A good friend would encourage his love for you. A good friend would not pull him away from his covenant with you and God. She is corrupting his sense of right and wrong by the mere fact she encourages him toward herself. Her position is the most dangerous factor here. It obscures how wrong and corrupted their logic has become. As my husbands AP used to tell him: Their affair isn't a sin, it's love, and love comes from God, therefore God doesn't think their sneaking, and lying and cheating was wrong. Please.... sophistry at its finest. None is as blind as the one who doesn't want to see.
Please don't forget who you are through whatever may come. I've learned the hard way that people "doing God's work" aren't necessarily completely embracing God's will. It has left me somewhat disillusioned with the naivete I held in my heart that church was a safe place from sin.
The only thing that broke through my husband's fog, as he says, was when he had an opportunity to see me in a different light. Even while trying to hold on to his false justifications for the affair, he perceived my love for him. He saw I stopped fighting against him, and was instead calling him back to our marriage with prayer and patience. He saw the pain I was in, and the truth of my words rang in his head until the spell broke. He remembered what we'd built, and the sacrifices I'd made for him. His guilt still prevented him from admitting his fallacies, but at least he was starting to clear his mind from the toxic lies and lust that'd held him by her side. Little by little he began to see what was true and what was false. He remembered that the things he denied me saying or doing for him had been there all along. He was able to see past his resentment and recall how I showed him my love every day. How I had not really been tearing him down, or diminishing him as she'd led him to believe. He remembered all the times I had reached out to him and been left hanging by him, and oh, how that turned him right around. Don't stop praying. I will pray for you and for all of us to make it through this devastation.
Be prepared, Elizabeth. Hold on to God because your life will depend on that faith and love. If he doesn't turn away from this dangerous path, you will be hearing many painful things. All of them untrue, unfair, and undeserved. Don't forget what you are, that you are better in a million ways than anyone who would knowingly insert herself or himself between a married couple.
But don't forget, God sees it all, and He will discern their true hearts. He will deliver you from this chaos if you never let go of Him. Remember Hebrews 4: 12-13 reads-
"12- Indeed, the word of God is living and effective, sharper than any two-edged sword, penetrating even between soul and spirit, joints and marrow, and able to discern reflections and thoughts of the heart
13- No creature is concealed from him, but everything is naked and exposed to the eyes of him to whom we must render an account."
What God sees being done wrong and in His name will be set right in due time.
There is nothing hidden
A good friend would encourage his love for you. A good friend would not pull him away from his covenant with you and God. She is corrupting his sense of right and wrong by the mere fact she encourages him toward herself. Her position is the most dangerous factor here. It obscures how wrong and corrupted their logic has become. As my husbands AP used to tell him: Their affair isn't a sin, it's love, and love comes from God, therefore God doesn't think their sneaking, and lying and cheating was wrong. Please.... sophistry at its finest. None is as blind as the one who doesn't want to see.
Please don't forget who you are through whatever may come. I've learned the hard way that people "doing God's work" aren't necessarily completely embracing God's will. It has left me somewhat disillusioned with the naivete I held in my heart that church was a safe place from sin.
The only thing that broke through my husband's fog, as he says, was when he had an opportunity to see me in a different light. Even while trying to hold on to his false justifications for the affair, he perceived my love for him. He saw I stopped fighting against him, and was instead calling him back to our marriage with prayer and patience. He saw the pain I was in, and the truth of my words rang in his head until the spell broke. He remembered what we'd built, and the sacrifices I'd made for him. His guilt still prevented him from admitting his fallacies, but at least he was starting to clear his mind from the toxic lies and lust that'd held him by her side. Little by little he began to see what was true and what was false. He remembered that the things he denied me saying or doing for him had been there all along. He was able to see past his resentment and recall how I showed him my love every day. How I had not really been tearing him down, or diminishing him as she'd led him to believe. He remembered all the times I had reached out to him and been left hanging by him, and oh, how that turned him right around. Don't stop praying. I will pray for you and for all of us to make it through this devastation.
Be prepared, Elizabeth. Hold on to God because your life will depend on that faith and love. If he doesn't turn away from this dangerous path, you will be hearing many painful things. All of them untrue, unfair, and undeserved. Don't forget what you are, that you are better in a million ways than anyone who would knowingly insert herself or himself between a married couple.
But don't forget, God sees it all, and He will discern their true hearts. He will deliver you from this chaos if you never let go of Him. Remember Hebrews 4: 12-13 reads-
"12- Indeed, the word of God is living and effective, sharper than any two-edged sword, penetrating even between soul and spirit, joints and marrow, and able to discern reflections and thoughts of the heart
13- No creature is concealed from him, but everything is naked and exposed to the eyes of him to whom we must render an account."
What God sees being done wrong and in His name will be set right in due time.