Is it possible to not only heal, but to have a better life than before?

Thank you so much for giving me your time. Over the past four decades of treating infidelity, I've worked with thousands of individuals and couples who have stalled in their recovery process simply because they didn't know what to do. They didn't have the necessary support to heal or even know what was possible.

In the early 80s, I became a Marriage and Family therapist, but not long after that, I actually betrayed my wife, Stephanie, and I had to face the fact I was an amazing hypocrite. I was playing the part of someone helping marriages, when in fact, I was wrecking marriages. I decided a career change was in order. I had to do whatever was necessary to stop being a home wrecker, so I began building houses. I became a home builder, both figuratively and literally.

That career change was really hard. There was so much to learn because I didn't know what to do. For instance, I learned it was critical to have detailed plans if I was going to avoid misunderstandings and unrealistic expectations. I had to get the right tools and equipment so I could do the jobs. I had to learn what materials were best for my projects. But you know the thing that helped me the most, in fact, the thing that even helped me succeed, was experienced home builders who were willing to invest in me, come along beside me, and show me how to do things; guide me through that process.

I believe rebuilding your life after infidelity is not really that different. You need a plan containing the necessary elements for recovery. You need to understand what's normal, what's not, why this happened, and whether or not it is even safe to move forward in your relationship. How do you deal with betrayal trauma? You need to know what materials are helpful in your situation. Perhaps most importantly, you need the support of others who've already recovered, who have healed, who can show you not only that healing is possible, but also model for you how to do it.

In emails to come, we will talk about trust, trauma, and your trajectory for this journey. We will introduce you to the tools you need to rebuild your life, and I encourage you to check them out.

• a vast Recovery Library, the most comprehensive resource available for finding answers to your questions
• a self-paced First Steps Bootcamp providing guidelines for having constructive conversations and finding stability
• Small group programs designed to provide support, safety, and anonymity as you heal

Affair Recovery isn't just taking one course. It isn't just an article, therapy, or a couple's weekend away. It's a comprehensive program aimed at helping the betrayed spouse, the wayward spouse, and the marriage. It includes healing for each person individually as well as addressing the issues of the couple. It shows all three entities how to use your current circumstances as a catalyst, not just for healing, but for transformation. It shows that you can build a new life even better than before.

You don't have to know where this healing journey will lead. You just need to begin the journey.

We are here for you. We have a comprehensive plan for you. We believe in you.

Here's to building a new life!

- D, NY

 

...My wife was sure she would never be able to move on after my affair especially during the first 2 months after D-Day. My D-Day was 14 months ago and this has been the hardest time of my life. The fear of losing my family was and is overwhelming. I found AR and started reading and watching videos but my wife did not want to read or get help. She was sure we would be getting divorced. I persevered and continued to read books and use the AR site and put into action everything I learned. She finally agreed to do the 7-Day Boot Camp. We later attended EMS Weekend which gave both of us incredible hope but recovery takes a long time. We are now 2 months past our D-Day 1 year anniversary and things have improved so much I cannot even believe it myself.