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As past participants, we want our walks through infidelity to bring hope, inspiration, and courage to your own journey.
, 1 year 2 months ago

When couples face ambivalence in either spouse it can seem like the end, when in fact, it can be positive for the relationship.

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Samuel shares long term insight and hope for couples and individuals trying to heal.

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I recently made this family favorite. The first two batches came out perfectly. On the third and final batch, the kitchen timer did not go off. I use this timer for all sorts of cooking and baking projects. It is the type where you rotate the dial past the time you want and turn back to the exact number of minutes desired. It ticks like a time bomb and rings as a school...

, 1 year 2 months ago

Samuel provides necessary support for couples who are trying to heal from infidelity.

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Samuel answers a viewer question about whether or not a spouse can really change after infidelity.

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Samuel discusses what actions a betrayed spouse can take when the unfaithful refuses to end the affair.

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Samuel shares a powerful and effective tool for individuals on both sides of infidelity to heal.

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Samuel provides a strategy for those trying to manage triggers and intrusive thoughts after disclosure.

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Samuel shares important key principles to repair the lens a betrayed spouse sees their unfaithful partner through.

, 1 year 2 months ago

Samuel discusses emotional vs physical affairs and the impact emotional affairs have on betrayed spouses.

, 1 year 3 months ago

Samuel discusses how to navigate trauma in light of recent world events.

, 1 year 3 months ago

Samuel discusses anger, the betrayed spouse, and what the unfaithful can do to mitigate that anger.

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What do the words 'I'm sorry' really mean? They are used so frequently that they don't seem to carry much weight. If you are like me, however, they are the first thing we mutter when we realize we have made a mistake or done something wrong. When it comes to the pain of infidelity, the words 'I'm sorry' have to feel downright insulting to a betrayed spouse. As they should, because it isn't enough. The truth of the matter is, it will never be enough to...

, 1 year 3 months ago

Samuel gives direction to both the betrayed and unfaithful on how to deal with isolation after disclosure.

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Samuel helps the betrayed spouse understand if an unfaithful spouse is genuinely sorry or just sorry they got caught.

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Samuel discusses a classic problem couples in crisis face when trying to heal from infidelity or addiction.

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Samuel shares insight behind the need to choose your spouse.

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Car Washes in the Dark

My husband and I have two teenagers in our house, and we are trying our best to raise them into responsible and caring adults. For those of you that have already been there and done that, I'm hoping you can look back on that time with a smile. You survived it. Teenagers, after all, can be quite fun, and they can add a lot of energy to the house.

For those of you that haven't or might not ever get a chance to raise these strange little people that look like adults and make you think they are adults (when in fact they are not), it really hasn't been as bad as some people...

, 1 year 3 months ago

Samuel discusses infidelity and how to detox from an affair partner.

, 1 year 3 months ago

Samuel helps both spouses understand how to address blind spots in repair work.

, 1 year 3 months ago
healing emotional vertigo

Sometimes, my thoughts are punishing, my brain on fire.

Have you experienced this?

I am someone who deserves to be understood and cherished rather than criticized and improved.

It is time to arrest the process of depletion caused by the trauma I have suffered. It's time to stop ignoring my body's signals and instead allow them the authority to teach me about myself, time to keep my life as simple and quiet as possible, to allow myself comforts of the senses and small pleasures:

  • Home cooking of familiar...
, 1 year 4 months ago

Samuel answers the question: "What does it mean to own it in repair work?"

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Samuel answers the question of whether the betrayed spouse should be farther along than they are.

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Unfaithful Spouses,

You have been working really hard. Since discovery, you have received a chance at a new life, and you are determined to change your behavior. You want to see crumbs of hope in your marital relationship, but all you see is pain. What is likely underneath that pain is a violation so deep that you might not even be able to comprehend it for the first year.

Maybe you feel shut out as your betrayed spouse acts in ways you don't think are...

, 1 year 4 months ago

Samuel shares insight from his own personal journey on finding personal healing and restoration.

, 1 year 4 months ago

Samuel answers a popular question from betrayed spouses.

, 1 year 4 months ago

Samuel discusses what contempt does to couples who are trying to heal from infidelity or addiction.

, 1 year 4 months ago

Samuel shares critical insight for both the unfaithful and betrayed spouse who are trying to heal.

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Samuel discusses what to do when couples feel stuck.

, 1 year 4 months ago

Samuel answers a question from an unfaithful spouse.

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