Tania, I am living a very similar nightmare! I was married 38 Yrs before I told my spouse to pack his bags and get out!
He was havIng a relationship ,I came to discover, With a co-Worker, 20 Years his junior( Who was also married and had 2 Children Young children! My spouse had portrayed himself to me and others, As a righteous, Honest man with very high standards And good values! It was in no ones realm to believe that this judgemental, Opinionated man , Would ever cheat! He not only betrayed me and my family but all our friends who thought he loved our family and was a man that had very high standards to honor his marriage vows and the commandments! At one point in his life he wanted to be a priest!! Thats how honorable we all thought he was! You can imagine my surprise after I discovered it was all a lie! He would never come clean, So I had to hire a PI to follow him on his travels, and prove to myself that he was not who we all thought he was! He was living a double life. it sickened me to finally realize who I was actually married to, A narcissistic Pathological liar!!! I had him served with divorce papers as he arrived home from his last trist that I would be any part of. He was totally blindsided, And that is the only part that I feel quite relieved about!
This last year has been a rebuilding year that I never thought I would be doing alone. my children yet in their 30's trusted this man sooo much that they are still and will always be in disbelief! Why he felt he was entitled after 38 Years of marriage to break our vows and continue this relationship with a married women with NO regard for his family , we will never know! its just so sad for my kids and their familIes to realize what kind of person he REALLY IS!
my divorce was final in August of 2018, So I am coming up on one full year of DDay memories. I do not have in my heart to forgive , I am just working through forgetting him!
Which is almost an impossible task after almost 39 Years of being together! Keep your head up, Be strong, Find some good friends you can cry with, That seems to help! One step at a time ! Its a process no one should have bare!
Life after DDay
Tania, I am living a very similar nightmare! I was married 38 Yrs before I told my spouse to pack his bags and get out!
He was havIng a relationship ,I came to discover, With a co-Worker, 20 Years his junior( Who was also married and had 2 Children Young children! My spouse had portrayed himself to me and others, As a righteous, Honest man with very high standards And good values! It was in no ones realm to believe that this judgemental, Opinionated man , Would ever cheat! He not only betrayed me and my family but all our friends who thought he loved our family and was a man that had very high standards to honor his marriage vows and the commandments! At one point in his life he wanted to be a priest!! Thats how honorable we all thought he was! You can imagine my surprise after I discovered it was all a lie! He would never come clean, So I had to hire a PI to follow him on his travels, and prove to myself that he was not who we all thought he was! He was living a double life. it sickened me to finally realize who I was actually married to, A narcissistic Pathological liar!!! I had him served with divorce papers as he arrived home from his last trist that I would be any part of. He was totally blindsided, And that is the only part that I feel quite relieved about!
This last year has been a rebuilding year that I never thought I would be doing alone. my children yet in their 30's trusted this man sooo much that they are still and will always be in disbelief! Why he felt he was entitled after 38 Years of marriage to break our vows and continue this relationship with a married women with NO regard for his family , we will never know! its just so sad for my kids and their familIes to realize what kind of person he REALLY IS!
my divorce was final in August of 2018, So I am coming up on one full year of DDay memories. I do not have in my heart to forgive , I am just working through forgetting him!
Which is almost an impossible task after almost 39 Years of being together! Keep your head up, Be strong, Find some good friends you can cry with, That seems to help! One step at a time ! Its a process no one should have bare!