I had attorneys the next day after discovery - 4 weeks ago.
She is my best friend. I love her so deeply. We had no serious problems in our relationship, but she was becoming increasingly more emotionally distant and only showed me affection when she was drinking. It was becoming palpable. As I pressed for answers as to her distance she entered a "Mid-life crisis", not sure if she could ever love anyone.
We separated for nearly a year as she was working through the midlife crisis and sex addiction (discovered by the therapist) as a result of her past sexual abuse.
I set clear and reasonable boundaries - stay celibate (both of us), stay in therapy - or I was out of the marriage.
4 weeks ago I got a text, didn't look at it and she burst into the house... she was sleeping with her therapist for the past 4 months and not going to therapy. We were moving back in together next month. We are in the middle of building a new house. I thought she was getting better and there was a light at the end of the tunnel.
So now she is set back years from ever being healthy, co-dependent me is enforcing my boundaries (divorce)... and we still talk every day. I love her. I know it's not all her fault. She wants to be back home with me... I made this my bottom.
I hope it's her bottom too.
Burned it all to the ground... let the lawyers sort it out.
Still can't believe it...
I had attorneys the next day after discovery - 4 weeks ago.
She is my best friend. I love her so deeply. We had no serious problems in our relationship, but she was becoming increasingly more emotionally distant and only showed me affection when she was drinking. It was becoming palpable. As I pressed for answers as to her distance she entered a "Mid-life crisis", not sure if she could ever love anyone.
We separated for nearly a year as she was working through the midlife crisis and sex addiction (discovered by the therapist) as a result of her past sexual abuse.
I set clear and reasonable boundaries - stay celibate (both of us), stay in therapy - or I was out of the marriage.
4 weeks ago I got a text, didn't look at it and she burst into the house... she was sleeping with her therapist for the past 4 months and not going to therapy. We were moving back in together next month. We are in the middle of building a new house. I thought she was getting better and there was a light at the end of the tunnel.
So now she is set back years from ever being healthy, co-dependent me is enforcing my boundaries (divorce)... and we still talk every day. I love her. I know it's not all her fault. She wants to be back home with me... I made this my bottom.
I hope it's her bottom too.
Burned it all to the ground... let the lawyers sort it out.
Aaaaand now for years of my own therapy.