shagged stray pitches into an athletic position that saw action every play. I remember being pulled from the field and given the mitt. Game time came. A few pitches went by and a batter was on first. I found myself constantly distracted by the runner. As I anticipated his steal, the pitch would get by me. After multiple times I could hear the crowd's mumbled voices full of advice. I desperately began trying to apply everything I was...

, 4 months 2 weeks ago

Samuel answers a viewers question on what you should do when you've lost respect for your unfaithful spouse.

, 4 months 3 weeks ago

Samuel discusses roadblocks couples face in recovery due to a lack of safety.

, 4 months 3 weeks ago
what does change look like - Elizabeth

Today I was reminded of a story by Portia Nelson I heard long ago:

Autobiography in Five Chapters

by Portia Nelson

Chapter One:

I walk down the street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk
I fall in.
I am lost...
I am hopeless.
It isn't my fault.
It takes forever to find a way out.

Chapter Two:...

, 4 months 3 weeks ago

Samuel discusses roadblocks couples face in recovery due to a lack of safety.

, 4 months 4 weeks ago

Samuel interviews MJ Denis, a trauma specialist, about how couples can heal from infidelity.

, 5 months 5 days ago

Samuel interviews MJ Denis, a trauma specialist, about how couples can heal from infidelity.

, 5 months 6 days ago
There is Great Opportunity in What Lies Ahead

Our community is used to the threat of tropical weather. Usually, the early notices start with escalated threats that ultimately result in a windy rain storm passing over our area causing very little damage.

In the hours leading up to the arrival of Hurricane Michael it became obvious this storm was going to be different. At 100 miles inland, we were too far north to be part of the normal evacuation plan. Meteorologists began forecasting that the storm would still be holding hurricane strength by the time it reached us. Our home was well within the...

, 5 months 1 week ago

Samuel addresses the situation where a couple may not believe in their marriage again.

, 5 months 1 week ago

Samuel answers a viewers question and also explains why an unfaithful spouse may label their betrayed spouse controlling.

, 5 months 2 weeks ago
you are not alone. when shame has the last word - elizabeth - affair recovery survivors blog

Shame.

I hate the word. I hate the feeling. I am guessing for most of you reading this, you have more than a vague idea of what this word does to a human being and how it can be one of the most destructive forces on the planet.

I am so tired of shame.

Sure, I can sit here and look back on my life and the things that happened before I had a choice in the matter. Reflect on the things that helped shape my heart into a giant...

, 5 months 2 weeks ago

Samuel discusses when and how to use an ultimatum in recovery work.

, 5 months 2 weeks ago

Samuel shares hope and tangible encouragement for those struggling to find hope.

, 5 months 3 weeks ago
the more i grow in my own journey of self-discovery, the more i begin to see my situation from a higher level. author - chase

A good friend of mine, and fellow betrayed husband (yes, we met at an EMS weekend), coined it best when he said, "This isn't highs and lows; it's chutes and ladders." All of us on this journey have experienced the hope generated by progress. Then, seemingly out of nowhere, the bottom falls out and in the moment all hope seems lost.

Which way is up?

I am now 16 months out from my first...

, 5 months 3 weeks ago

Samuel shares a significant pointer for the unfaithful spouse trying to win back trust.

, 5 months 3 weeks ago

Samuel shares insight into three recoveries that have to be addressed when healing from infidelity.

, 5 months 3 weeks ago

Today in counseling I was stunned by a concept I’ve heard most my life. Similar to the old quilt that covers our bed, I became so familiar with it I no longer saw the depth of beauty in it.

My counselor asked me how I felt I was doing at “feeling my husband’s pain”. He has a way of asking a simple question and patiently waits for me to take as long as I need to respond. Having been a counselor for over 40 years, he sees right through me and my crap most days.

How am I doing with handling my husband’s pain? You mean the pain I created with MY infidelity?

In the silence of that moment I found myself...

, 6 months 1 day ago

Samuel shares insight into the tactic of 'rewriting history' and how to recover from it.

, 6 months 3 days ago

Samuel discusses the common question in recovery; are we too far gone to be healed?

, 6 months 1 week ago

Samuel discusses a trap many unfaithful spouses fall into in recovery.

, 6 months 1 week ago

Samuel shares a controversial but powerful approach to finding true healing.

, 6 months 2 weeks ago

Samuel shares insight into how to forgive the affair partner after the discovery of infidelity.

, 6 months 2 weeks ago

Samuel discusses how we can be traumatized by well meaning therapists and authority figures.

, 6 months 3 weeks ago

"Learn how to be okay
when things are not okay."

When I first heard this statement I thought it was dumb and much too simple. It was almost insulting – like trying to treat an intensive care wound with a band aid.

However, ten long months into recovery, this statement has been a foundational thought in getting through many hard days.

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, 6 months 3 weeks ago

Samuel shares insight into a common mistake couples make in recovering from infidelity or addiction.

, 6 months 3 weeks ago

Samuel shares the proper motivation for recovery work after infidelity for both spouses.

, 6 months 4 weeks ago

Samuel discusses a necessary paradigm shift if couples are going to heal from infidelity.

, 7 months 1 day ago

Samuel shares his own experience in adjusting to life after disclosure and embracing new patterns in life.

, 7 months 6 days ago

Samuel speaks to the betrayed spouse on what anger is costing them in their recovery.

, 7 months 1 week ago

Samuel shares his own experience in adjusting to life after disclosure and embracing new patterns in life.

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