Affair Recovery

I think he just loved the 'idea' of her. you can't love a person you don't really know. he loved a fantasy...that's what he loved...in my opinion. my husband had an affair too I found out the first day it happened...he was also already saying he loved her and she loved him...I told him no you don't. you don't really know each other. you know what you want to know...few months later he says he doesn't love her and he's over her...that to me proves it isn't really love. just lust...fantasy...lust.