I appreciate this article, especially the analogy of throwing bits of dirt on the betrayed-as opposed to the full dumping. I am the betrayed in my relationship- my marriage of 23 years. There is so much I don’t know, and so much that I’m left wondering since discovering some of my husband’s unacceptable behaviors the past few years. I literally only know what I have “found” or discovered on my own. It weighs on me all the time. I’m at my breaking point where I’ve told him the only way I can see us moving forward and essentially “starting over” would be with a guided, full disclosure led by an experienced mediator or therapist. And even with that I cannot make any promises.
So far I haven’t found anyone in my area to facilitate this, and honestly I’m not sure he’s willing. And if he is, how do I believe what he’s telling me in THERE? There have been so many lies…
Stuck
I appreciate this article, especially the analogy of throwing bits of dirt on the betrayed-as opposed to the full dumping. I am the betrayed in my relationship- my marriage of 23 years. There is so much I don’t know, and so much that I’m left wondering since discovering some of my husband’s unacceptable behaviors the past few years. I literally only know what I have “found” or discovered on my own. It weighs on me all the time. I’m at my breaking point where I’ve told him the only way I can see us moving forward and essentially “starting over” would be with a guided, full disclosure led by an experienced mediator or therapist. And even with that I cannot make any promises.
So far I haven’t found anyone in my area to facilitate this, and honestly I’m not sure he’s willing. And if he is, how do I believe what he’s telling me in THERE? There have been so many lies…