This is what I struggle with the most and this article helped me to understand that my husband is no different than all the other unfaithful spouses. DD started 1 1/2 years ago with FULL disclosure ( I think, I mean I hope!) about a year ago. He was not forthcoming at all really, the further I dug, the more I found. I'm sure that the circumstances for most couples are different. It might be a one night stand, a week, a month or an even longer affair, but in my case it was a period of two years, with not just one woman but three women and that is making this all even harder to get over. I do however understand that he didn't think of me or even consider what he was doing to me, all the pain month after month that I went through.
We had such a great life, a life that was enviable by most and I think that played into his decisions to cheat with so many women, almost a sense do entitlement. He worked hard and he also "played" hard without a thought of me and our kids. I have triggers daily and this is never far from my thoughts, I'm just hoping that with time I can move past this and have a happy life with my husband again. Have I forgiven him, yes, but sometimes that is just not enough. I have to see remorse and the intent from him to make this better. To this day I still wonder if I really know everything - but then again, maybe I don't want to really know everything.
If it was so easy to do this not once, not twice but three times all at the same time, how easy would it be for him to do it again???
Did you think about me?
This is what I struggle with the most and this article helped me to understand that my husband is no different than all the other unfaithful spouses. DD started 1 1/2 years ago with FULL disclosure ( I think, I mean I hope!) about a year ago. He was not forthcoming at all really, the further I dug, the more I found. I'm sure that the circumstances for most couples are different. It might be a one night stand, a week, a month or an even longer affair, but in my case it was a period of two years, with not just one woman but three women and that is making this all even harder to get over. I do however understand that he didn't think of me or even consider what he was doing to me, all the pain month after month that I went through.
We had such a great life, a life that was enviable by most and I think that played into his decisions to cheat with so many women, almost a sense do entitlement. He worked hard and he also "played" hard without a thought of me and our kids. I have triggers daily and this is never far from my thoughts, I'm just hoping that with time I can move past this and have a happy life with my husband again. Have I forgiven him, yes, but sometimes that is just not enough. I have to see remorse and the intent from him to make this better. To this day I still wonder if I really know everything - but then again, maybe I don't want to really know everything.
If it was so easy to do this not once, not twice but three times all at the same time, how easy would it be for him to do it again???