Thanks for your advice. I am almost four years from DDay. Because we have young-ish children, one of whom has mild anxiety, I decided to salvage the marriage and stick it out. We have our good days and bad days, but I don't feel the love, support and trust that I once so blindly had for him. I don't feel like he will ever have my back, which is what I want in a life partner. And since I just turned 50, I feel like it's now or never if I want to begin to be happy for the rest of my life. I worry that if I wait until our children are grown to divorce him, I will regret missing out on a chance for a new relationship or just a new life of my own. Sadly, I cannot visualize, nor do I look forward to, growing old with him. I feel trapped. That said, I appreciate your perspective on four years vs. six years out. I will definitely take that into consideration.
Why is the onus on the betrayed?
Thanks for your advice. I am almost four years from DDay. Because we have young-ish children, one of whom has mild anxiety, I decided to salvage the marriage and stick it out. We have our good days and bad days, but I don't feel the love, support and trust that I once so blindly had for him. I don't feel like he will ever have my back, which is what I want in a life partner. And since I just turned 50, I feel like it's now or never if I want to begin to be happy for the rest of my life. I worry that if I wait until our children are grown to divorce him, I will regret missing out on a chance for a new relationship or just a new life of my own. Sadly, I cannot visualize, nor do I look forward to, growing old with him. I feel trapped. That said, I appreciate your perspective on four years vs. six years out. I will definitely take that into consideration.