Affair Recovery

I too am a recovering wayward spouse. I could darn near have written what you wrote for the reasons you had an affair. I have dealt with the same topic on my blog in many ways What is most vexing to many betrayed spouses is that they confuse our "reasons" for the affair with an "excuse". I have had this debate with my wife and others. Marital neglect, emotional disconnection and my own internal deficits and issues WERE the reasons I had an affair, but not an excuse. I am 100% responsible for my poor choices. But my wife has acknowledged that she is 50% responsible for the state of our marriage at the time that created a dangerous vacuum and emotional distance between us that created the opportunity for me to do what I did. It's hard thing for many Betrayeds to understand. But your story..your reasons...are very very common. Few men cheat for sexual reasons. Men and women cheat largely for the same reasons -- critical emotional needs in the marriage unmet. thank you for your entry here. It will help people.