Affair Recovery

When I received my first contract to publish in 2006, I never imagined the path of the next decade. The biggest 'high' of my life ended with the biggest low. For the first time in my life I'd ventured into a pursuit completely of my own making, my own dream. The story I'd spent six months crafting was considered enviable, a work worth taking the risk a publisher takes every time they...

Samuel reveals and discusses one of the biggest killers of momentum and intimacy in both recovery work and marriage.

Samuel discusses denial in repair work and how it damages both spouses.

"Send Lawyers, Guns, and Money, the $#!* has Hit the Fan"
Warren Zevon

As a Christian, I always understood marriage to be a biblical union of two people, a part of God's plan for companionship as first illustrated in the Garden of Eden. Common text book definitions note a union of two people or a combination of two or more elements. While its roots are biblical, our society recognizes it as an institution, inherent with legal rights and responsibilities.

As we all know, healing and reconciliation in this arena takes significant time and work. The problem is, the legal system we use to institutionalize marriage does not give incentive to allow time...

Samuel shares more of his own story and how rushing Samantha never worked.

Samuel shares a key recovery tool for his own healing and a relapse prevention tool.

Samuel discusses trying to control our spouse's reactions to infidelity and repair work.

Samuel uses a well known parable to illustrate what it takes to heal from betrayal.

But blessed is the one who trusts in Me alone;
the Eternal will be his confidence.
He is like a tree planted by water,
sending out its roots beside the stream.
It does not fear the heat or even drought.
Its leaves stay green and its fruit is dependable,...

Samuel shares insight into a common struggle for couples in recovery.

Samuel discusses what happens when betrayed spouses consider forgiving their spouse too early in recovery.

Samuel shares pivotal insight surrounding the need for the right process in recovering from infidelity.

Two years ago, I had my first d day. Wow, how my life has changed since. I find myself fighting darkness again lately. Perhaps it's the anniversary, perhaps its fatigue, perhaps it's a little bit of a lot of things… so I write to clear my head. This blog is simply the ramblings of a betrayed man in the weeds.

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Samuel shares the truth behind the statement: if you loved me you would have never cheated on me.