My husband and I attended a weekend retreat and the two of you spoke to the group, I believe it was your first time. Angela, you said something that day that I still repeat ( when Im trying to be funny). It was the one ounce of humor I experienced that weekend and it still makes me laugh. As you told your story at one point you said "I told him, someone's gonna die tonight and it ain't gonna be me". While you were being funny, I knew what you meant, it was the point of time when you simply had enough and you weren't going to be the victim in the scenario anymore. But, your ability to be humorous and laugh together up there while telling your story, made me have hope.Maybe we too would be able to look back on the worst time in our marriage and be able to laugh a little.
So , thankyou.
We are still together, 3 years later, better than ever with still room to grow. Please know the two of you had something to do with helping save a marriage. ( and the whole team that weekend too , of course).

Thank you for singing. Your words and song of redemption are powerful. It all matters.

Dear Rodney and Angela,
I am just reading and watching your video which really hit home to me. My husband was also molested as a child, by his mother, which sexualized him at a young age. It led to habitual masturbation, a first marriage that had negative sexual experiences and then a life long masturbation habit. When his mother died a few years ago he started to be filled with regret and anger towards her. At the same time he started having ED and masturbation was no longer possible. We had drifted apart and he sought out pornography to try and rekindle his sexuality and “fix” his problem. It didn’t work. He went through a year of chasing aggressive images, going into chat rooms and even watched porn with another man who wanted to try all kinds of things to his dismay. He was also getting into financial trouble and scams trying to hide his debt from me which is how all of this came out in the open. We have been working through all of this and, like Angela mentioned, journaling for both of us has helped a lot. My husband has been seeing a psychiatrist and a sex therapist and we both are going to marriage counseling. I feel I have a handle on what transpired but it has taken a lot of discovery and emotional trauma for both of us. My husband has benefited greatly with the counseling because his way of handling his past experiences has been suppression and now he is opening up with the counseling and with me. He never admitted the part with his mother until now even though when she died I felt something was terribly wrong with his reaction. Rodney’s past experiences really shed a light on how my husband became sexualized and developed a habit of masturbation which led him into a dark world when the ED set in. He couldn’t accept it and even thought he could be seriously ill. Finally, he went to a doctor and is receiving help medically as well.
Thank you for sharing your story and success. I feel we are headed toward success as well!