I have been playing the waiting game for 6 months. My husband confessed his affair last August, and moved out a week later saying it was to make things easier on me. The affair had lasted 5 months with a co-worker. He took a 6 month lease and was supposed to move back at the end of February. He has now changed to a month-to-month lease and I have no idea how much longer we will live apart. He knows I want him to return but now says it is due to work issues and his staff are working from his house and he doesn't want them at our house. He also threw away his wedding ring just over a month ago during an argument and I found it and tried to return it to him about a week later. He said he doesn't want it back until he can fully be my husband again; blaming it on work issues. He claims the affair has been over since he told me, but they still work together and I have no "safety" in that I only see him when he decides. I told him I forgave him for the affair. But I don't believe I can forgive him if it has continued on these past 6 months while I've been trying to heal and cope with the situation. I'm afraid to not believe him as I have no proof. So I've just been waiting and taking each day as it comes and hoping.....always hoping.
Waiting game
I have been playing the waiting game for 6 months. My husband confessed his affair last August, and moved out a week later saying it was to make things easier on me. The affair had lasted 5 months with a co-worker. He took a 6 month lease and was supposed to move back at the end of February. He has now changed to a month-to-month lease and I have no idea how much longer we will live apart. He knows I want him to return but now says it is due to work issues and his staff are working from his house and he doesn't want them at our house. He also threw away his wedding ring just over a month ago during an argument and I found it and tried to return it to him about a week later. He said he doesn't want it back until he can fully be my husband again; blaming it on work issues. He claims the affair has been over since he told me, but they still work together and I have no "safety" in that I only see him when he decides. I told him I forgave him for the affair. But I don't believe I can forgive him if it has continued on these past 6 months while I've been trying to heal and cope with the situation. I'm afraid to not believe him as I have no proof. So I've just been waiting and taking each day as it comes and hoping.....always hoping.