I heard the same from my husband...
He has also forgotten all the ways he sabotaged our intimacy and then blamed me for not being intimate with him,,,, he insisted we had not had sex since our daughter was born...forgetting about my miscarriage ...
He deceived and sabotaged for 10 years...
I was helplessly alienated by the ways he and his mistress redefined who I was(and her husband was) to justify their need for one another.
Proverbs 7 ...
The world and certainly the church needs men like you to tell it like it is... The minute you don't think you are capable of this or that is the minute it can happen to you all the more...
That is why accountability is so important. Transparency with trusted people...
Heard that,