We are 3 weeks past D-day, and it has been almost 1 week since my unfaithful husband's last contact with the ap. He says he has cut off all contact, but it hasn't been that long, and he just groans around the house and mutters curse words under his breath. We have two elementary age kids which is why I've let him stay in the basement, but its creating instability for our kids. My daughter came running into my bedroom in the middle of the night saying she had a bad dream, she ran away and got adopted and I was trying to find her. Those kinds of dreams are not her usual happy and innocent type dreams. I don't know how long to be "patient" to let my husband get over his ap, and how long to stop "waiting".
Should I have kicked him out so he feels the loss more? We lived out of the house for the 1st week, just letting him see the kids at sports practice or a quick stop home. The 2nd week, we lived in the same house, then he got back in touch with his ap, he got kicked out for 1 night (which is when he contacted ap) and how we are finishing up the 3rd week. I told him his f-ing actions over the past year, and current behavior are creating all this instability for our kids and told him about the dream. He blames me because he says its my fault he has to sleep in the basement. If you have any advice, would so appreciate it.
Need advice on waiting...
We are 3 weeks past D-day, and it has been almost 1 week since my unfaithful husband's last contact with the ap. He says he has cut off all contact, but it hasn't been that long, and he just groans around the house and mutters curse words under his breath. We have two elementary age kids which is why I've let him stay in the basement, but its creating instability for our kids. My daughter came running into my bedroom in the middle of the night saying she had a bad dream, she ran away and got adopted and I was trying to find her. Those kinds of dreams are not her usual happy and innocent type dreams. I don't know how long to be "patient" to let my husband get over his ap, and how long to stop "waiting".
Should I have kicked him out so he feels the loss more? We lived out of the house for the 1st week, just letting him see the kids at sports practice or a quick stop home. The 2nd week, we lived in the same house, then he got back in touch with his ap, he got kicked out for 1 night (which is when he contacted ap) and how we are finishing up the 3rd week. I told him his f-ing actions over the past year, and current behavior are creating all this instability for our kids and told him about the dream. He blames me because he says its my fault he has to sleep in the basement. If you have any advice, would so appreciate it.