I am the betrayed wife, recovering from my husband's 22 year affair with the same woman. It appears that he was able to compartmentalize his relationships with her and with me and his family. His behavior has changed for the better, but I don't trust him, don't pretend to trust him. I have found the strength to forgive him and love him again, BUT I have also found the strength to leave him if I discover that the affair isn't over or if it resumes. It is difficult for me not to ask questions about their relationship. When I have asked he seems to be quite forthcoming. Now, I am at the stage that I wished it never happened.
Stop asking why or how
I am the betrayed wife, recovering from my husband's 22 year affair with the same woman. It appears that he was able to compartmentalize his relationships with her and with me and his family. His behavior has changed for the better, but I don't trust him, don't pretend to trust him. I have found the strength to forgive him and love him again, BUT I have also found the strength to leave him if I discover that the affair isn't over or if it resumes. It is difficult for me not to ask questions about their relationship. When I have asked he seems to be quite forthcoming. Now, I am at the stage that I wished it never happened.