I've already mentioned a few things to our children....thoughts?

My wife and I are currently divorcing. Papers have been filed, and we are now working on custody.

I'm interested in your feedback Rick or anyone else's.

Our kids are 6, 9, and 11.

My wife had an affair with someone in our ministry. Unfortunately, it was revealed in the evening when our oldest was present(11yrs). During an unfortunate emotional outburst during the confrontation, our oldest heard me say she was kissing another man. As a result, he knows. Our other two children don't know anything regarding another man. I have made it quite clear that daddy does not want a divorce, that God hates divorce, and daddy is moving out because mommy has asked me too. I have no regret in sharing the basic truths about what is happening. I have chosen not to take co-ownership for the decision to divorce. I'm aware that I have ownership in why my wife's heart got to the place she wanted to cheat, but no ownership for her choice. I also do not want our kids to think this is something God condones. Our children have grown up in a home that has always tried to put God first and we have been heavily involved in our church since they were born. Our lives have been consumed with small groups, Service every Sunday, tons of baptism and lots of prayers. I do not share these things in any way to share how "Spiritual" we were but more so to share the environment the kid's group up in. One of my most significant concerns now is the hypocritical statement that is being made by the divorce. Another sad thing I've heard concerning divorce from friends including my ex-wife-to-be is that many of them either never knew why their parent's divorce or they blamed one parent incorrectly for years. The overwhelming feedback I've received is that many of them wish they would have known or at least known earlier. Selfish or not, my kids will not grow up thinking their dad bailed on them by moving out or wanted the break up of their home. I feel I have not slandered their mother in any way other than saying to the second oldest when he asked what happened and his mom told him to ask me. I told him mommy made a bad choice and it hurt daddy really bad, but she's a good mommy. Feedback and thoughts welcomed. I've never been through this, so I imagine I've made and will make mistakes.