Affair Recovery

K, thank you for reaching out. my thoughts would be, it's been long enough. he needs the right kind of help. it's not that he's detoxing as much as he is stuck and does not have the capacity to fix himself, wake himself up, heal himself, or "get it" as many say. he needs a third party to say what you cannot say and needs an expert at this point. i'd tell him something to the effect of "if you are not willing to get help, (like attend an ems weekend as your situation is definitely urgent enough) then we are done and i'll be filing by the end of the week." if he is not willing to get help friend, then he is not safe, and you are in a dangerous situation. you need expert, specialized care, not just general counseling. if i was you, and if he won't get help, i'm sorry to have to say there is little help he will change or make any adjustments at all. does that make sense? i hate to be that blunt, but feel like i need to due to the urgency of your situation and his unwillingness to change. he cant change really, he needs help from someone like Rick to in fact change. hope that helps you. thank you again for reading and for posting.