You have described this situation so well! Your words are so precise and accurate. The focus was definitely on the AP whilst my cheating spouse was at home with the family. The AP was always on their mind. Their behaviour changed towards me and the children. They became cocky, condescending and extremely self centered. We are now almost 3 years post D Day and everyday the AP lives on in my head also. We have been in therapy and this has helped tremendously. My cheating spouse is very remorseful but the trauma and my scars also live on, raw and painful. The triggers are still happening but I am able to overcome these much quicker nowadays. It has definitely been the worst period of my life. Thank you for the weekly newsletters I receive. We actually sit and read these together. Some reads are still so hurtful but we are able to discuss things together which is quite comforting.
Never thinking of the spouse
You have described this situation so well! Your words are so precise and accurate. The focus was definitely on the AP whilst my cheating spouse was at home with the family. The AP was always on their mind. Their behaviour changed towards me and the children. They became cocky, condescending and extremely self centered. We are now almost 3 years post D Day and everyday the AP lives on in my head also. We have been in therapy and this has helped tremendously. My cheating spouse is very remorseful but the trauma and my scars also live on, raw and painful. The triggers are still happening but I am able to overcome these much quicker nowadays. It has definitely been the worst period of my life. Thank you for the weekly newsletters I receive. We actually sit and read these together. Some reads are still so hurtful but we are able to discuss things together which is quite comforting.