I can feel your pain and desperation in your written word and am so sorry that you are suffering. But, do not make this bigger than it needs to be. Your wife had a fantasy that did not turn into reality. This relationship is still salvageable if you really want it to be. Your wife has not committed a physical sin and you are not suffering the consequences of that pain, or an illegitimate child; or an STD; or a divorce; or her being labelled a home breaker or slut. Don't wait for her to chase you - go grab your lovely wife and show her the man that is still inside of you and the desire that you still have for her. If she pushes you away, talk to her. Let her read what you have written. Tell her that this is mendable if she really puts some effort in. And, remember, that God is only there to guide you both, it is up to you two to make this work. Far far worse things can happen to cause a broken heart, believe me!!! Just think how you would feel if your wife were to die tomorrow - would you wish that you have put some perspective on your problems, talked it out and really enjoyed your remaining years together? If so, don't take the risk of only realising once its too late. Love, cherish and hopefully forgive your wife - don't give her a reason to engage in any more fantasies. Good luck.
Don't give up - talk
I can feel your pain and desperation in your written word and am so sorry that you are suffering. But, do not make this bigger than it needs to be. Your wife had a fantasy that did not turn into reality. This relationship is still salvageable if you really want it to be. Your wife has not committed a physical sin and you are not suffering the consequences of that pain, or an illegitimate child; or an STD; or a divorce; or her being labelled a home breaker or slut. Don't wait for her to chase you - go grab your lovely wife and show her the man that is still inside of you and the desire that you still have for her. If she pushes you away, talk to her. Let her read what you have written. Tell her that this is mendable if she really puts some effort in. And, remember, that God is only there to guide you both, it is up to you two to make this work. Far far worse things can happen to cause a broken heart, believe me!!! Just think how you would feel if your wife were to die tomorrow - would you wish that you have put some perspective on your problems, talked it out and really enjoyed your remaining years together? If so, don't take the risk of only realising once its too late. Love, cherish and hopefully forgive your wife - don't give her a reason to engage in any more fantasies. Good luck.