My marriage did not survive. In his words, it was easier to move on with her than it was to try and fix what was broken with us. As devastating as it was at the time, it was the best thing that ever happened to me. I got into counseling and worked on myself. I can finally say that I know his addictions and indiscretions were not my fault. I will admit, the reminders can be brutal. After 23 years of marriage there are plenty! But you learn to deal with them. The hardest part are the kids. They are the best part of your marriage and remind you of the good memories. I try and embrace that and I can at least smile now. I have since moved on and met a man of faith, strength and integrity. I can laugh again and am learning to trust again. It is a LONG, hard road, but survivable. AND...WORTH IT. Blessings to those that found the strength to BOTH fight for your marriage and blessings to those who were strong enough to move on alone if that was your path. God is good!
Dealing with reminders
My marriage did not survive. In his words, it was easier to move on with her than it was to try and fix what was broken with us. As devastating as it was at the time, it was the best thing that ever happened to me. I got into counseling and worked on myself. I can finally say that I know his addictions and indiscretions were not my fault. I will admit, the reminders can be brutal. After 23 years of marriage there are plenty! But you learn to deal with them. The hardest part are the kids. They are the best part of your marriage and remind you of the good memories. I try and embrace that and I can at least smile now. I have since moved on and met a man of faith, strength and integrity. I can laugh again and am learning to trust again. It is a LONG, hard road, but survivable. AND...WORTH IT. Blessings to those that found the strength to BOTH fight for your marriage and blessings to those who were strong enough to move on alone if that was your path. God is good!