Early on after D-Day, to ensure an "end" to the affair, I ask the unfaithful spouse, together with his hurt spouse, a letter to the AP. This serves a couple of good purposes. One is to demonstrate to the hurt spouse that the unfaithful spouse is willing to end the affair with regret. And secondly, it provides a means for discussion between the two for the mentioned topics of this article. Most always this has a very positive outcome in treatment.
"Dear Jane or John, I have made a decision. I want to be with my wife (husband) and family. I no longer want to continue a relationship with you or keep any secrets from my wife (husband). Everything is out in the open and disclosed. I realize now that I used poor judgment in getting involved in this in the first place and I regret that and the pain it has caused my wife (husband) and family. We plan to get help to understand how I could ever have betrayed my own values as well as my family.
I will no longer have any contact with you and I ask that you not contact me. I will no longer respond to any emails, texts, calls or any other attempt to communicate with me. In fact, I will show all emails or texts to my wife (husband) and together, we will decide the course of action to take should they continue.
Letter of goodbye
Early on after D-Day, to ensure an "end" to the affair, I ask the unfaithful spouse, together with his hurt spouse, a letter to the AP. This serves a couple of good purposes. One is to demonstrate to the hurt spouse that the unfaithful spouse is willing to end the affair with regret. And secondly, it provides a means for discussion between the two for the mentioned topics of this article. Most always this has a very positive outcome in treatment.
"Dear Jane or John, I have made a decision. I want to be with my wife (husband) and family. I no longer want to continue a relationship with you or keep any secrets from my wife (husband). Everything is out in the open and disclosed. I realize now that I used poor judgment in getting involved in this in the first place and I regret that and the pain it has caused my wife (husband) and family. We plan to get help to understand how I could ever have betrayed my own values as well as my family.
I will no longer have any contact with you and I ask that you not contact me. I will no longer respond to any emails, texts, calls or any other attempt to communicate with me. In fact, I will show all emails or texts to my wife (husband) and together, we will decide the course of action to take should they continue.
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