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As past participants, we want our walks through infidelity to bring hope, inspiration, and courage to your own journey.
, 4 months 2 weeks ago

Samuel discusses emotional vs physical affairs and the impact emotional affairs have on betrayed spouses.

, 4 months 2 weeks ago

Samuel discusses how to navigate trauma in light of recent world events.

, 4 months 3 weeks ago

Samuel discusses anger, the betrayed spouse, and what the unfaithful can do to mitigate that anger.

, 4 months 3 weeks ago
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What do the words 'I'm sorry' really mean? They are used so frequently that they don't seem to carry much weight. If you are like me, however, they are the first thing we mutter when we realize we have made a mistake or done something wrong. When it comes to the pain of infidelity, the words 'I'm sorry' have to feel downright insulting to a betrayed spouse. As they should, because it isn't enough. The truth of the matter is, it will never be enough to...

, 4 months 3 weeks ago

Samuel gives direction to both the betrayed and unfaithful on how to deal with isolation after disclosure.

, 4 months 4 weeks ago

Samuel helps the betrayed spouse understand if an unfaithful spouse is genuinely sorry or just sorry they got caught.

, 5 months 3 days ago

Samuel discusses a classic problem couples in crisis face when trying to heal from infidelity or addiction.

, 5 months 5 days ago

Samuel shares insight behind the need to choose your spouse.

, 5 months 1 week ago
Car Washes in the Dark

My husband and I have two teenagers in our house, and we are trying our best to raise them into responsible and caring adults. For those of you that have already been there and done that, I'm hoping you can look back on that time with a smile. You survived it. Teenagers, after all, can be quite fun, and they can add a lot of energy to the house.

For those of you that haven't or might not ever get a chance to raise these strange little people that look like adults and make you think they are adults (when in fact they are not), it really hasn't been as bad as some people...

, 5 months 1 week ago

Samuel discusses infidelity and how to detox from an affair partner.

, 5 months 1 week ago

Samuel helps both spouses understand how to address blind spots in repair work.

, 5 months 1 week ago
healing emotional vertigo

Sometimes, my thoughts are punishing, my brain on fire.

Have you experienced this?

I am someone who deserves to be understood and cherished rather than criticized and improved.

It is time to arrest the process of depletion caused by the trauma I have suffered. It's time to stop ignoring my body's signals and instead allow them the authority to teach me about myself, time to keep my life as simple and quiet as possible, to allow myself comforts of the senses and small pleasures:

  • Home cooking of familiar...
, 5 months 2 weeks ago

Samuel answers the question: "What does it mean to own it in repair work?"

, 5 months 2 weeks ago

Samuel answers the question of whether the betrayed spouse should be farther along than they are.

, 5 months 3 weeks ago
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Unfaithful Spouses,

You have been working really hard. Since discovery, you have received a chance at a new life, and you are determined to change your behavior. You want to see crumbs of hope in your marital relationship, but all you see is pain. What is likely underneath that pain is a violation so deep that you might not even be able to comprehend it for the first year.

Maybe you feel shut out as your betrayed spouse acts in ways you don't think are...

, 5 months 3 weeks ago

Samuel shares insight from his own personal journey on finding personal healing and restoration.

, 5 months 3 weeks ago

Samuel answers a popular question from betrayed spouses.

, 6 months 1 day ago

Samuel discusses what contempt does to couples who are trying to heal from infidelity or addiction.

, 6 months 3 days ago

Samuel shares critical insight for both the unfaithful and betrayed spouse who are trying to heal.

, 6 months 1 week ago

Samuel discusses what to do when couples feel stuck.

, 6 months 1 week ago

Samuel answers a question from an unfaithful spouse.

, 6 months 2 weeks ago
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Today, my heart is reminded of the pain that once was, the pain that so many of you find yourselves in today. For me, it is a distant, tender scar. It is healing, but if I stare at it long enough or touch it in just the right ways, the pain can all come rushing back.

If you are in the middle of this kind of suffering, you are likely desperate for relief of any kind. Violently painful memories have carved your heart into pieces, and maybe you can't even remember what life looked like before this whirlwind of torment...

, 6 months 2 weeks ago

Samuel discusses a trap many spouses fall into when they feel their spouse won't change.

, 6 months 2 weeks ago

Samuel discusses a pitfall many spouses fall into after the discovery of infidelity or addiction.

, 6 months 3 weeks ago

Samuel provides direction for those who feel they can't be happy again.

, 6 months 3 weeks ago

Samuel shares encouragement and perspective for those who are trying to heal.

, 6 months 4 weeks ago
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"Wondering if I will come to a happy place in surrender to self-care. Surrender to me. Myself. And I. Self-talk, positive affirmations of my worth. It's my time now. My season of me. I've given and given and given. No time for guilt over self-care anymore. Over rediscovering who I was…who I am apart from my spouse. I really am still me. How wonderful that she, the little girl inside, has not been extinguished?

Even through the incredible trauma of...

, 6 months 4 weeks ago

Samuel discusses a toxic struggle both unfaithful and betrayed spouses fall into.

, 7 months 1 day ago

Samuel shares a humorous but poignant story about shame and self hatred.

, 7 months 6 days ago

Samuel discusses tools to help the unfaithful and betrayed spouse heal despite fear of uncertainty.

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