It is very interesting just how unprepaired some counselors to deal with infidelity. In our case we went to a christian women counselor it was a waste and if it had not been for us stopping after just three visits it could have been real bad. My wife was the unfaithful one and when we got there my wife would not say a word about her affair (at the time I thought there was only one) and the counselor just was unable to address the affair just wanted to deal with the marriage problems and wanted to loom at how I was in part part of the reason for my wife's affair. Looking back at it now I am glad we stopped as it was I was struggling with the thought that I was to blame anyway no telling how much extra harm it might have done to us if we stayed and we focused on what I was not doing and never addressed what my wife had done. About three months later we started EMSO at least I was not being told it was my fault and I was starting to do my own research and learning more about what are some of the causes and it was not me. Even with that knowledge it still took me a while to understand completely it was not me. But had we stayed with that counselor there is no telling how I might have struggled to heal and would my wife ever take responsibility? Or would it just happen again and again?
I did find healing because if what Christ did within me not my efforts. It is so very important that if you are going to see a counselor that they are very experienced in infidelity. We never went to another counselor and we are moving along very well it has also been my observations that they are not as effective as they would seem to be.
It is very interesting just
It is very interesting just how unprepaired some counselors to deal with infidelity. In our case we went to a christian women counselor it was a waste and if it had not been for us stopping after just three visits it could have been real bad. My wife was the unfaithful one and when we got there my wife would not say a word about her affair (at the time I thought there was only one) and the counselor just was unable to address the affair just wanted to deal with the marriage problems and wanted to loom at how I was in part part of the reason for my wife's affair. Looking back at it now I am glad we stopped as it was I was struggling with the thought that I was to blame anyway no telling how much extra harm it might have done to us if we stayed and we focused on what I was not doing and never addressed what my wife had done. About three months later we started EMSO at least I was not being told it was my fault and I was starting to do my own research and learning more about what are some of the causes and it was not me. Even with that knowledge it still took me a while to understand completely it was not me. But had we stayed with that counselor there is no telling how I might have struggled to heal and would my wife ever take responsibility? Or would it just happen again and again?
I did find healing because if what Christ did within me not my efforts. It is so very important that if you are going to see a counselor that they are very experienced in infidelity. We never went to another counselor and we are moving along very well it has also been my observations that they are not as effective as they would seem to be.