What's Your Next Best Step?

The easiest–and cheapest–way to start on this journey is to take our free First Steps Bootcamp. It's an online guide with 100+ pages of content and a full-length video of a mentor couple who was in as big of a mess as it can get. You'll take a big sigh of relief when you have a clear plan and learn that you're neither crazy nor alone in this journey, whichever side of the infidelity you find yourself on.

Thank you for entrusting us with this part of your journey.

I know when Steph and I were going through this back in 1984, we were in desperate need of guidance: somebody who had been through this, who knew what to do. We were floundering through the details of disclosure, and flooded conversations were the norm. We couldn't communicate, and we couldn't regulate.

It wasn't easy, but we finally found someone who had been through this, who knew what to do. That is what saved us both, and ultimately saved our marriage.

For that reason, we created First Steps Bootcamp, so that you can have something readily accessible to you with the wisdom of those who have been through it themselves. This free, self-paced program, written by experts, will help you navigate these turbulent times.

Bootcamp provides guidelines for discovery that will allow honest and productive conversations between you and your mate. It addresses which details are helpful and how to maintain safety during these conversations. It will provide you with a recovery timeline so that you know whether or not you're on course, what's normal, and what to expect. It provides reasonable expectations for this journey and for each other, because it seems at times the other person should be responding like you would, when in reality, that is not necessarily the case. It deals with the shame and powerlessness you likely feel in the face of this devastation, and helps you know what to say to your children and family.

The attachment between you and your mate has been ruptured. We encourage Bootcamp at this time because it can help stabilize the relationship just enough to determine your next steps forward on this healing journey.

Visit our the Affair Recovery Blog to hear first hand the hope others gained from the First Steps Bootcamp.
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