You know the right thing to do. If I got all your info correctly, it sounds like it's time for an ultimatum. DO NOT let the fear of losing him or him choosing her stop you from standing up for yourself. "Having him" but not really having him is basically the same thing. He must choose one of you and don't let him take you down that road where he says he's choosing you but still seeing her. Nothing can start healing until he stops what he's doing. He sounds deeply enmeshed in the affair fog and the only thing I know to end that is to make him make his choice and having you both is not a choice available.
You know the right thing to
You know the right thing to do. If I got all your info correctly, it sounds like it's time for an ultimatum. DO NOT let the fear of losing him or him choosing her stop you from standing up for yourself. "Having him" but not really having him is basically the same thing. He must choose one of you and don't let him take you down that road where he says he's choosing you but still seeing her. Nothing can start healing until he stops what he's doing. He sounds deeply enmeshed in the affair fog and the only thing I know to end that is to make him make his choice and having you both is not a choice available.