As past participants, we want our walks through infidelity to bring hope, inspiration, and courage to your own journey.
, 2 months 2 weeks ago
affair recovery-survivors Blog-Christine-How-Will-You-Spend-Your-Time-time does not heal all wounds

"For what it's worth: it's never too late to be who you want to be. I hope you live a life you're proud of, and if you find that you're not, I hope you have...

, 2 months 3 weeks ago

Samuel shares a key viewpoint which is essential for couples to heal from infidelity or addiction.

, 2 months 3 weeks ago

Samuel gets personal today and shares how he handled the loneliness that infidelity created for him.

, 2 months 4 weeks ago

Samuel shares one of the most important tips to help couples in crisis heal.

, 3 months 8 hours ago

Samuel shares four key points to help betrayed spouses reconnect with their unfaithful spouse.

, 3 months 1 day ago
affair recovery - survivors blog - christine - what was real

Last blog I posed a thought life challenge I've heard many betrayed express. Was my life 'real'? I don't know what to believe. What was real and what wasn't? To say that my life had not been what I thought it was would be quite an understatement. Real in every way to me, yet I was in fact controlled via the withholding of vital information to believe I was safe and in the gentle care of a loving, faithful spouse....

, 3 months 4 days ago
affair recovery-survivors Blog-Elizabeth-Grief-in-Recovery-my hope is that we can all find a way to be more tender in our grief

For the unfaithful spouse, there will come a point in your recovery where you will begin your grief process. It will likely not happen at the same time or in the same way as your spouse, and it should not come as a surprise to us.

Grief is the vehicle in which we carry our pain. For betrayed spouses, grief begins immediately; they are bombarded and...

, 3 months 5 days ago

Samuel shares four key points that the unfaithful can utilize to win back their betrayed spouse's heart.

, 3 months 1 week ago

Samuel helps both spouses understand the need to survive before they can move on to the next season of repair work.

, 3 months 1 week ago
affair recovery-survivors blog-elizabeth-when it seems like everything has changed

When it comes to God, one of the most beautiful things about Him is also what I find most fascinating about Him --- He simply won't change. He doesn't budge and He is who He says He is. Yesterday, today, forever.

God does not keep office hours or change His mind on a matter. He won't get bored and He...

, 3 months 1 week ago

Samuel discusses how to prioritize our own individual healing while discussing a major struggle couples in recovery face.

, 3 months 2 weeks ago

Today Samuel shares five keys to personal and marital recovery work.

, 3 months 2 weeks ago
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How did you have the good fortune to come across Affair Recovery?

I found AR while I scoured the internet for help. Post D-day, I did what I have always done when there is a crisis in my family---research.

To be fair, first I cried.

I cried and cried and cried. I simply could not believe my husband could do such a thing; the person who was one half of the golden couple of our college. One half of the couple all our friends...

, 3 months 2 weeks ago
affairrecovery-survivors blog-elizabeth-why it is imperative to reach full disclosure

Today I am going to share the biggest mistake that I made since my last affair, and how it almost cost me everything. It was, in my opinion, even worse than my infidelity. That mistake was my inability to reach full disclosure the first time. For six weeks, I held on to secrets about my behavior and I continued to lie about what I had done...

, 3 months 2 weeks ago

Today, one of our EMS Weekend therapists, Leigh Ashley, continues her discussion on codependency and how to navigate it's complexities.

, 3 months 3 weeks ago

Today, one of our EMS Weekend therapists, Leigh Ashley, discusses a key component in recovery work: codependency.

, 3 months 3 weeks ago
affair recovery-survivors blog-christine-who knew-i will not only survive i will live to thrive to help others thrive

When I received my first contract to publish in 2006, I never imagined the path of the next decade. The biggest 'high' of my life ended with the biggest low. For the first time in my life I'd ventured into a pursuit completely of my own making, my own dream. The story I'd spent six months crafting was considered enviable, a work worth taking the risk a publisher takes every time they...

, 3 months 3 weeks ago
affair recovery-survivors Blog-Elizabeth-One-of-the-Biggest-Myths-About-Unfaithful-Wives-i cannot say i had an affair because i wanted to leave our marriage the truth is i was unfaithful because i am broke and sinful i am selfish

Research shows that there is a growing number of unfaithful women. Exact numbers are hard to come by, and I expect that will always be the case. If unfaithful spouses are lying, why would they be...

, 3 months 3 weeks ago

Samuel reveals and discusses one of the biggest killers of momentum and intimacy in both recovery work and marriage.

, 3 months 4 weeks ago

Samuel answers a viewers question and sheds light on a sensitive topic.

, 4 months 3 days ago

Samuel discusses denial in repair work and how it damages both spouses.

, 4 months 5 days ago

Samuel shares insight into what a process looks like when healing from infidelity.

, 4 months 6 days ago

"Send Lawyers, Guns, and Money, the $#!* has Hit the Fan"
Warren Zevon

As a Christian, I always understood marriage to be a biblical union of two people, a part of God's plan for companionship as first illustrated in the Garden of Eden. Common text book definitions note a union of two people or a combination of two or more elements. While its roots are biblical, our society recognizes it as an institution, inherent with legal rights and responsibilities.

As we all know, healing and reconciliation in this arena takes significant time and work. The problem is, the legal system we use to institutionalize marriage does not give incentive to allow time...

, 4 months 1 week ago
affairrecovery-survivors-blog-elizabeth-i hope that where ever you find yourself today, you are working towards acceptance

Last night we were attending church. If you are not a church goer, no judgement here. The number of times I set foot inside a church before I turned 25 was few and far between. Church can be such a healing place for many, yet such a triggering place for others. Throughout my own life I have seen so many good things done by the church. I have also...

, 4 months 1 week ago

Samuel shares more of his own story and how rushing Samantha never worked.

, 4 months 1 week ago

Samuel answers a viewers question about still communicating with an affair partner after the affair is over.

, 4 months 2 weeks ago

Samuel shares a key recovery tool for his own healing and a relapse prevention tool.

, 4 months 2 weeks ago

Samuel answers a viewers question and shares insight into when it's time to focus on your own recovery

, 4 months 3 weeks ago

Samuel discusses trying to control our spouse's reactions to infidelity and repair work.

, 4 months 3 weeks ago
affairrecovery-survivors Blog-Elizabeth-Roots-Part-2-the stories that remain untold are the ones that remain a stronghold

The heart is hopelessly dark and deceitful,
A puzzle that no one can figure out.
But I, God, search the heart and examine the mind.
I get to the heart of the human.
I get to the root of things.
I treat them as they really are,...