Here is a little more background. I confessed this past February. We are seeing a counselor and have been to a marriage restoration retreat, but we made a mistake when we were in the initial throws of discovery by not going to a counselor right away. He has experience with infidelity counseling and while he is a professional counselor he is also guided by Biblical principals. This is the second counsleor we tried, the first was taking sides against my wife. He has been very good so far not taking sides and being objective. He has us reading Love and Respect right now as a homework assignment. She just still does not see this as that much of an issue. We are working through recovery / restoration with him as well, and has helped her work through the action of forgiveness. We have only really scratched the surface on this this issue because she needed to come to a place where she could begin to work on us and not just feelling lost in the incredible pain that I have caused her. Right now we are planning on a total of 18 months of counseling every other week. We set a goal so we would understand that our marriage cannot be fixed in just a few sessions. It is so difficult to continue to work on things when I feel like I am making monumental changes to fix myself and she continues to do the very things that make me want to give up.
Samuel
Here is a little more background. I confessed this past February. We are seeing a counselor and have been to a marriage restoration retreat, but we made a mistake when we were in the initial throws of discovery by not going to a counselor right away. He has experience with infidelity counseling and while he is a professional counselor he is also guided by Biblical principals. This is the second counsleor we tried, the first was taking sides against my wife. He has been very good so far not taking sides and being objective. He has us reading Love and Respect right now as a homework assignment. She just still does not see this as that much of an issue. We are working through recovery / restoration with him as well, and has helped her work through the action of forgiveness. We have only really scratched the surface on this this issue because she needed to come to a place where she could begin to work on us and not just feelling lost in the incredible pain that I have caused her. Right now we are planning on a total of 18 months of counseling every other week. We set a goal so we would understand that our marriage cannot be fixed in just a few sessions. It is so difficult to continue to work on things when I feel like I am making monumental changes to fix myself and she continues to do the very things that make me want to give up.