I understand completely! Is it cheating if you act upon your desire for revenge? After all, the marriage contract has already been broken by him. There is no marriage. The contract no longer exists. I think of it as a teachable moment. A chance for your spouse to finally get it. A chance for the roles to be reversed and for him to experience the pain and you the guilt. Only, you probably won't feel much guilt considering the circumstances. Luckily for my husband, unlike him, the idea of casual sex is repugnant to me. Sex is not like a handshake to me, or scratching an itch. However, I have sworn to him that he will "get it" one way or another. I think he is starting to, finally.
Revenge
I understand completely! Is it cheating if you act upon your desire for revenge? After all, the marriage contract has already been broken by him. There is no marriage. The contract no longer exists. I think of it as a teachable moment. A chance for your spouse to finally get it. A chance for the roles to be reversed and for him to experience the pain and you the guilt. Only, you probably won't feel much guilt considering the circumstances. Luckily for my husband, unlike him, the idea of casual sex is repugnant to me. Sex is not like a handshake to me, or scratching an itch. However, I have sworn to him that he will "get it" one way or another. I think he is starting to, finally.